Am I a dick for finding friend annoying?

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I feel like she always kind of manipulates a situation to have it her way.
Example: I didn't want to hang out because I had lots of work on and was knackered. So she asked if she could borrow my tent which is a bit odd because she lives right next door to her parents and brothers and they have tents, but okay. I said okay then, but just a warning, I wont be able to hang out or anything because I have lots of work on. She then turned up with a bottle of prosecco because we had just moved. I totally get that this was a lovely gesture, but I think it was also so I would obviously then open it and we would have drinks (which we did).

Now shes been nagging me the past 2 weeks to bring me my tent back - again I guess this is so we can hang out because her house and garage are huge it's not like she has storage problems.

I feel like such a dick and mean but I just always feel quite strong armed into hanging out when really I have 4 or 5 close friends I like to see and put the world to rights over dinner or a pint and other than that I just like to chill by myself, I dont want to be forced to hang out.

She does sound annoying but you do sound like you are bringing it on yourself. I consider myself fairly polite but I wouldn’t feel like I was rude to not open/share a gift of wine upon receiving it! Some people have no boundaries- it sounds a little like neither you nor your friend have a strong sense of boundaries, as you struggle to assert yours and she struggles to read/be aware of yours.

Oh stop it. The aa will come and change the wheel, or her relatives who live next door. Just say no.

Stop it now, she called round to drop tent then ended up staying for dinner and now she's staying the night because she has a flat tyre .
Are you serious next you'll be saying she's moved in .
Sympathy gone now grow a backbone!!

Yanbu.
I like people on my terms ,otherwise I’d happily not see another living soul for weeks
That makes me sound like a dick but I suppose I am, really shrug

Have you thought maybe she's lonely?

Maybe she is. That still doesn’t mean the OP is always obliged to spend time with her.