anyone daring to write about a girl who likes glitter and rainbow would be accused of pushing the stereotypes and people would still moan.
I have this problem with one theoretical series, because I really, REALLY want to write a feminine, pretty, shoes-shopping-lipstick-gossip girl who is unashamedly so, as well as being clear-headed, intelligent, brave and emotional.
(problem is, as I've said, I've created her - I haven't imagined her)
I honestly think one of the reasons that lots of authors are saying they find it easier to write male leads is because that is what they have been exposed to more in literature. It’s a self perpetuating cycle!
For me, it tends to go that I have days where I feel like writing F1, days like writing M1. Then I hit my stride with M2's plotline, so pursue that for a few days. Sometimes their voices speak more clearly to me than others. Sometimes their personalities aren't speaking very distinctly at all, but the plot is really flowing, so you write loads, then have to correct it for their personality later. Sometimes the opposite - the dialogue is zinging around the page, but there's no actual plot contribution, so if it's good, you find a place to put it.
(writers really do sound nuts, don't they?)