So I finally left!!! AIBU to take my things whilst he's in custody ??

[Sweetpeach3]

Ok so reading my last post mums. Today was my final straw. Was so minor What happened but I thought so you know what FUCK THIS AND FUCK YOU IM DONE AND IM GONE !!!
rang the police. Told them everything and actually made a statement and pressing charges. Iv never ever ever done this before but I'm totally fucking done I need something to drastically change an him to realise this isn't right !
We had an argument in his car on the way to my hospital appointment an he said I'm a slag for having 3 children to him so my response was "but it's okay for you to have 7 to any Tom dick or Harry" so he threw a plastic bottle in my face. I opened his car door until he pulled over and walked off. End of. He was circling my house for a while an then gave up - I blocked his number etc so he couldn't ring me
I'd phoned police in the mean time and when they finally shown up he was still driving past my house so knew he was getting arrested then he seen them on his cameras at his house anyway. But Iv gave them my old phones and pictures and as much evidence of his controlling abusive etc behaviour as I can as when he was asked for his phone he told them he didn't have it (hid the car and his phone before he went back his house to be arrested - very strange if you ask me??)

They told me I can only take essentials from his and if I want anything else I would have to sort it through him - I have a shit load of things at his house like all my new baby stuff - the baby he wants nothing to do with anyway but he's said I can't take anything he just wants me go back , the police have assisted me but only to get bare minimum for the kids. The officer said I'm not breaking the law but it could go against me in court if I go without them their an take everything but they can't do that without his concent anyway so I'm hitting a brick wall

Do I just go take all MY stuff bite the bullet an get someone to video it so it's proof I havnt touched / damaged anything of his or just wait and argue the toss for the next few months when iv got 2 toddlers and 7 months pregnant to try get my things back and having to prove item by item in court
It's only my clothes and my big pictures iv had made of the kids and then the baby's new crib Iv just bought and my sons car table my parents got him at Xmas as he and my DD adore it making trains on etc. He can have the rest and shove it where the sun doesn't shine but I'm not made of money to go buy all this again....
help???

Well done on leaving him

Well done - be strong now ❤️ the hard begins on keeping away from him when you have your low points

He's been realised on bail. He can't come near me but can contact me via 3rd party to see the kids. Iv told his mum give us both a few days calm down an get things sorted then il ring her an see where we all stand. I can't get much fairer then this. He denied doing anything to me like taking money, hitting me, breaking my belongings etc but I kind of knew this anyway.... just feel like utter shit this last hour Iv just sat and cried with the kids. I wish it didn't have to come to this but I hope something actually happens and he gets charged but I really can't see it. It's his word against mine.... an he knows how to play the system.
Just gunago bed with my baby's an have cuddles I think 😢

I couldn't understand a word of OP. Why do you live in separate houses? Why do you have to leave if you don't live together? I'm totally confused, I just couldn't make sense of it, I'm sorry

@shessobrave why respond with such a bitchy comment? If you don't understand then just click on a different thread.
There may be a few mistakes in the OPs grammar but 3 pages worth of people have understood, so perhaps the problem is with your reading skills? I recommend BBC bitesize.

Did that feel good @Shessobrave? Giving someone a kick while they’re down? Christ how shite must your life be if that’s how you get your kicks. Plenty of others understood the op, if you didn’t understand it then why did you bother commenting?

OP that’s great he can’t come near you or contact you. If he does, even indirectly, report him straight away. And stay strong. Cuddle up with those kiddies and remember today is the first day of the rest of your lives free of that monster

Shessobrave, the OP kept paying rent on her first home, which her ex wasn’t aware of. That’s why she talks about two different homes.

I don't think shessobrave was being bitchy - it struck me as a genuine attempt to understand.

OP - I'm glad you've managed to put a bt of space between yourself and this waste-of-skin man. You are bound to feel upset - you must have been so stressed and keyed-up about this. To actually have done it, informed the police and stuck to your guns will have left you exhausted.

Having your nerves strung like piano wire means you need a release - tears are a good way to ultimately feel better. Let it go and you will feel stronger - and be stronger.

He will never see what he has done to you, he will never change either, so please leave because you need to not to try make him see. You deserve so much more than this, and as for calling you a s l@g, absolutely vile little muppet he is.💐

How are you today OP?

Thank you all for your messages. I just need to stay strong an get on with things I guess! Il manage I always do lol

@Princessfaffalot I'm not to bad today thank you. had a lazy day an done nothing so that's been nice as I never usually get those, it's more of a night time and goin bed alone it hits me because I'm on my own. So used to havin a lump of lard next to me or moaning at me. So may just rob my mums dog for a few days il soon get pissed off again with the snoring an someone taking up the whole bed. Teach myself a lesson 😂🤷🏼‍♀️ xx

Aw it’ll take some getting used to, life without that twat. But not only will you get used to it you’ll be soooo much happier. Yes borrow the dog, they’re a great comfort and probably smell better! Glad you’re doing ok x