To think this is rude and to walk off every time they do this from now on?

[PennyandtheJetz]

I often see a friend, A, on the school run and walk with her and chat.

If another friend, B, comes along, she always greets A, and ignores the fact that I'm there and her and A instantly start having a conversation and ignore me. If I say hello to B she ignores me.

This morning I'd had enough and just walked off.

AIBU to think it's rude and to just walk off each time they do this from now on? To add, I initially introduced A and B to each other and have known B much longer than I've known A.

I did try to talk but they were both so absorbed in their chat they ignored me.

You've handled it well. Fuck 'em both, distance, walk away and don't look back, they're not friends, including A.

B was definitely one of the playground bitches at school, shame some never grow out of it.

Yes I’d walk away every time, they are rude so why should you be polite?

If I were you and I said Hello to B and she ignored me I'd probably keep saying "Hello B" until she answered

If it happens again I would say loudly as B approached. "Here comes B I'll leave you to it as she is very rude and won't talk to me!" 🤣 🤣 🤣

I hate it when people do this Op- it's them that are rude not you. Ignorant f-s! Find some new friends.

You handled it exactly as I would have done and weren't rude at all, unlike them. You had two options: let them treat you like shit, or show you were above it all.

If they are calling you then there is no problem, you hardly know B are you sure there aren’t any hearing issues ? Because it’s odd that she would ignore an hello then ring you to hang out??

Rtft!
Op.has known B longer than A. She introduced them!

What's she supposed to do just walk along being ignored?
A stops talking to her and starts up a convo with B excluding op and B doesn't even acknowledge Ops presence. Of course that's a problem.
Would you walk along with people who aare deliberately ignoring you? Feck that my time is more valuable than waste it on rude people hanging around waiting for them to talk to me.

I am so glad I survived the school gate mafia!! They are rude and ignorant!! You def did the right thing ...not rude to walk away from people ignoring you ! If either ask, I would be tempted to say that you felt they were having a private conversation as they didn’t include or acknowledge you !!

If you are walking with A and you spy B coming over I would say to A

“I’ll be off now. I don’t want to intrude on your mutual adoration” then walk off before B arrives

Then don’t walk with A again.

If A asks at any point what you mean. I would tell her that you think she is do in love with B that everything and everyone disappears around them when they talk.

On second thoughts do you think A and B are in love and you are playing gooseberry when you are around 😂😂😂

OP - given they apparently have no compunction about blatant rudeness, why should you care even if you were 'rude?' They don't. Your handling of this situation was spot on and yes, to answer your post, this is what I would continue doing. In fact, I'd go one further and give the pair of them a wide berth in future. Make a big deal of this and it will be manna from heaven to the types who thrive on drama, and it seems B does, if her 'grand' gestures are anything to go by. It will annoy them far more if you just breeze past and show them you have no time for them at all.

As for the PP with the rude husband, your MiL rocks! How I wish she were mine ...

Fuck the pair of them! How rude.

You did the right thing OP. Fade them out of your life, keep your distance, be frostily polite and no more from now on. Don't dwell on it though.

@Fucksandflowers can I ask why? That's really unkind

I don't do it to deliberately upset people or be rude or anything, I can't help it.

I have bad anxiety disorder and very poor social skills.
Although I try to be 'sociable' I'm not comfortable around people unless I know them exceptionally well.

I find it hard to cope in a group and if I'm talking to one and more join I end up standing awkwardly not saying anything or engaging too much in conversation with person 1 whilst ignoring person 2.

I often don't even realise quite what I've done until it's too late.

E.g. There is a really nice woman I sometimes talk to at school, on this occasion I was engrossed in conversation with another mum, she had her dog with her and I was chatting about the dog and the second mum turned up and I smiled at her and carried on talking.

After a few minutes I sensed she was a bit off and the dog woman looked a bit uncomfortable and I knew I'd offended her.

Really didn't mean to!

I imagine they both think I am exceedingly rude and up my own backside but it's really not the case at all, im just really anxious and a bit socially inept.

You were not rude to walk off if they were ignoring you.

Walk alone. Don't allow people to do this to you, nor indicate that they've upset you. You aren't schoolgirls.

I'd ignore both personally

To be honest if they did this to me I would also walk off, but not before I told. B that I was sick of her rude behaviour, that she is not a good example to the children and they both need to apologise to you

OP, no you weren't rude. You did exactly the right thing and I suggest you do the exact same thing from now on. No snidey comments, no bitching, no sneering - just keep it light and be as vague as you possibly can be. Would you be friends if you met elsewhere? Maybe the only thing in common is that you all reproduced at roughly the same time. It's not a reason to be friends, but you don't have to be enemies either. An airy and irritatingly vague "oh I can't stop and chat, byeeeeee ladies" does wonders.

I would have to say something to A and B along the lines of "Have you both noticed that whenever you're together, whoever else you're with gets ignored? It's quite hurtful." and then leave. It's up to them if they choose to reflect on their own rudeness.

A friend of mine does this to some extent. Say we are meeting a third person whom we both know, for lunch. She goes into overdrive about the other person, focusing completely on them. I don't know if she realises she is doing it. She is a really nice person in every other way. I mostly just meet her now one to one, it's easier. OP, you were not rude. Leave them to it.

Yep definitely rude however some people do this without thinking so if you can give them a chance to realize what they are doing it will save the friendship.

Yep it has happened to me two or three times - fucking rude.

You were not rude to walk off. THEY were the rude ones.

I think if it happens again I'd be tempted to say to friend A, ohh look, here comes B, shall I walk off so you can both ignore me again. Then walk off! Neither of them are worth it.

God I'm so pleased my pair are both in secondary and I don't have to deal with this shit anymore

Willow2017
The op said quite clearly she doesn’t know B just had known her a fraction longer than A

To add, I initially introduced A and B to each other and have known B much longer than I've known A

B doesn't 'hardly know me'. As I said in my post, I knew B before I knew A and introduced them

Op has been pretty clear on this. "Much longer" does not = "a fraction longer"

Which thread are you reading?