To not be showered and dressed by 7:30am

[B3ck89]

My 8 year old gets picked up by his mini bus around 8am for school every day, they park right out front and hes old enough to walk over to the bus and from the bus to the door.
Since it's been getting cold Most mornings I'm still in my dressing gown because I dont have time to get washed and dressed by half 7 - only because my toddler breastfeeds right up until I get up to make sure my son is dressed, do breakfast, lunch etc by then its almost time for the bus to come.
And my partner wakes him up while hes getting ready for work, to start getting ready for school while I'm sorting my toddler
It dont help my toddler is so moody in the morning, and wont accept daddy.
It does bother me what the driver may be thinking when I'm not dressed I stand kind of behind the curtain so she dont see and I wave him off.
Should i start making the effort?
In summer it wasn't so bad because i would just chuck on a shorts and t shirt.
And I'm not one that has ever stepped foot out the door like this - unless I forgot to put my bins out and have done a mad dash back inside
I work evenings so I'm never in a huge rush, and if I'm going out I go get showered and dressed soon as they go to school.
And sometimes it's nice where we get to lounge all day

are you still in your PJs when they bring them home? THAT might be a time to worry, but 7.30 am??? no way

Ha! We have a schedule. 7 and 3 yo boys, Nursery & School to get to by 8.40 and 9.00 (love the 20 min difference! NOT)

I get up at 6.30 in the freezing cold dark in winter. Get the heater/heating on downstairs. Kettle on. TV on ready for particular program they watch at 7.

Let the dog out for a wee.

Go upstairs again and wake up both boys. 3yo is usually up and rolling about. 7yo grumbles for 10 minutes. Get 3yo straight on toilet. Sometimes his bed is wet (even through a pullup/night nappy) so strip it and get it on to wash/dry.

Both come down and watch programme. Fight a bit. Moan for breakfast. I make breakfast. They fight a bit more. Feed the dog. Try to stop dog eating kids breakfast whilst they shout at her (she's only 4 months) - give the dog a stuffed kong/chewy stick, which she devours waaaaaaaaaaaay too quickly.

Make 3yos packed lunch up - I like to do this fresh on the day. Fill up kids water bottles. Clear up after doing that.

Get kids uniforms ready in two seperate piles either upstairs or downstairs.

Kids usually want breakfast seconds. Then a drink. Clean up after breakfast. Get kids to brush teeth/have a wash. Help 3yo to get dressed. Tidy up 3yo whose collar is probably sticking up. Hair brush.

Rush about getting the right homework books ready, remember if there's anything "special" about the day i.e tomorrow is "wear something yellow day".

Ask them about 800 times to put their shoes on.

By then it's usually waaaay after 8 and we need to set off at 8.30 or we're late.

THEN I ram the brush through my hair and do the biggest strip/change ever!

Loungewear is the best invention ever, I put mine on the moment I get home and then 1st thing in the morning until I get dressed. I've got some really nice supersoft velour joggers and sweater that just look like clothes tbh. My DDs have got loads too. M & S do a good range.

I think it’s perfectly normal. I’m sure most of the parents on that drivers route will be wearing something very similar. And it’s very likely that on the drivers days off they are also still in their pjs at that time!

It does bother me what the driver may be thinking when I'm not dressed

Your life will be a lot easier when you realise that as an adult, it's really up to you. There may be consequences but you literally get to decide what you do.

Your doing a fab job so please don't beat yourself up about what you look like. What you are wearing. Your a mum and you are doing the best that you can do. So hats off to you and bless you.

I've been to work in my pj's before
I'm also going uni in them right now 😂

Don't think that I could do that-unless ill.

Well done you.

Are you really shocked not everyone is like you?

I stay in PJs all day if I'm not leaving the house. They're warm and comfortable and I'm in my own home nobody else's business what I choose to wear!

I also have a man coming to do my tyres today so have chucked on leggings and a hoody for nipping out of the house - still comfy but not quite as garish as my tartan pyjamas

I must admit I always dressed for the school bus but I was expected to help her into her car seat and secure her in.

I promise you that nobody gives a monkeys. Stay in your dressing gown all day if you're at home. I would!

I'm STILL not dressed, baby is napping do I really should but urgh. It honestly wouldn't cross my mind to be worried about this at 7.30am, you're good

I'm sometimes in my pjs when my son comes home at 3.30pm, but I will have been dressed and gone to work that morning. I'm just a big believer in the bra off, slobs on method of relaxation when I get in.

"Are you really shocked not everyone is like you?"

Not shocked-why would I be & did I even say that I was?

I like to shower in the morning, so tend to get up, shower & get dressed.

Sometimes put dressing gown on for breakfast but do get dressed everyday.

I suppose it surprises me that some people don't get dressed all day, especially if they are wearing what they slept in all night, but it's up to them isn't it?

Doesn't affect me-or anyone else at all!

On a weekend I quite often don’t wear “proper clothes” at all. I do have a shower, or usually a long bath, then put on new “lounge wear”. In winter that’s jogging trousers, big jumper, and Ugg style boots, in summer it’s leggings, t-shirt, and flip-flops. (I sleep in a nightshirt or one of DP’s t-shirt, so these clothes aren’t worn in bed.) My rule is that I look decent (although by no stretch of the imagination nice!) if someone comes to the door.

I have witnessed a Mum dropping her DC off at school in pyjamas with a coat over so I don’t think you’re anywhere near as embarrassing as that.

I'm definitely going to go to primark and gets some warm jumpers/hoodies with joggers. Its strange being able to buy stuff like that for day time as it's only been a few weeks my little one has been day weaned from breastfeeding, so I no longer need my hips accessible I always found hoodies and jumpers a faff pulling up everytime he wanted milk

Nips not hips 😂

I have my one week day off with my toddlers and I am currently sat here in a tshirt and joggers and unbrushed hair in a pony tail despite getting up at 6:30, after folding a pile of laundry, cleaning 3 poopy nappies, getting two wriggly toddlers dressed, letting them play in garden in waterproof clothes, about to vacuum and make a cottage pie for tea, I feel no shame about it. Also intermittently wearing my dressing gown because its too soon for heating lol. I will shower and change later then bathe the boys ready for work/nursery tomorrow. So long as everyone is clean, warm, fed and having fun, I couldn't care what the neighbours think

Never mind the driver, your child will come to hate this. Just throw on some jeans and a T-shirt? Sorry but I wouldn’t be greeting the school anything in my Jim jams.

Honestly, don't worry about it. I was a bus escort for years and have seen it all. The only thing we really focused on is that the child is on the bus unless of course there were other concerns.

If it really bothers you, I crocheted a huge hoody cardy for around the house. Anyone knocks on the door and I'm in my pjs I pop it on. It's a mess as I learned how to crochet making the thing but it was surprisingly quick and easy to make. Would have learned to knit but don't like the noise of the needles.

Ffswhatnext (sorry dont know how to tag names) - hes always ready, on time and by the door waiting to be picked up and never delays them in any way, apart from the one time he put a top on that had Mark's, so he had to quickly go get another.
Other than that we get him on the bus with no issues at all

getting up and about really early is always really bragged about on here for some reason, as if it makes any difference! 😂🤷‍♀️🤦‍♀️

It's not just on here, it's in life. I get up at 5.30 every day for work and I still think there's nothing fucking virtuous about getting up early!

I also can't stand people who lack basic maths skills (the "half the day's gone" brigade)

Your family’s happiness in the mornings is the most important thing!