To not be showered and dressed by 7:30am

[B3ck89]

My 8 year old gets picked up by his mini bus around 8am for school every day, they park right out front and hes old enough to walk over to the bus and from the bus to the door.
Since it's been getting cold Most mornings I'm still in my dressing gown because I dont have time to get washed and dressed by half 7 - only because my toddler breastfeeds right up until I get up to make sure my son is dressed, do breakfast, lunch etc by then its almost time for the bus to come.
And my partner wakes him up while hes getting ready for work, to start getting ready for school while I'm sorting my toddler
It dont help my toddler is so moody in the morning, and wont accept daddy.
It does bother me what the driver may be thinking when I'm not dressed I stand kind of behind the curtain so she dont see and I wave him off.
Should i start making the effort?
In summer it wasn't so bad because i would just chuck on a shorts and t shirt.
And I'm not one that has ever stepped foot out the door like this - unless I forgot to put my bins out and have done a mad dash back inside
I work evenings so I'm never in a huge rush, and if I'm going out I go get showered and dressed soon as they go to school.
And sometimes it's nice where we get to lounge all day

You don't schlepp round Tesco, yawning, in your nightwear, do you?

Thought not.

You're fine.

I work from my studio in my garden, and I would love to be able to just wear whatever and not "get dressed" but I need to take both of my to school so have to be presentable and then come home and change back into "get messy" clothes. If I were in your shoes, I would not be dressing for that bus driver!

Have we really reached the stage when grown adults have to ask strangers what time they should get dressed

Coconut - yes unfortunately, people can be so judgy but I do feel much better about it now and wondering what I was worried about

Not dressed here, either. When I'm working at home I only bother to get dressed if I have to go out of the house - which sometimes means: not till lunchtime. DS is in Year 10 so takes himself to school. There is no moral superiority in getting up or dressing earlier than necessary - if you have a morning-focussed body clock and you like getting up at sparrowfart, good luck to you. But it doesn't make you better or smarter than anyone else.

Do people ever not get showered/dressed all day?

Don't think that I could do that-unless ill.

I used to answer the door at 2pm, still in nightwear and a dressing gown and looking like I'd been dragged through a hedge backwards because I'd been on nights. If anyone judged me for my attire, well good luck to them. I doubt the driver bats an eyelid to be honest.

I have a toddler and a baby. We aren’t dressed until after the baby’s first nap (9am) when I can have a shower, get dressed and do the children after. I wouldn’t worry about it.

Loungewear!

I sleep in winter in t shirt and comfy but okay looking soft trousers. When I get up I throw a sweatshirt over it and make everyone’s breakfast and lunch etc. So it looks like I might be dressed for a run!

I think it’s nice to just see that your kid got in the bus okay and wave to the driver. It just shows your son and the driver that you are keeping an eye out, and anything relevant like ‘he’s not had a good nights sleep so is a little tired’ can just ease the handover and make it friendly.

I've always felt uncomfortable at the front door in my dressing gown, so I have a tracksuit that serves the same purpose. I'm still unwashed, bra-less and in yesterday's pants but somehow feel less vulnerable and exposed!

Nobody is going to think anything of it at all. It's not unusual to still be in dressing gown at that hour. In any case, what does it matter if a bus driver has an opinion? It won't affect you.

I'm not dressed yet even now, mind you I'm getting old, on my own, so not quite the same but even so, so what? Life is too short to worry about such things.

You won't be alone, op.

I'm not showered or dressed. I usually wait for my toddler to poop then I change him out of his pyjamas and I
get in the shower while he watched paw patrol in his cot.

It's fine, I'd say just try to be dressed when your child is dropped off again after school!

All the bus driver carers about are their wages , going home and possibly getting out of that job.
They wont be interested that your not in your day clothes, don't worry.

I thought you were going to say that this was something your mother expected of you because mine does/did of me. It was DH's family who I always considered highly in terms of having their shit together that helped me drop a lot of these standards that were just making me miserable.

cares that should read.

This is why I have a pile of leggings and a cardigan by my bed I literally get up and throw them on so I’m ‘dressed’ if anything happens and then when I’m ready I can get properly ready (or not !) but I always feel better wearing actual day clothes not pjs

I put Jumper over my pj and just wear jeans, and done the school run.

Of course it doesn't matter... but maybe you feel a bit (unnecessarily) 'guilty' about not being up properly when your other DC/DP are up and out.... If it bothers you, buy some slim joggers or leggings, a nice soft, cosy, belted cardigan and some ballet flat style slippers to put on when you get out of bed. You'll feel like you're still in your PJs but you'll look like you're dressed.

No point in getting dressed if you dont have too.Plus makes it easier to go back to bed

"buy some slim joggers or leggings, a nice soft, cosy, belted cardigan and some ballet flat style slippers to put on when you get out of bed."

How very specific!

It does bother me what the driver may be thinking

I can 100% guarantee you that the driver absolutely doesn't give a shit. They're driving a bus full of noisy eight-year-olds; they've got more to worry about than whether someone waves their kid off in a dressing gown.

I never understand why people who get up at the crack of dawn seem to claim some moral high ground for so doing; I have a friend who used to call me (too) early in the morning for a chat and to tell me all she'd achieved already. That stopped when I threatened to call her at midnight for a chat - 'but I'll be in bed, asleep!' Quite...
The bus driver will be pleased if her/his passenger is all ready to go. Carry on as you are.

You don't schlepp round Tesco, yawning, in your nightwear, do you

Schlepp is underrated. Fantastic word.

Also, the sentiment. I tend to throw on checked pj bottoms and a hoodie, meaning I look sort of semi dressed in comfy lounge wear. But then I'm happiest in a hoodie.

We're up and out of the door by 0720 as mine have to go to breakfast club so that I can go to work. Yes, because I'm up at 0530, I usually have done a huge amount before then. But I'd rather be in bed. I'm just up so I do it.

My youngest spent the whole of last night throwing up. Work has been cancelled, breakfast club was cancelled and he had to be taken on the school run this morning. I put him in joggers,but he proudly unzipped his coat in the playground to show his teacher his new pyjama top. I am heading back into my comfies any minute now. The parcel delivery driver will just have to deal. Your bus driver won't have given you a second thought.

diddl I do it sometimes when I have a long essay to work on. Have a shower and put on clean pjs at night, then get up the next day (make the bed) and do all my work cross legged on my bed with my books spread out.