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sparepantsandtoothbrush · 08/10/2019 23:09

I was chatting to my mum earlier about other family stuff and she told me I was actually born a day earlier than I've always thought. Basically, I was born on 31 August just before midnight (as in 11.59pm) but she didn't want me to be the baby at school so my dad paid the midwife to lie about my time of birth. I've always celebrated my birthday on 1st September, that's my official birthday but I'm so annoyed and don't want to talk to my parents right now. My siblings think it's hilarious so I'm doubting myself

Aibu to ignore them all for now?

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Bouledeneige · 09/10/2019 01:18

As an August baby my son would have so benefited being born 10 days later and being in the year below. It is very hard being the youngest in the year and it can make you feel inferior and that you are looked down on by the kids who are nearly a whole year older and more mature than you. It has been proved that it puts kids at an academic disadvantage - it really does make a big difference. One of my friends castigated me for having a late August baby and said I should have been more careful for his schooling prospects. We also used to lie sometimes when his birthday was when he was little if we happened to be travelling back from holiday on his birthday. He thinks that's funny now. Though this year at school he is going to hate being so young as his friends all start going off to the pubs and clubs he wont be able to get into - it could prevent him having fun inter-railing like his sister did too next summer.

I think its a mistake to imagine that you were in the wrong year. Its pretty random how local authorities determine the start dates and you have no way of knowing what your experience would have been in the year above - you could still have been bullied. I am very sorry that you were bullied but your parents didn't cause that by choosing to move the timing back by 1 minute. Its pretty hard to reliably define the precise time of birth anyway - we guessed for my son and rounded it up to a neat number. It actually could have been 2 or 3 minutes out - maybe more.

In the end I think you sound as if you have deeper issues with your parents and this knowledge has triggered some deeper feelings of hurt and anger. Maybe get some counselling to explore this further - you sound unhappy. The time of your birth sounds like the presenting issue not the real issue. So to many of the commenters here it sounds quite trivial. When really its hurt you disproportionately. I'm sorry OP.

LoreleiRock · 09/10/2019 01:39

What country were you born OP? Because in the UK, no midwife would lose their job for not recording the exact second a baby was born (it’s very common to record time of birth or death as the following day if it happens at 1 minute to midnight-or more likely seconds) But they would lose their job for accepting a bribe. So it didn’t happen, your dad is talking absolute bullshit, as dads are prone to do. But cool story bro.

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