To be so skint I'm considering being a sex chat worker?

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Has anyone done this and what was it like? I'm a single mum with lots of time in the evenings. I'm quite open minded and not a prude. My wage just about covers everything and I don't qualify for any top ups but could really do with extra cash and this pays weekly.

No judgement here whatsoever, but I'm surprised to learn that in this modern age of tech, the sex lines still exist! I thought it was all cam girls, etc.
Best of luck OP, and I hope that whatever option you choose works out for you.

qwerty mygirlfund sounds interesting!

I have worked for about half a dozen different companies over the years, some phone sex, some phone messages (no direct conversation) and some text messaging ones. Every company I have ever worked for has had a set of rules stating that you may not enter into discussions about underage sex or any other criminal activity: if the customer brings up those things, you tell the customer to pack it in and if they continue, you end the interaction and report the customer to the company, who will then ban them. The other thing has always been that you must ask if the customer is over 18 and if they are not, you stop the interaction and the company bans them. I have hardly ever had customers even try to get going on underage/non-consensual scenarios. Most of them want fairly ordinary sex stuff. Some want anal, some want to go on and on about knickers and a few want spanking talk. Yes, it can get a bit boring after a while, but so can anything involving customer interaction.

I got into quite a lot of debt leaving an abusive husband.

I’d be asking myself if it was a good idea for my MH, tbh.

Matched betting or surveys sounds less psychologically challenging if you have time to put in of an evening.

Take up matched betting instead or look at £10 a day threads.

These chat adult things are really poorly paid, exploitative and not great tbh. I saw a programme about it! Really depressing.

I wouldn't judge anyone for doing this kind of work, but I wouldn't do it,because it's not just lonely souls who wan't to chat,there are a lot of pervs and people with sex addictions who use these things,

It's just perpetuating the whole sorry story,of men with problems,the types of men who may be married,or in partnerships with the likes of some women on here, who have issues with their men,and are told to LTB quite often.

Take in some ironing, boring but won’t mess with your head.

I am an online sex worker. I cannot work outside the home. Just answering messages from married men - mostly. No phone calls, no cams. It is one of a very few ways I can work and I earn around 150 a week. More if I put lots of effort into it. They (the men) all write the same things though so it is very repetitive and highly boring.

I should have said married men or men with girlfriends.

I've been doing Cloudworkers for a little while now, actually making a decent few bob off of it because I can type fast enough to average out about 60-80 messages an hour. I don't feel any guilt because I went in with a generalized sort of benign contempt for men so nothing they did or asked for really surprised or got to me.

There are some really awful guys who cotton on when another agent messes up the persona we're supposed to be and then they end up in my inbox giving me dogs abuse, but I kind of enjoy arguing with them because they are desperate to get the last word in and an hour later I've made most of my money from them ranting at me.

You might give it a try and decide it's not for you. I didn't expect to be as good at it as I am and thought I was going to bail out in the first month, but I'm actually enjoying it. So why not?

I don't get how it messes anyone up psychologically. If a punter is particularly creepy/revolting you don't have to carry on communicating with them.

I went in with a generalized sort of benign contempt for men so nothing they did or asked for really surprised or got to me.

I think that this is where it would possibly mess with your head. You’d need to have a barrier as basically a man can pay you for your femaleness in order to satisfy him, but not you. Which is a tough one psychologically. No blame here on any women doing this, but watch yourselves and don’t underestimate it emotionally.

I kind of enjoy arguing with them because they are desperate to get the last word in and an hour later I've made most of my money from them ranting at me.

I have to admit that I could warm to that Squee

@Greywalls12 what website was this for?

I don't get how it messes anyone up psychologically.

Because everyone is different t, has different experiences and expectations and preconceptions. And it’s a pretty murky sort of an area. You may be fine. You may think you’ll be fine and be surprised not to be. Yes, you can stop communicating if they’re being revolting, but you’ve still listened to them being revolting. It can take a toll and wise to consider that.

Well I am not going to do it but was interested as I had a friend who did and she was fine though it was an eye opener for her.

Can't blame people for doing it if they are hard up, as long as the money comes through.

My sister did it years ago and earned a fortune.
She loved it and had a great laugh,the men who phoned were faceless so could say anything they wanted and my sister could reply what they wanted to hear.
You need the cash so go for it.
You dont have to tell anyone as its no-ones business.
GOOD LUCK.

Yeah take money from married men that they should be using to feed their kids. I am amazed there are no judgemental comments but I suppose that’s because you kicked off by having a go at anyone who might think sex “work” is not a good idea. Do you really have no skills? Ask for a pay rise? Do overtime? Don’t resort to prostitution.

@qwertyuiop5 - just looking at my girl fund - do you have to upload actual photos of yourself?

Yeah take money from married men that they should be using to feed their kids.

This comment would be laughable were it not quite tragic. Tis the OP's fault that married men aren't feeding their kids with the cash instead. I've heard it all now.

Sex work (whether involving face-to-face encounters or not) is preferable to other jobs for some people for a variety of reasons. One is the ability to choose your own hours and set your own fees.

I'm actually pretty anti-sex work myself, hence the contempt. But if you're considering any kind of sex work, this is probably the safest. You don't have to use any of your own information, I compared it to playing a raunchy game of Dungeons and Dragons.

There are the few guys who come along that I feel sorry for because it's obvious they have social issues but I do my best to make them feel special while I'm talking to them. Each shift is an hour long which means at the end of the hour you either take a break or you get switched to a new roster of clients, so you're never really talking to anyone for longer than about twenty minutes.

One thing I noticed lately is that some of the other workers have picked up a bunch of my 'verbal' tics that I used to get messages out faster, which makes us all sound more plausible. There's been a couple of times where I had to write with deliberately bad english or explain that my family were spanish because the previous worker kept using 'jajajajaja' for laughter, but as long as you can think on your feet it's not a big problem. Honestly, it's one of the easiest jobs I've ever had.

Thank you all for your kind words and non judgement. I've been accepted for a text company today so will be starting in the next few days! I can tap out hundreds of texts a day especially on a laptop as my typing skills are good. I have a great imagination and am really open minded. I passed the test questions with ease! Now, bring in the sad pathetic men and more importantly the money! I'll update as I go

If its what you feel ok doing and you think your mental health can withstand it..

I did sex text stuff, I quit when it became bloody obvious a lot of these men were sad lonely old pensioners being strung along at a £1 a message thinking they were talking to one person when in fact they were talking to whoever was logged on at the time.

Not all were sad pensioners of course, there were some proper dirty fuckers on there (memorably one bloke who wanted me to tell him all about shitting into a condom so he could shove that shit filled johnny up his arse..., I think thats about when I quit tbh!)... but too many were and we had to lie to them and really work hard to keep up the illusion.

Considering it because I'm in a similar position. Though it goes against all my own morals and judgments and I think my church group would definitely disprove. Plus I think it would make my skin crawl.