To be so skint I'm considering being a sex chat worker?

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Has anyone done this and what was it like? I'm a single mum with lots of time in the evenings. I'm quite open minded and not a prude. My wage just about covers everything and I don't qualify for any top ups but could really do with extra cash and this pays weekly.

I would REALLY recommend mygirlfund, I spend my evenings on there about 5-7 days per week and pretty easily make £200 per week just from messages. You get $1 per message you reply to, but you only keep 55% of that at the beginning (you level up over time, I keep about 80%) but when you're having lots of different conversations and manage to keep friendships, it quickly adds up. The main thing is being consistent there and trying to build "friendships", a lot of these guys are lonely and just want harmless conversation, or like a girlfriend experience. They can contribute random amounts of money too. There's a verification process which can take around a week when you sign up. And if you do end up making good money here, of course you'll need to pay tax etc. But it's really worth looking at. You don't have to webcam, voicechat, anything like that. Literally just typing out messages. I looked into the whole phone call sex work thing a while ago, and honestly the money isn't worth it compared to this website IMO.

I did it. Years ago and in a call centre. Full of men wanting to be sexy ladies or pretend they're cleaning your toilet.

Shit job, and didn't actually pay that well but a novelty. At least I was in a building with other women (girls really) doing it, might be a bit creepy on your own at home.

Although one of the best 'girls' I worked with was a gay man but that's another story.

Is anyone else going “ financial domination????”

It's where men (mostly men) serve as financial submissives to women (mostly women), it gives them sexual pleasure to do so. There are lots of different ways in which they can do this, sometimes it will involve humiliation or "blackmail" (it's consensual blackmail and often you will write up a contract that states this). I know women who would have one submissive (often referred to as a paypig or humanATM) to pay their rent, another to pay gas/electric and another to fund their shoe collection! Some men 'get off' on being a cuckhold of sorts and so they would fund a dates for a Mistress and enjoy viewing pictures of her enjoying an evening out with another male that he has paid for.

There's a lot to it. I recommend Googling it as it's fascinating and eye opening.

I have done this a lot. The money is really not much these days unless you can put in several hours a day. Even then, there will be times you are available to work but there are no customers, so you're sitting around with your thumb up your bum indefinitely.

I have no problem with it as a way of earning a bit of extra money, BTW. It's not for everyone: people who don't much like sex or are likely to be distressed by discussions of kinky or 'edgy' sex or 'dirty bitch' namecalling probably shouldn't go in for it. But it's pretty safe: the clients aren't talking to 'you' and know nothing about you.

Just realised the advice part of my comment may not have come through.

DON'T DO IT.

There are loads of other shit jobs around that are not as shit as this and don't fuck your head up as much.

Do you think men are filth now? Just wait till you meet this side of them, all the fucking time

Think capitalism is a bit soulless now? Just wait until it's spat the darkest bits of humanity at you and then tossed you some peanuts as recompense.

Get a job in a shop. Or anything.

I knew someone years ago who did that and had a lot of fun. She was quite a witty, fun person, could also do accents. She would go online and leave a message, quite well spoken and serious and guys would queue up to chat with her in a very respectful and intelligent manner;, about theatre and travel and the like; then she would rejoin the chat line using an American type drawl, very sexy, inviting people to join her to 'play'and she told me the exact same guys would join her and be unbelievably crudely sexy.

I don't know what she was paid but she thought it was easy money, she was a natural.

Findom isn't all that lucrative either TBH. Unless you have the right sort of imagination, you won't get very far.

OP. if you have a driving license why don't you consider doing Amazon Flex? You basically deliver parcels for Amazon.

She's a single mum, she says so in her OP, not conducive to delivering parcels at night hence she was looking for something to do from home.

Plus you have to tell your insurer you are using your car for business or you invalidate it, that means the price of your insurance goes up.

It must affect you though men phoning up wanting you to pretend to be a kid?

I did this to pay for Christmas one year. Not actually speaking to anyone or camwork, just texting. I got 15p per text. I usually made about £50 per week, doing it when the kids had gone to bed.

Adultwork.com is good for this.

I can't imagine there is any money these days to be made from texting.

OP, it's up to you, but do remember that everything can be recorded. You get those instances where people record livestreams of cam girls, find out their real identities through online sleuthing, and then blackmail them with threats to send them to their children, parents, children's friends, etc.

Unless you were texting images.

It must affect you though men phoning up wanting you to pretend to be a kid?

It definitely affected me. It made me view men very differently (largely due to the large volume requesting this). I also contacted NSPCC I was so concerned but they said there was nothing that could be done about it. The company I worked for didn't seem to care one bit and never banned men who requested this which is why I assume that some women were actually taking these calls and giving the men what they asked for. I completely agree with what moofolk said regarding it.

They don't all do that.

My friend used to dial a number for the chat line, record her message and wait online for responses. She had plenty!

There was one guy she told me about who gave her the creeps, he was obsessed with talking about torture. The others were mainly just interested in talking about sex in its infinite variety and getting off on it.

Some liked to have a laugh and she could tell jokes well. Once there was a man she knew, recognised his voice and he didn't use a nickname but he didn't know it was her.

She was able to block anyone if she didn't want to continue talking to them.

I don't think it's such a terrible way of making a bit of extra cash from the comfort of your own home, as long as the cash comes through. At least the op will be in charge, she'd probably feel powerful and would be surprised at how pathetic so many men are. Obviously she wouldn't be telling all and sundry what she was doing, it would be a secret.

Do tell us how you get on, op, it's interesting.

If you need to earn money from the sex trade this is the way to do it.

It may not be particularly well-paid according to some posters, but you don't have to have physical contact and you are safe - no chance of meeting anyone violent.

If you feel you want to, go for it.

I get that it is physically safe, but it does not sound worth the risk of messing you up psychologically.

Agree it sounds pretty grim jennymara

I would suggest things like surveys or matched betting instead of putting up with perverts.

Entirely your choice and no judgment from me, but I wouldn’t go down that route.

I did it years ago when i was out of work and needed to pay my mortgage use to have regulars never had anyone asking me to be a child use to a quite a laugh with some of them on a good week could make a £100 but between £50 to £70 as the normal and if i didn't have family living with me i would properly have done it again

9p a minute? Good grief. That's a whole £5.40 an hour. Somewhat less than the national minimum wage then.

I mean if you are totally desperate I understand doing it. But if you are not then consider how it may affect you in the long term.
Also moneysavingexpert forums are brilliant for helping people struggle with their budget. You have to post your financial details, but I think there are lots of people there who know their stuff and really give good advice.

@suzy2b I suspect it was very different years ago.

Forgot to say i do surveys at the moment, usually make about £100 a month. There are a lot of different sites

I have made money doing surveys. You have to spend a lot of time though for a small amount of money. I did it because I had no other way of making a bit of extra money at the time, but it is way way below minimum wage.