This is a bit long. My mum and dad live in a small village next to the village hall. They've lived there for almost 20 years (I lived there too for a short time). They've always said that they expected a certain degree of disruption/inconvenience living next door to a village hall and it's never been a big deal. Occasionally parking can be an issue, but they either wait until the person to move the car blocking their drive or go next door and politely ask them to move until they get their car out. It's never been an issue as when it comes down to it, most people are pretty reasonable. There are kids birthday parties most weekends, doesn't bother mum and dad as they're during the day and they always so they like to hear the little ones playing anyway. An occasional party at night - always finishes by 11 so, again, no issue there.
The hall had some renovations done last year, which require planning permission. A couple of things were not ideal (repositioning of the main door) but mum and dad did not object as they see it as a two-way relationship between them and the village hall committee and relations have always been good. I'm mentioning all this for context.
However, over the last few months there have been several occasions when issues have cropped up that I really don't think are acceptable and nor do they and it's beginning to cause them some upset. Normally, if there was a party like an 18th/21st, the committee would give them a heads up just to let them know what was going on - that doesn't happen anymore since they have a new Chair - fine, they don't have to, it was only a courtesy extended by the old Chairperson. There are not many teens in the village so these parties are not normally held by local people.
A few months ago there was a party and all the doors and windows of the hall were left open, disco was blaring out til 2am (this is against the halls rental agreement), there were people outside til then too and sitting on mum and dad's front wall. Dad had gone out and politely asked them not to sit on the wall as he couldn't guarantee how secure it is (it's about 150 years old, as is the house) and he got a mouthful of abuse. This weekend he had to take the dog to the vet as there had been a 21st party and about half a dozen beer bottles had been thrown over their fence and dog had cut her paw on the smashed glass. They have a wooden shed which had scorch marks on it from cigarette ends which had been thrown over the garden wall. I contacted the Chair of the hall to let them know as they've always said to let them know if there are any issues with booking. His exact words were 'What do your parents expect buying a house next to a village hall?' I told him that they expect some disruption at times but that this is beyond that in my view. His response was 'tough' and put the phone down.
My mum and dad are in their 80s now and this is really, really upsetting them. They love their cottage and they don't want to move and I don't think they should have to. So, AIBU to think that the hall committee have a responsibility to the rest of the residents surrounding the hall and that disruptions like these are not reasonable and shouldn't just be accepted? Mum and dad have never caused any issues for the hall committee and now they dread every weekend in case they end up with a garden full of glass and litter on the Sunday morning.