My son had been at a school nursery for two weeks. He is one of the youngest in the year group, so was the last Intake in. He's previously been at a childminder and a private nursery and got on great at both. He's very confident and speaks well for his age (so is able to talk well to adults in the sense that they understand what he's saying)
On the first day he was a bit upset that they wouldn't help him put his coat on. The teacher told me they want all children to put their coats on by themselves. So we practiced at home that evening.
On the second day I had to go into the classroom and had to carry him out, as he was hysterical. The teacher had told the children it was a bit warm today so not to wear their coats. My son wanted his coat on and they flat out refused to let him and he got himself worked up (but I don't think it was really about the coat, I think he was tired and overwhelmed and it was the straw that broke the camels back). He cried all the way home.
On the third day he refused to go in and I had to carry him in and leave him crying. When he got home we were chatting about school and I asked him if he'd been to the toilet. He said he did not know where the toilet was.
On his fourth day he'd hurt him self on the slide and had a mark on his face. The teacher said nothing to me (and there was no accident report etc)
On his sixth day four children in a row came out hysterical for their parents. My son was the fourth child. I waited to ask the teacher what had happened (as she did not come out to any of the parents but was inside the door which is the otherwise of a cloakroom calling the children) and all she said was, I'm not sure something happened on the seesaw, he's tired. It turned out he's hurt his mouth on the seesaw.
He's also said little things to me like, someone pushed him or threw a toy at him. When I ask him what the teacher did his response is always, oh she wasn't there.
When I ask the teacher anything she gives really vague answers with not much information, eg oh he's fine, he's done well this session and not much more. On his first day I had to search for one of the adults to ask how he was and she just said oh yes he was fine I think.
Aibu to be a bit worried. To be worried that he's never had an issue settling before (he's been in childcare since he was 9 months old and the only time he's ever cried when I collected him was when he was quite poorly once), that the children are being supervised properly, that there seems to be quite a few injuries and incidences where the adults in the classroom do not seem aware of what happened. I'm not sure if this is standard for a school. I just feel that there should be more communication from the school as it is his first two weeks.