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To be annoyed my nephew introduced my son to vaping

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Ilikecheese789 · 07/10/2019 17:13

Already posted about this but it’s really angered my that my nephew has introduced my son to vaping and my sister doesn’t care. For some background, my nephew has adhd and apparently the nicotine helps him as he doesn’t want meds. If anybody can enlighten me to whether this is true then please go ahead as I don’t know how vaping can help adhd to be honest. My son has now started to have a slight addiction as he has said he ‘craves’ it. He’s only done it on 3 periods apparently but I don’t know how many times or what is in it other than nicotine. My sister won’t tell her son to stop giving it to mine so I don’t know what to do,

OP posts:
BertieBotts · 07/10/2019 17:14

How old are they?

Nicotine can help adhd symptoms but it's not a good idea to self medicate like that.

MissMarks · 07/10/2019 17:15

I would be absolutely furious. Like wtf. She is a shit sister

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Ilikecheese789 · 07/10/2019 17:17

My son is 13 and her son is 14. I fail to understand how nicotine will help my nephews adhd

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GruciusMalfoy · 07/10/2019 17:20

Would your nephew listen to you giving him a telling off? (I mean, I doubt it, but have to ask) Your sister sounds like an idiot to be so blasé about this at their age. I'd want to avoid leaving them together until this was resolved.

SherbetSaucer · 07/10/2019 17:22

He’s only 13, you need to reign him right in. I would cut all contact with the nephew for now.

Original poster
Ilikecheese789 · 07/10/2019 17:22

Yes I’ve told him but he says it feels ‘mint’ and it’s not his fault If my son wants some.

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ImNotYourGranny · 07/10/2019 17:24

I have no idea how nicotine helps with ADHD but I hear it does. My adult DD has ADHD and when she feels really bad she uses nicotine gum to calm herself.

ImNotYourGranny · 07/10/2019 17:24

Is your sister not concerned about the recent spate of deaths linked to vaping?

FizzyIce · 07/10/2019 17:26

I’d be keeping them apart of your sister doesn’t give a shit.
I think that’s outrageous especially now it’s coming to light that vaping is not as safe as they claimed which I’d suspected all all along ..

FizzyIce · 07/10/2019 17:26

*if

SherbetSaucer · 07/10/2019 17:28

As PP said and I said further up keep them apart! Problem solved!

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Ilikecheese789 · 07/10/2019 17:29

I’ve tried to do that however, it’s not as easy as we are a family which gets together quite a lot and they go to the same school via the same bus ect

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lpchill · 07/10/2019 17:30

I would be beyond angry.

www.cdc.gov/tobacco/basic_information/e-cigarettes/Quick-Facts-on-the-Risks-of-E-cigarettes-for-Kids-Teens-and-Young-Adults.html

For info about how dangerous they are. Not to mention there has been 8 deaths already from
Vaping in the US.

PepePig · 07/10/2019 17:36

Vaping deaths in the US is due to unregulated oils being used/THC oils. Absolutely nothing to do with oils you buy in a shop in the UK.

OP, I'm sure you'll handle it well but if he ends up vaping regardless just ensure he purchases low nicotine oils from a reputable store to minimise addiction/risk. Ensure he cleans his device regularly, too. If he's going to do it anyway you just need to make sure it's as safe as can be. He'll hopefully come off it on his own.

Lllot5 · 07/10/2019 17:39

What would you do if he was giving him cigarettes? Do that.

FizzyIce · 07/10/2019 17:41

Tell the school then!
It can’t just be ignored , sorry to sound dramatic but if nicotine isn’t bad enough it can also lead to trying other things .

iklboo · 07/10/2019 17:45

OP, I'm sure you'll handle it well but if he ends up vaping regardless just ensure he purchases low nicotine oils from a reputable store to minimise addiction/risk.

He's 13. I didn't think they were legally allowed to buy vaping products at that age?

CatFaceCats · 07/10/2019 17:46

I’m a vaper (ex smoker) and I would have a problem with a 13 year old doing it.
Foot down now.

But for anyone sharing stats and stories from fake news articles. Just stop. It was un-regulated THC cartridges causing deaths. What we have in this country is highly regulated.

WorraLiberty · 07/10/2019 17:47

My sister won’t tell her son to stop giving it to mine so I don’t know what to do

Tell your 13 year old child to stop accepting it?

If you feel you can't do that or that it's pointless, that's probably the exact same situation your sister is in with her 14 year old child.

Isitnearlyweekend · 07/10/2019 17:51

I totally understand why you are so angry. My son is 19 and I’m still pissed off about his boyfriend introducing him to smoking a couple of years ago. Slightly different as my son is technically an adult and yours obviously isn’t. I would be fuming with my sister for this.

fripp · 07/10/2019 17:55

It's illegal for under 18s to purchase ecigs or acquire them via proxy so find out where the nephew gets them. What device, nicotine strength is he using? Strength limited to 2% nicotine in EU so unlikely he's developed a dependency in so short a time.
As above, no-one has ever died through vaping nicotine, only blackmarket THC

user1471590586 · 07/10/2019 17:55

I would be fuming. I would refuse to get together as a family. You need to keep your son away from hers. Is her son taking the e-cigs to school? Otherwise where is he seeing him to get them from him? Isn't it illegal for an adult to buy vaping products for a child? I would tell the school immediately.

L0bstersLass · 07/10/2019 18:12

I would be furious. He is getting your son addicted to one of the most addictive substances there is. It's fucking outrageous.

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 07/10/2019 18:26

You have little to no control over DNs actions. However your son should not be overlooked here in his input in this. He is 13. He chose to do this. He could have said no.

Your son has chosen to vape and that is what you need to focus on.