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To ask how you or your DP proposed?

53 replies

Howaboutmeow · 07/10/2019 01:54

Missing my DP tonight (I worked all day yesterday, he worked all night, I worked all day today and he's in work until 6am then I'm back at work..) so thought I'd get on with some wedding planning.
Wrote my vows, and began reminiscing about how he proposed.

Can I ask how you/your DP proposed? Cheer me up, tell me all

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inchoccyheaven · 07/10/2019 08:43

We were in a local garden centre looking at what christmas stuff they had in and was trying on christmas hats and my dw said let's get someone to take our pic wearing them while sat on the santa chair they had in a grotto scene. So we asked member of staff, sat in the chair squashed together and she then said something so I turned to face her and she had a ring and asked me to marry her 😍😍 caught on camera in front of people waiting to sit in the chair lol.
Was surreal moment.
I then proposed to her on the evening of our engagement drinks night by putting led candles up the stairs to her bedroom and had sprinkled rose petals in heart shape on the bed. I gave her a necklace with something significant to us on it.
We had known we would get engaged and had bought rings but were waiting for the right time to propose.

Casander · 07/10/2019 08:47

He blindfolded me and drove round for what seemed like ages, parked the car up and shuffled me inside, when I took the blindfold off he was on one knee in the drama studio of the high school where we met when we were teenagers. He'd arranged it with the school and they'd put all the stage spotlights on, he made a speech but I was so overwhelmed I don't actually remember what he said!

Funnily enough I remember walking inside and thinking this smells familiar

stitchwitch85 · 07/10/2019 08:51

These stories are ridiculously sweet!

My DH and I weren't even dating when he proposed. We went from being best friends to married in the space of a few months! I was round at his house one evening and he suddenly said, "What are we going to do about us?" I asked what he meant, thinking he was being silly, and he very calmly said that he was in love with me and that being together came so naturally, and did I think we could make it work? I was utterly shocked and blurted out that I loved him to pieces, and before I could finish speaking he was on his knees in front of me and hugging me tightly to him, and then I started crying 😆😆 and panicking, because how do you marry someone you don’t fancy?! Anyway, fortunately it turns out I do fancy him after all, just had to get used to the idea 😆 married and expecting DS1 at Christmas, I’ve never been happier!

AnnaMagnani · 07/10/2019 08:53

By accident. He said he wanted to talk about something important.

He then asked me if we were to get married, would it worsen or improve our tax situation oh, God, the romance

I focussed on the getting married part and went off and phoned my parents to tell them I was fairly sure we were engaged.

While sitting alone, he realised that I'd told my parents and we were now getting married.

Neither of us were totally certain we were engaged until the following morning when we started looking at venues. Then it was obvious

67bird · 07/10/2019 09:06

He gave me my Christmas card, when I opened it, it said, Happy Christmas to my Fiancée and when I looked up at him he had the ring, best Christmas ever

chocolatesolveseverything · 07/10/2019 09:07

By accident! We were on holiday and sitting quietly catching up with emails & social media before bed. My boyfriend (as was) mentioned casually what a nice day it had been and he wished every day for the rest of our lives could be like that. I cheekily replied without any thought that he'd have to marry me if he wanted me to hang around that long. He bantered back 'so will you marry me then?' I said yes (probably still looking at the computer screen!) and then we both paused, realising what we'd done . He asked 'does that count?' and we agreed it did. His final response was "thank God. I couldn't do that again."

Erismorn · 07/10/2019 09:08

On the steps of an ancient library inside Angkor Wat just before sunset. We are both huge bookworms so the library was significant.

He had to ask twice as my initial reaction was "you're joking". I lack the romantic gene.

He got applause from a group of monks. It was every so lovely but just slightly surreal.

BenjiB · 07/10/2019 09:30

We’d been together 9 years. Our next door neighbours told us they were getting married so we decided we should too! No romantic proposal!

jaseyraex · 07/10/2019 09:32

He came in from work, stripped down to his boxers as he always does. I was lying in bed watching TV, feeling horrendously sick as was 6 weeks pregnant unbeknownst to us at the time. He then knelt at the end of the bed and said "I was going to ask you this at the restaurant and then you said you'd say no if anyone proposed to you in public, so I'm asking you here, will you marry me or not?" and threw the ring box down the bed to me We had went out for a lovely meal a few weeks before and as we cut through a shopping centre there was a flash mob proposal going on. Not my thing! 6 years married with 2 kids now.

Heartburned · 07/10/2019 09:35

I can't believe anyone would marry a man who went down on one knee. Seriously?

MotherOfLittlePeople · 07/10/2019 09:36

We went on one of our favourite walks round a river in the country side and when we got to my favourite spot, a bench made out off bits of tree stumps he got down on one knee. It was my birthday in November and it was freezing but was perfect for me.

cricketmum84 · 07/10/2019 09:38

@Heartburned would you like to explain why?

Or are you just in a GF mood this morning?

AndwhenyougetthereFoffsomemore · 07/10/2019 09:40

Last day of holiday in Sardinia: lovely supper then went down to the beach in the moonlight where he proposed. He wasn't sure I'd want an engagement ring (not a jewellery person) so he bought a toe ring from one of the stalls in the little resort :-)

Loving the ones with kids in on this tread!

NcNcNcNcNcNcNc · 07/10/2019 09:42

What a strange post Heartburned.

JorisBonson · 07/10/2019 09:42

On my dream holiday in the best location ever. Stopped me by a lovely river, said "I've got something for you", I repeatedly asked if he was being weird and then if it was a joke. it was not. I cried. Drank cheap booze all night. Best day ever.

anothernamejeeves · 07/10/2019 09:43

Nothing at all romantic and spontaneous which makes me feel ive missed out somewhat but he just isn't that kind of person

He cringes at any public displays public speaking or anything where attention is on him. The total opposite to me

hugogino · 07/10/2019 09:46

On a private balcony with champagne in the medieval villiage of Eze, South of France. Overlooking the French Riviera

NooneToldMeItWasRaining · 07/10/2019 09:47

heartburned because it's romantic and traditional?

NooneToldMeItWasRaining · 07/10/2019 09:48

stitchwitch that's amazing

FairyDogMother11 · 07/10/2019 09:53

My DH was merrily chatting about getting married the next year, I was half asleep. I said, "if you really want to get married next year I expect we would need to book stuff somewhere around now..." and he said "oh, best you get booking then" and that was that I got my ring a couple of weeks later after everything important was booked

GREATAUNT1 · 07/10/2019 09:54

Am I the only gurl who proposed? I casually asked him after a few beers.

Heartburned · 07/10/2019 09:55

Sickeningly cheesy and cringeworthy in its faux-'surrender' and humility, especially in the context of the continual threads on Mn about 'why won't he propose?' where women seem to feel that proposals are a favour men confer on anxious, powerless women.

onlyhereforthefood · 07/10/2019 10:19

By a waterfall in Yosemite National Park, completely out of the blue!

nokidshere · 07/10/2019 10:33

We booked a holiday in Portugal for the 2nd of May and were chatting about it. I said the 1st could be a good time to get married and then the holiday could become the honeymoon and he said ok that's a good idea. Not a whole lot of romance involved

AliasGrape · 07/10/2019 10:44

Well we already had the ring so there was no huge surprise but DP decided we should have a proper ‘getting engaged’ moment rather than what actually happened where we’d had a few conversations and together decided to get married and then found a ring I loved whilst out in town one day.

So the day after buying the ring we took the dog for a walk to our favourite seaside spot. Walked up a hill overlooking the sea and sat on a bench. He disappeared with the dog for a bit claiming to be going to a cafe to get us both a hot drink as it was chilly. The dog ran back a few minutes later with the ring in a little pouch tied to his collar, only he got distracted and stopped to sniff a branch for ages so it didn’t quite work but made us both laugh a lot, he said some lovely things (DP, not the dog) and we retrieved dog and ring, finished our walk then had pie and chips (and I finally got that cup of tea) sat on the beach wall.

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