To think this is grabby and genius? Wedding request related

[sweetmotherog]

I've been sent an invitation to a wedding and they say

"Instead of bits and bobs, give a few bob. A scratchcard (or two) will suffice. But if we're a winner, call us a. You won't see the prize, just fancy new teeth and a pug called Keith"

I think it's brilliant

Will be going with £30 worth of scratch cards.

@Mightygerbil wins! Love it

Originally poem is shut and painfully cringe

*shit

Is this the wedding of Wayne and Waynetta Slob?

I’m just thinking of the effort it would take to scratch off the amount of scratch cards they potentially could get from an average of 80 guests who each buy £30-50 worth of scratch cards.
Far too much effort for my liking

For all those saying they wouldn’t buy scratch cards... its what they have asked for so why not? I think its a bit of fun and they’re not saying buy loads, its just a nice cheeky idea and they could end up millionairs (Rodders).

Ps, I get the impression they are expecting a token couple of scratch cards from each guest... not 80 quids worth!

I've seen scratch cards given out as wedding favors. There was one for every guest on their table. It was great fun with everyone scratching the cards.

Exactly Newmum. I don't know how the OP, and half the thread have interpretted 'a scratchcard or two' as needing to be £30 worth.

I would probably spend a tenner on scratchcards, getting a £5 one and then a fiver's worth of £1/2 ones, hopefully choosing designs that are relevant to the Bride and Groom in some way.

They don't have to scratch them all off straight away either, they could just do a few each day as part of a relaxing evening, taking into account any expiry dates of course.

They're bound to win off a few. I buy a couple of scratchcards a month and win about 1 in 3 or so. If it's a win of a couple of quid or up to about a fiver, I get new cards, as I only ever buy the £1 ones, so will use the win to try out a more expensive one. The time I won £20, I kept that, rather than cashing it in.

I know that some poorer people spend a disproportionate amount of their income on scratchcards, but you can say that about all vices - alcohol, tobacco etc.

If the B&G had asked for a bottle of fizz, whether Aldi cava or vintage champagne, ie of the givers chosen budget, would all the misery guts be wittering on about alcoholism?

This is tacky and weird and doesn’t rhyme at all. I don’t think it’s genius or grabby really, but I’d give them £50 and a £5 scratch card. I bet they’d be really pissed off and regret this if they just got a couple of quid’s worth of scratchcards from all their guests!

Why is the poem so bad. The way it reads but also the content.

I think I'd buy then a toaster and add a message along the lines of:

I've bought you a toaster
'cos love's a rollercoaster
And when it gets hard
Don't buy a scratch card

It's not Wordsworth but it's about the same level as their one.

So tacky....

I would give a scratch card or 2 but some cash or gift card as well.x

I think it's a bit tacky. I don't like any invites that ask directly for cash (or cash asks disguised as those horrible HoneyFunds). I happily comply with whatever the couple wants, but including the ask is just not to my taste.

I'd do say a tenners worth of scratch cards and then say 20quid cash maybe? although then I'd feel the cash amount was low?! but if they are asking for scratch cards then why not give whole amount on them?! we asked for money (in a polite way?!) towards spends for honeymoon...got slagged by family for spending whole amount on honeymoon as it was all inc etc....yes we chose to do trips, arrive by helicopter transfer, etc...if that's what they have asked for then why not give them it!!

shudder. I am glad I don't know people like this. I can't stand bad poetryand don't understand why people buy scratchcards. It give me the impression that the wedding will be in a greyhound race track catered by KFC

And what’s wrong with that, if that’s the kind of wedding someone wants, @flyingspaghettimonster??
I wouldn’t want to go to some big house with the same food and the same boring speeches with the boring people, but it’s not my wedding and you presumably go to a wedding because you love the people not because you necessarily share the same taste. Don’t be such a snob.

I think it's fun. You can tell who's fun at parties on this thread

I am always surprised at the number of posts criticising someone’s spelling or grammar but complaining about their ability to scan is a new one.

I laughed at the post suggesting the couple will spend their wedding night scratching away at the scratch cards. It made me imagine a new ‘must’ for bridal suites. ‘Along with a four poster bed and jacuzzi, we have a scratch card validation table, completed with champagne in an ice bucket and two Victorian florins for use in checking.’

If the couple are well off, it’s one way of making sure no guest feels under pressure to spend more than they can afford.

I like the idea - it’s not expensive and it’s fun! Nothing better than a surprise present when you know it’s either something you want or nothing at all - and if you’ve already got everything for the house/honeymoon that you need then why the heck not do something fun like this?

I'm always very surprised that people don't like requests for cash/equivalent for their wedding. Literally what else do you give them?

Toaster?
Floral tea set?
Loo roll holder?

No. I think people just don't like being put on the spot and potentially shown up for how stingy they are

I think it's a great idea. I love scratchcards but can't justify buying them, and did something similar recently when getting rid of some plants. It was a case of bring a scratchcard and dig up what you want. I was unable to dig them up myself, though obviously had to supervise to some degree. I didn't win anything worthwhile, but it didn't matter because the plants I needed out of the way were gone and I had a bit of fun with the anticipation of a possible nice win. TBH, having specified a scratchcard, I was a bit disappointed (unfair I guess) when people jut handed over a fiver or whatever. I just wouldn't buy them myself at the moment.

I expect they already have the usual stuff for a house etc, and let's face it, it only takes one card to give them a win much greater than the cost of the scratchcard, so even if someone could only spare £2 for one, it could be the one that pays for Keith, or the shiny new teeth! I love it! More fun than just money, if they don't need to be practical I'm all for it.

Yanbu op, however nothing about wedding present requests is ever OK on mn.

I think it's a bit of fun. They just want guests to give a "scratchcard or two" as a wedding gift.
OP is choosing to give £30 worth, but couple haven't asked for that much.
I'm confused why so many PP think the couple are gamblers or scratchcard addicts. Totally ridiculous conclusion to jump to.
They sound like a lovely couple. Totally ungrabby.

I always win on the lottery or when people get me a scratch card. I think it's lovely what a bunch of mumsnet snobs