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AIBU to go to a photo shoot rather than see PIL?

29 replies

Hunkyd0ry · 05/10/2019 19:28

So DD is a few days old and I responded to a call out for babies to take part in a shoot (photographer training others) and as a thank you all photos are free. DD and one other replied quickly enough to get the slots.

However, PIL and coming to visit for 2 days, 3 nights from abroad and this would be 1 morning away. We have an older DD so they would spend time with her and DH while I went.

My doubts are that it would be an hour’s drive each way (I would stop part way to feed) and the photos are the naked baby/ curled up in blanket etc. Which isn’t 100% my style.

But we didn’t have any professional shots with DD1 and this is likely our last baby.

So AIBU to go? Or do I let someone else have the opportunity?

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JohnLapsleyParlabane · 05/10/2019 19:29

Go. One morning out of several is fine

IDontDrinkTea · 05/10/2019 19:30

Definitely go

billy1966 · 05/10/2019 19:32

Absolutely go.

user1493413286 · 05/10/2019 19:32

Depends how much you want the photos; I wouldn’t as I’m not fussed by those type of photos but if you want them than I don’t think a morning away is unreasonable

Likethebattle · 05/10/2019 19:33

Go and let them spoil your other child.

Daffodil2018 · 05/10/2019 19:34

Go. Could one of them come with you to share the driving?

FriedasCarLoad · 05/10/2019 19:35

I’d be disappointed if I were your in-laws. They’ve come a long way and aren’t staying for long.

Could you compromise by bringing them with you?

nestisflown · 05/10/2019 19:47

Go- it's one morning in a 3 day stay. You only have a very small window to get these shots (under 1mo old). And I can't tell you how much I love both my baby's newborn photos..

Especially the naked ones with the soft flaky newborn skin. You forget very quickly how they look and it's nice to have a little momento. I paid £450 for each shoot and photos so free is incredible value for money. The only thing that might put me off is the distance though.

NoSauce · 05/10/2019 19:50

I would think it’s ok although they might be a bit put out as they’re only there 2 nights.

Are they the sort to be upset? How often do you see them?

meccacos2 · 05/10/2019 19:51

Go. Offer for them to come.... if you want a hellish trip. Babies sleep for ages anyway.

I would be careful about being scammed for the photos though. It’s a regular sales tactic. Free session, free complimentary photo and $1000 for the photos you actually want

BertrandRussell · 05/10/2019 19:56

A morning out will be fine- they can spend time with the interesting child! But read the small print- this is a well known scam. You will probably only get one print free and it won’t be the one you want- and you’ll end up paying loads.

MapMyMum · 05/10/2019 19:57

When you say a 3 day trip, are they there for 3 full days or is it one full day and 2 half days where travel is involved? If there for 3 full days then deff go, maybe they could do something with dd1 that is harder to do with a newborn anyway. Play centre, playground, cinema, anything like that. Even if its only 1 full day I would say you do what is right for you

User478 · 05/10/2019 19:59

They can take your older one out to something fun.

Your photoshoot is almost certainly a scam.

Knittedfairies · 05/10/2019 20:00

Ask your MIL if she'd like to go with you?

TitianaTitsling · 05/10/2019 20:01

Could they not travel with you? And go and do something with DD and DH while you are at the shoot?

LIZS · 05/10/2019 20:12

You are making a 2 hour round trip for some arty snaps, snatched when hopefully baby is awake and not crying. Sounds like a lot of effort tbh. Does it really have to be that day?

ElizaDee · 05/10/2019 20:15

I'd go. You don't have to buy the photos if it is a scam and it might be genuine.

Original poster
Hunkyd0ry · 05/10/2019 20:20

They are coming down during the day, staying 2 nights and leaving the evening of the 3rd day so 2 whole days.

I was going to suggest meeting them afterwards at an attraction etc.

Not a scam. Friend has used the person and they have a lot of reviews etc. They are training someone else and so need babies to use for photos so as a thank you the images are free.

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Thelaughinggnome123 · 05/10/2019 20:23

I wouldn't go, to be honest I think it's a bit off when your in laws are travelling from abroad and only with you for two full days.
And you say those sort of photos aren't your bag, and its probably a scam, anyway.

Expressedways · 05/10/2019 20:23

The photo shoot is most likely one of those hard sell scams. If you don’t even like the style of photos and it’s a long drive where you’d have to stop to feed then I really wouldn’t go. Nor do I think it’s great to be gone for a morning which will probably end up being most of the day whilst they hard pressure you to pay for extras, when the GPs are coming to see the new baby and are only with you for 2 days.

Singlenotsingle · 05/10/2019 20:25

There'll be plenty of time to spend with PILs and it will be nice for them to have exclusive time with your older DC.

Hoppinggreen · 05/10/2019 20:25

Scam, been there done it

IWouldBeSuperb · 05/10/2019 20:31

I wouldn't want my newborn in a car seat for two hours - and especially not for some tacky arty newborn photos -

Spied · 05/10/2019 20:36

I wouldn't go.
Carting newborn for some pictures in a style you don't really like when you could be home with family making memories and taking photos that actually mean something to you.

Mum2jenny · 05/10/2019 20:42

I’d definitely go, as it’s only a part day out.