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Or are men inherently lazy?

54 replies

Justthinkofone · 05/10/2019 19:00

It's chilly, dp and I discuss lighting first fire of the season. He huffs n puffs around, moans, grunts that his knees hurt, the wood isn't burning well etc. I tell him not to drown it in paper (he has form) to which he says " I know you're trying to help but.." ....anyway more huffing n puffing and gives up. I say I'll have a go.....kneel at hearth to find......he's not cleaned ANY of last season's ash out!? Just piled wood paper coal on top and WONDERS WHY IT WON'T WORK!? Fire needs air!? I just say....nothing....fetch the ash bin...proceed to clean, make roaring fire....ahhhhh. fetches well earned glass of wine
Why are they such lazy twats?! Like forcing more stuff in bin instead of empyting. Leaving empty shampoo bottles in sink instead of putting in recycle bin...I could go on. And if we say anything......We're nagging! Lol.
I just don't get it!!!? Examples of your dps fuckwittery laziness please!!!

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Samcro · 05/10/2019 19:04

What a sexist post

Lllot5 · 05/10/2019 19:05

My three sons aren’t lazy far from it.

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Justthinkofone · 05/10/2019 19:07

Sorry Samco, there are some incredibly lazy females too.....I am tonight frustrated by my particular male dp....but all I seem to read on here is similar .....looking for some lighthearted replies

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Aquamarine1029 · 05/10/2019 19:08

Don't choose a lazy man to be your partner. Problem solved. It's not like you didn't already know this about him.

WhenISnappedAndFarted · 05/10/2019 19:09

It's the opposite with my DM and her partner. My DM is probably the laziest person I've ever met.

I wouldn't say any of the men in my family would have done that. We grew up with a proper fireplace and no matter who made the fire always cleaned it out first male or female.

IAmALazyArse · 05/10/2019 19:09

@Samcro yup.

To balance it out, I've been known to do this (pic). I am a woman.
Also there is a cup on a table I keep looking at, but I don't want to waste a trip to kitchen just to put it in a dishwasher. It waited 4 hours, it can wait bit longer.
I've been known to starve myself because I am lazy to go and make food if I am not in a good mood (precautions taken now)

Or are men inherently lazy?
Alwaysgrey · 05/10/2019 19:10

My dh isn’t lazy but he’ll definitely pick the bits he prefers to do and leaves me to do the rubbish bits. We’ve got two kids with Sen and one who doesn’t. Funnily enough he tends to do more with the one who doesn’t have any Sen. He’ll ferry the one without Sen around to rugby and anything else.

AllFourOfThem · 05/10/2019 19:11

If men were inherently lazy then our species would have died out a long time ago.

IAmALazyArse · 05/10/2019 19:13

Like forcing more stuff in bin instead of empyting

I also do thisBlush It's raining out there...🤷

sirfredfredgeorge · 05/10/2019 19:15

I'm just utterly shocked that you're such a slattern that you'd not cleaned your hearth in more than 6 months...

LagunaBubbles · 05/10/2019 19:17

Why are they such lazy twats?!

What a load of sexist crap. Rephrase your question why is your partner such a lazy twat would be more accurate? And he doesn't sound that bad to me anyway. Grin

Elieza · 05/10/2019 19:17

Nearly all my exes have been lazy buggers. Not noticing dust or dirt in the house. Not taking their turn at dishes etc. Leaving things at their arse. Yeah, in my experience I’ve found the male of the species to be lazier than the female. However that may just be the guys I’ve been with. And indeed those youve been with OP. Who knows. Grin

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Justthinkofone · 05/10/2019 19:17

Iamalazyarse
Thanks lol made me smile! I'm fine with mugs left etc....It's just he made such a faff and turns out his own laziness made it more of a faff! He's now remarked on the nice fire, I pointed out the clearing of said fire....he's admitted perhaps he was being lazy..... he's on the tea run now...

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thetardis · 05/10/2019 19:23

agree with pp - if you picked a lazy one to pair up with that's your mistake...

Ninkaninus · 05/10/2019 19:23

No, men aren’t all lazy. But there are a whole lot of men that are extraordinarily lazy, selfish and entitled and essentially just want a mummy figure to make life as easy as possible for them plus magically want to fuck them all the time too. Sadly society as a whole, including a great proportion of women, enable them and play along with it, make excuses and try to laugh it off.

My OH is anything but lazy. I wouldn’t live with a manchild if you paid me - how could I possibly respect him, admire him and feel attracted to him?

IAmALazyArse · 05/10/2019 19:23

Not noticing dust or dirt in the house.

It's like with ghosts. As long as you don't acknowledge them, they are not real. Nor is the dirt.
Just make sure never to look directly at it (dirt or ghost).

TigerJoy · 05/10/2019 19:23

If I had a pound for every conversation I've had with a woman about this...

I've started playing "never have I ever" with my DH and he has to confess when he's never done it. Washing towels and sheets etc I knew about, but it entertains me to see him looks shocked and realise "that's a job"

Eg cleaning windows, washing out a bin, descaling the shower head, cleaning kitchen cupboards etc

He's quite good once he's been taught but he comes from a very traditional society where women did all this stuff (and it was typical to have a housekeeper so even his mum, who worked part time, had help)

Hesafriendfromwork · 05/10/2019 19:23

If your dp is lazy, its cause he is lazy.

Dp does far more housework that me, takes the bins out etc.

My dad does all the house work as he is retired and mum works. Their house hasnt ever been so clean and mum warehouse proud. But dad keeps up to it better.

Sounds like your dp just didnt want to do the fire. Wether through general laziness or temporary laziness, only you know that

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Justthinkofone · 05/10/2019 19:29

I guess its the pickiness then....he's actually quite good at doing loads of other stuff..but it was the huffing and moaning when it was his own laziness making it a pain! I can safely say he's seen the error of his ways tonight lol.
But c'mon....gimme the really silly things we all do!

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YeOldeTrout · 05/10/2019 19:31

Laziness is good. It makes us drive towards doing things better than we usually do them.

I am far more lackadaisical than the adult male in my life.

thetardis · 05/10/2019 19:32

i dunno if you want lady-props for lighting a fire in the face of gender-norms? lighting/keeping fires has always been solidly my domain, cos i grew up (cold) with(out) them.

LadyMonicaBaddingham · 05/10/2019 19:33

When they've been 'socialised' to be that way, yes. My FIL & MIL wouldn't accept it from her son, God bless her, AND we have no intention of accepting it from our boys either. Life is a team effort.

isabellerossignol · 05/10/2019 19:34

My husband isn't remotely lazy round the house, whereas I...am. Sometimes.

My worst habit is piling all the recycling by the back door instead of taking it out to the garage where it belongs.

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Justthinkofone · 05/10/2019 19:37

Alwaysgrey that sounds a bit crappy. Can you call him out it for more support?

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MerryDeath · 05/10/2019 19:38

mine is far from lazy but he's got absolute tunnel vision so will only do, or even see, certain tasks. usually ones that pique his interest and offer a bit of a challenge. is not interested in loading the dishwasher and thinks because he is chief of DIY it's not his concern even if he's having a day off from
house reno Hmm can't ever say anyone is all of one thing or another though can we.

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