Is this cheeky?

[Littlepeak34]

So I meet up with my cousin every couple of weeks as we have DC same age and my DC always asks to see cousins DC.

Problem is she can’t drive so it’s always me picking them up (they live around 10 mins away), then off to somewhere like soft play and then drop them back off.

We have just said we would meet tomorrow and she suggested we could go to a soft play near her and then come back to mine for the rest of the day. Problem is she expects a lift home too.

I have done this a few times in the past so the two toddlers can play at home but I find her recent request quite cheeky...

Is she BU? Should I just accept that as she can’t drive and she doesn’t live that far away to just do all this as my DC loves playing with hers.

Just to add, when they come round mine, I feed them, offer snacks etc. I have asked to go round hers before once but it was met with “oh, I have no food is so we’ll have to go out”. I generally find my house much more comfortable and cleaner so I have tended not to ask to go to hers though.

So you pick her up, pay for her dc at Softplay, feed her at yours and then drop her back off.....no wonder she's sticking to you like a leech!
You bear all the costs and effort - whilst she bleats on about being 'too skint' to pay her share even though she has a working DP as well.
She could always forgo the pub lunch and pay her way with everything else?

Nah - where's the fun in that?

I don't think she's cheeky. If you don't want to spend 10 mins in the car to see your cousin who doesn't drive then tell her. Personally if i have a friend or family member that i want to see i am happy to make some effort to do so.

Beware of her playing the skint card. I have told this many times but my bff was always skint.
I paid for lunches /soft play /cakes +coffees. Did all the travelling as we lived 20 miles away.
Met in her town always. Even paid both parking tickets...
One day she pulled up in a new Mercedes convertible.
Wow did I feel stupid.
She is now an ex bff.
Not just for taking me for a mug though.
But resentment did contribute.

She pays for her own lunch when out.

Let me ask you this op

Does she say thanks for the lifts?

20 min round trip? I wouldn’t begrudge that tbh.

It’s not something I pay particular attention to but yes she has said thanks before, probably not every time though.

I don't drive and I'm glad my friends and relations aren't you.

I've got friends who are always tight with money but they are definitely not skint - just paying their mortgage off or whatever. If you don't want to spend your money subsidising her then you don't have to. All these people on mumsnet who carry on playing martyr and silently seething. Just be up front.