That he wont eat my meals?

[TwistedFairytales]

DH is very fussy with food, I would even go as far as to say he has psychological problems with it. Yet he eats like shit, fast food, burgers, chocolate bars full fat coke etc. He thinks this is ok because he doeant drink or smoke.

He never gives much input with what meals he wants and the ones he suggests are impractical such as a supermarket indian box meal. Ten quid and wont feed the kids. You get the idea.

I do ALL the cooking. He never, ever cooks. Yet every meal time he will question me about the food and ingredients. Whats in this, where's the chicken from, is this meat frozen? If he gets an answer he doesnt like he will leave the meal. I get so angry at this as i spend a lot of time and effort planning meals to suit us all that are cheap, healthy and nutritious.

Yet again hes dumped an almost full plate of food on the side after complaining about the chicken (frozen). I feel so mad that he's acting like a picky child when i spend around 3 hours a day in the kitchen cooking for us all. Or should I just let it go?
AIBU?

Dont cook for him?

Why are you spending 3 hours a day cooking dinner?

Easy. Feed yourself and the children nutritious meals yo plan yourself and let him get on with feeding himself. Sounds an arse.

Make sure you teach your own children to cook and understand nutrition, may be too late for your husband!
Get husband to cook once a week?
Put his leftovers in a box in the fridge/freezer for a quick, nutritious home-cooked ready-meal on another day.

Don't cook for him. You can't go on like this, it's wasteful and ridiculous (of him, not you).

Stop cooking for him. He either gets help or gets eating what you make.

Don't bother cooking for him...let him eat the junk he likes. What a bellend!

Don't cook for him. Period. I could not and would not stand for my partner to be so disrespectful towards my efforts. I definitely would not waste a single second more trying to accommodate him

What are you cooking that's taking 3 hours??
Tell him if he doesn't like your cooking you simply won't cook for him

Not 3 hours on dinner but in total, breakfast, lumch and dinner. Although i could easily spend 2 hours on a evening meal as i make all my meals from scratch.

Yeah i cook for us and he can eat or not. It just winds me up.

Everything you said was reasonable until you said you spend 3 hours a day cooking. What on earth do you cook that takes 3 hours each day?

I would just stop cooking for him. Let him get his own meal.

He actually PREFERS ready meals and jar sauces etc. I have said to him, what man doesnt like their wife cooking home made meals from scratch every day?! Its bloody weird!!

I agree, just stop cooking for him, and point him to the toaster and tin of beans.

Did you know he was this fussy before you married him?

I cook from scratch too. I’m still intrigued by what you cook that takes even 2 hours. I’m genuinely interested. Not being sarky

I can entirely understand why you are annoyed at your DH. Particularly given the efforts you go to.

I've stopped cooking for my OH as he thinks my food tastes too powerful with flavours (I use a lot of fresh herbs, spices etc) whereas his pallette is similar to your OH. Chicago town micro pizzas, chocolate, coke the works. Now he buys his own food, mostly fast food or junk food and all I buy him is white bread and jam. It was frustrating and I felt insulted at first but I'll be damned if I'm buying good, fresh ingredients for it to go to waste. He's an adult, let him sort himself out.

Why on earth are you wasting three hours a day cooking?!

Why can he not take on some of the load? Allocate him a few evenings a week.
If he refuses, stop cooking for him altogether and let him sort himself out.

Tell him you wont cook for him anymore until hes had some counselling for his obvious issues.

Protect the family money so he doesn't spend it all on takeaways when you do stop cooking for him.

Yes i lnew this before i married him. He did it to his mum too.
Ok so morning...half an hour making breakfast and packed lunches (porridge for ds1, poached egg on toast for ds2) and slimming world friendly for me.
If im home for lunch i might make pasta sauce, pasta etc. At least 20 minutes probably another half an hour.
Thats an hour so far. Some days i bake cakes and healthy muffins/treats for the kids...and yes dh too. Thats easily an hour if not more. Thats 2 hours.
Evening meal. Tonight we had chicken supreme with roast potatoes and veg. Started cooking at 5. We ate at 6.40. Thats another hour and a half. So thats 3 1/2 hours.

So, why won't/can't he cook?

I also gave up cooking for my husband. I got fed up with unwanted criticism every night and general complaints, while my children wolfed down their food and loved it. He now fends for himself and cooks for us all every weekend. I never criticise his meals as I'm so grateful that someone has cooked for me.

I'm wondering why you married him and had kids with him to be honest! Did you expect him to change after you married him? My stepdad was like this, my mum is still waiting for him to change 25 years later

He has never bothered to learn and doesnt want to.
Ok i have lied a bit. He will cook a sunday roast now and again if im working and he does a goid job. I asked him to cook me some rice yesterday for when i got in from work (9.20pm). He said he'll boil the water but he cant do the rest and hes sorry 🤷‍♂️
Kittyvoncatsworth glad im not the only one!!

Heartofglass he does have good qualities but this one really annoys me!!

Aspergers/HFA.

It'll be taste/texture issues with the food.

Stop cooking for the ungrateful, wanker, manchild. I wouldn’t have married someone like this in the first place, I can’t stand fussy eaters. Just cater for you and the kids and he can fuck himself.