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Should I Report Them?

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TheQueef · 03/10/2019 16:12

AIBU to think people are just too fucking eager to report others?
My nosey neighbour has asked me this morning to join her in reporting our postman. Heinous crime of filling his water bottle up from someone elses outside tap while they are out.
Why is it straight to nuclear option?
Why are we so eager to report every little thing to authority?
Someone makes noise - report them.
No car tax - report them.
Eats sweets at work - report them.
Built a wall - report them.
Has a boyfriend - report them.
Claims benefit - report, report, report...

We all have personal limits and moral obligations. Some things bother me more than others but unless it's harming someone or dangerous I'd struggle to report.

Is it me? Am I imagining this gleeful, weasely push to report?

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WorraLiberty · 03/10/2019 17:35

My postie has no need to near our outside tap, which is round the back of our house. I wouldn’t be happy to find him there, so no, I don’t think it is legitimate at all. But we can agree to differ on that.

I wasn't talking about your postie. I was talking about a neighbour because you said........

If it was your neighbour using your tap, most people on here would say they were a CF.

familycourtq · 03/10/2019 17:36

I fucking hate grasses
I don't but the examples are a bit silly.
Don't mind someone grassing on a drug dealer, murderer, thief etc.

dentydown · 03/10/2019 17:36

Reported me to the school family liason officer. I was doing the school run with her and her brothers. She wasn’t dressed in pink, because her brothers chose “cool” clothes for her. (5 year old boy logic).
A concerned parent reported it to her.

seaweedandmarchingbands · 03/10/2019 17:36

WorraLiberty

Same with the neighbour, though. If I said they could come round the front of my house to post something, I wouldn’t like them stopping off round the side to use my tap. 🤷🏻‍♀️ I wouldn’t dream of saying no if someone asked, but not asking is the definition of cheeky.

Lellikelly26 · 03/10/2019 17:37

Poor postie only wanted some water. Tell your neighbour to get over herself

Weedinosaurus · 03/10/2019 17:38

I can’t believe there are people in the world who eould begrudge someone a drink of water. It’s WATER! You might be on a meter, you might be frugal but is it not just being a decent human being. Why would anyone want somebody else to go thirsty? I’m disappointed in the human race sometimes ☹️

WhatTiggersDoBest · 03/10/2019 17:38

I don't see why anyone would care who was using their water unless they had a meter and their neighbour attached a hose and was washing their car with it or running their washing machine or something else big. Half a litre of water isn't exactly going to run up a water bill even for people who were conned into getting a meter installed. Our neighbour borrows water all the time as they don't have an outdoor tap. Why waste life keeping lists when it comes to things like that??
Why on earth would anyone report a postman for that? He's being efficient and not wasting work time finding a corner shop, and I bet he'd be so embarrassed if anyone pulled him up on it. He might not be allowed to ask people for water. Now, if he was urinating in someone's garden, I could see that being a problem.

InsertFunnyUsername · 03/10/2019 17:39

YANBU. I wonder if constant 'I'm going to report this' people go to sleep at night thinking, people really hate my type I must report this in the morning Grin

seaweedandmarchingbands · 03/10/2019 17:42

Well, there clearly are people who don’t like people coming round the side of their house without permission, or taking stuff they pay for without permission. I’m one of those people, so best not do it at my house. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Weedinosaurus · 03/10/2019 17:45

Seaweed, if you have the means to help someone, why not just do it?

seaweedandmarchingbands · 03/10/2019 17:47

Weedinosaurus

Well, by that argument we should all open up our wallets, cars, bank accounts, fridges etc. and let those who need help have it. I don’t know if you do that? I’ll be honest: I don’t. I am a reasonably kind person who gives to good causes and helps where I can and where I am asked, but I don’t appreciate people helping themselves and then berating me for a lack of charity when I object.

FavouriteSong · 03/10/2019 17:47

This is so petty, it's ridiculous. Why would anyone begrudge a postman a drink of water? For all your neighbour knows, he may have permission from the home owners to refill his water bottle.

I would report a drunk driver, and if I thought a child was in danger, I wouldn't hesitate to contact the emergency social worker. Benefits cheats are tricky unless you know 100% they are fiddling the system. It's so difficult these days to get benefits, with all the assessments people have to undergo and criteria they have to fulfil. The 'good old days' of claiming disability for a bad back whilst working cash in hand as a carpet fitter are long gone.

Jamhandprints · 03/10/2019 17:47

Poor postman!

Marshmallow91 · 03/10/2019 17:49

Why didn't she call emergency services immediately? He should be locked away!

clutches pearls and swoons

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InsertFunnyUsername · 03/10/2019 17:50

Oh yes letting a postie fill his bottle up without recruiting neighbours to join in on your grassing, means we should open our wallets. Why do people have to be dramatic. If he had let himself in, went to her fridge took a bottle of water then yes report.

Thelistwizard · 03/10/2019 17:50

We live in the world of the professionally offended now. And they are never angry etc, it’s “beyond angry” etc. What a way to live.

Michaelbaubles · 03/10/2019 17:51

I appreciate people are frugal but:

“1 cubic meter costs £3.19 (includes water and wastewater)
A cubic meter equals 1,000 litres of water, this is equivalent to 28 showers or 13 baths.”

That’s 0.32p for a litre of water. Or 1/6 of a penny to fill a 500ml bottle. Nobody can begrudge someone that, surely? They could fill their bottle every day for a year for 58p.

seaweedandmarchingbands · 03/10/2019 17:52

InsertFunnyUsername

There is no difference other than in value of the goods. It’s either okay to take without asking or it isn’t. I was raised to believe it isn’t, and I think most people here probably were, too. The factor that is blinding people here is “postie” - because they have long, difficult shifts and it can be tough for them to get a break, we have more sympathy for them than for other cheeky people choosing to help themselves rather than ask. But it’s still cheeky. Still not his house or his water.

InsertFunnyUsername · 03/10/2019 17:55

Well ok if that's how you live your life then that's fine, I'd suggest not trying to recruit other people in on your nonsense. That's what I find pathetic.

Weedinosaurus · 03/10/2019 17:56

Seaweed, you know very well that’s not what I’m saying. It would literally have no impact on the owner for the postie to fill up his bottle - even on a meter, how much would it cost? Would it even be a whole penny?
I genuinely can’t believe I live in a world with people like you.
And yes, I look out for people. I give what I can.

AutumnRose1 · 03/10/2019 17:56

Denty - please say of the school staff told her ....something appropriate? 😁

seaweedandmarchingbands · 03/10/2019 17:57

InsertFunnyUsername

Recruit who? I already said I wouldn’t report this to anyone, so you don’t need to “suggest” anything.

seaweedandmarchingbands · 03/10/2019 17:57

Weedinosaurus

Cool. I’ll just wander on to your property any time I like and help myself.

seaweedandmarchingbands · 03/10/2019 17:58

I’ll use your wheelie bin as well.

WorraLiberty · 03/10/2019 17:59

Well, by that argument we should all open up our wallets, cars, bank accounts, fridges etc. and let those who need help have it.

It's just a bottle of water Confused