Usually my dds and I go to my parents for Christmas. They invited us again this year after we briefly discussed going out for Xmas lunch then my mum decided she didn't want to. We live v nearby so we do half the cooking in my oven and half in hers so it all comes together. This year I'll be nearly 39 weeks pregnant and I'm already really uncomfortable now and have had quite a physically difficult pregnancy.
So my mum suddenly announced that she's invited a female friend of theirs for Christmas Day because she's got nowhere else to go. The reason for this is that the friend has upset her son and his wife so they don't invite her for Christmas any more. I don't like / trust this woman either because she's not very nice to me and she came round to my house some years ago and laid into me at a time when I was mentally unwell and under the care of the home treatment team. My children remember this happening and they therefore don't like / trust her either.
My parents never said anything to her about the above behaviour and she didn't apologise to me either. They just sort of brushed it all under the carpet. Another thing about this woman is that she's always ill and she regularly drops in on people and gives them whatever bug she's carrying including stomach bugs. She doesn't seem to think that illnesses are something people want to avoid and decided to go to China at the height of the Sars crisis.
My mum won't even invite her brother at Christmas time so I don't understand why she acts so beholden to this woman. But either way, I don't really want to be around her on Christmas Day for the above reasons but I feel annoyed that we should be pushed out just because she's upset her own family.
So if you were me would you decide not to go?