I'm preparing for a flaming here but anyway. Also trying not to drip feed.
This morning I heard my 8 year old ds tell another boy he was going to teabag him. I was obviously livid, told him under no circumstances was he ever to say anything like that ever again and that we would discuss it after school. The bell had just rang and his teacher wasn't there so couldn't talk to her at the time. Plus I wanted to get some information from ds about where he had heard this. When I picked him up we had a chat. He thought it meant putting your bum in someone's face. He said he thought this as another boy pushed him to the ground and squatted over his face saying he was going to teabag him. We had a chat about how this was never OK and how horrible it was to do that to someone etc etc. Ds is no angel, I know this, but I do believe him. He's a terrible liar and I can read him like a book. We are also quite strict with age appropriate games and videos so I doubt very much that he has picked it up from anything online. As I said, I'm not being 'well my little angel would never do this...' I know he messes around and gets in trouble at school and I deal with this when it happens. All previous years it's been that he's the class clown, talks too much, messes about.
As I was angry and actually a bit shocked I messaged his teacher via the app. This is their requested method of contact. I explained that I'd heard him say something inappropriate and that it seems that there's been inappropriate behaviour from another boy, could we meet to discuss this. I did not mention the word teabag, just that it was inappropriate language and behaviour. Her response was that there's 5 boys parents in the class that she wants to meet with to discuss their clash of personalities and behaviour, can we meet next week. Fine. I'm happy to meet and come up with a plan to sort that out with her and other parents. Unfortunately she is now off sick so it won't be until Monday at the earliest. However, I feel that the teabagging is a separate issue and should be discussed sooner. Aibu and blowing this all out of proportion? Her response has me doubting my initial reaction. Maybe this is more common boys messing about type thing. But he's an 8 year old child, I feel this is inappropriate. Should I go and speak to someone tomorrow or wait?