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Is overtaking someone you know rude?

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SilkClayFlowers · 30/09/2019 20:38

On the school run home on Friday I overtook a woman collecting her Grandchild from the same school. It’s,a tiny school and had I recognised the car I wouldn’t have done unless I was in a rush.

She was going 35-40mph in a national speed limit zone albeit a country road during the last of harvest and all the traffic issues that can bring!

Today at collection her daughter (the school child’s mother) said, “oh you drive the polo, haha my mums not happy with you after you sped by” . She said this in a jokey way but it got me wondering if it’s not the done thing to overtake someone you may know.

I’ve only been driving for just over a year so am still a bit unsure about the unwritten etiquette.

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Aprinceinapaupersgrave · 30/09/2019 20:39

It's not rude. The other people sound weird.

CalmFizz · 30/09/2019 20:40

I think some people get morally offended by being overtaken by anyone.

If they know you you might as well have slapped them across the face with a dead fish.

ichifanny · 30/09/2019 20:41

I’d overtake anyone who was slow on a national speed limit road if it was safe to do so I couldn’t give a toss who they are .

Justmuddlingalong · 30/09/2019 20:44

Did you give her a 🙄? As long as it was safe, within the speed limit and you indicated, what was her issue?

JellyBook · 30/09/2019 20:46

Not particularly sensible to overtake someone doing 35-40 on a country road, even if it is technically legal. Also, what feels safe for you might look a bit risky to the person you’re overtaking, and if you’ve only been driving a year perhaps you haven’t had enough ‘shit I shouldn’t have done that’ moments.

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SilkClayFlowers · 30/09/2019 20:46

I should have said the daughter was lovely and completely jokey about which makes me think maybe this is just form for her mum.

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JudgeRindersMinder · 30/09/2019 20:47

Only rude if you flick the Vs as you go past

leghairdontcare · 30/09/2019 20:52

She probably thought it was unsafe/unnecessary to overtake and would have complained about your driving even if she didn't know you.

GunpowderGelatine · 30/09/2019 20:54

I think some people get morally offended by being overtaken by anyone

This. I once got told off by a woman for overtaking her...on the pavement 😂 she wasn't even walking slowly but she was small and in tall so overtook her (wife pavement) and she called me rude!

Unknownanon · 30/09/2019 20:56

If it was safe, she has no reason to be funny about it. Unless she's defensive about a lack of her own confidence to drive that way.

No it's not rude.

If it was unsafe then yes, not surprised she is annoyed.

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SilkClayFlowers · 30/09/2019 20:58

It was absolutely safe on a rare bit of straight after slowly following her round the winding lanes for 10mins.

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Unknownanon · 30/09/2019 21:12

Then she's probably defensive and feels her driving has been questioned. If anything is said again just look confused and say "why? It was legal and safe."

hidinginthenightgarden · 30/09/2019 21:16

I overtake DH when we go to the gym separatley from work. His car is so sloooooooooow.

Vulpine · 30/09/2019 21:28

Did it really save you that much time?

GetKnitted · 30/09/2019 21:42

I overtook a car which was stopped toward one side of a very minor one way street today and the driver gave me two fingers. Her car was stationary. People are funny.

WoollyMollyMonkey · 30/09/2019 21:55

My son overtook me on the motorway once, I was most offended

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SilkClayFlowers · 30/09/2019 21:58

Vulpine. It meant our children could see their Dad before the weekend hit. Only about 5mins but worth it. Sorry if that sounds PA wanky. It’s just the truth!

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Vulpine · 30/09/2019 22:00

If you both ended up at the same place at approx the same time, what was the point?

Michaelbaubles · 30/09/2019 22:01

I drive on country roads two hours a day and if you’re going at 40 you WILL get overtaken at the first possible moment! Country roads don’t have to be tiny little lanes you know, and people driving too slowly down perfectly safe roads is a real issue in rural areas where those roads might be the only route between two large towns.

Blueoasis · 30/09/2019 22:03

Maybe she should learn how to drive if she's that offended by it?

35-40mph on a road where there are possibilities to over take, hence it is a wide road so not a single track, is quite bad driving and is driving without due care and attention. She maybe needs some lessons on an advanced driving course to be shown how to drive.

Laiste · 30/09/2019 22:10

If you stay behind someone doing bloody 35 all the way to our nearest tesco it makes the journey into nearly an hour.

Sometimes it's very worth overtaking on a straight bit.

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SilkClayFlowers · 30/09/2019 22:12

Vulpine Umm, the point above.... that our children managed to say goodbye to their Dad as he was leaving for another x amount of days.

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Laiste · 30/09/2019 22:12

Oh, to answer the actual OP: it sometimes feels a bit ''up yours'' to overtake a neighbor (small village here), but, re my previous post, sometimes you just have to.

SoyDora · 30/09/2019 22:13

Vulpine the OP has said what the point was.

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SilkClayFlowers · 30/09/2019 22:14

Can I just drip feed in that she didn’t slow down for the 30mph villages. A clear 35/40 all the way!

That really riled me up!

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