To be fed up of creepy guys

[getoutofthatgarden202]

Just sitting here at home, get a message through Instagram from the brother of my ex boyfriend - first saying "hi hope you are well been ages"

I reply with a "hi, all good, hope you and the family are well"

Then it escalates to - so are you still married??

I say yes.

He reply's "that's a shame, poor you being stuck with the one cock the rest of your life - I was gonna invite myself over and show you a good time"

I stop responding immediately - show my husband and he's like wtf - an hour later, lad comes back - sorry have that was a bit much haha - lolz!

Have just blocked

This is the 2nd time in a month that someone from my past has gotten back In touch with similar messages!

Is blocking enough?? Am I just letting them get away with speaking to woman like that - I can't be the only one they do this with! (Both of these men appear to be in relationships and have small children I must add)

😵

Forward the screenshots to his mum.

I've took screen shots alright!

I've just unblocked him because actually I'm gonna tell him exactly what I think of his behaviour!!

Maybe I bloody will forward them to his mum 😂

I had similar on Whatsapp a few months ago from an ex client I barely knew.

He sent a message to apologise the next day saying he’d been drunk. I could see this from the first line so deleted it without opening it.

I still occasionally see him at work related events. He doesn’t seem remotely embarrassed. 🙄

I like the idea of copying it to his mum or posting it publicly.

Ugh 😑 I gave him a piece of my mind there - he's come back all apologies, oh I was just joking - as you can see I haven't grown up much - should have respected your marriage regardless of what I think about you... (still not really an apology, still not really made the situation on has it)

Lolz !!

I mean really does this approach work for men like this - then message a bunch of woman they know on Instagram and then hope one of them will say oh id love to hook up with you - come on over !!

I can't believe that guy who WhatsApp'd you wasn't even a bit embarrassed 😳 ffs

Very sad that men are not more embarrassed about their shit behaviour.

My friend tried to sell an early edition five pound note on Facebook.

She received a rape threat from a young man who then tried the old, “I’ve been hacked” when her friends contacted him.

Some men just don’t have any respect for women.,

Forward the screenshots to their oh. The poor sods should know what their partners are up to.

forward it all to his family.

I agree that some men have no respect for women and just see them a nice hole to stick their dicks in.

I needed some decorating done, contacted a guy a friend had recommended. He also advertised decorating services online.

3 days before he was due to arrive here he messaged me 'great WhatsApp pic you are sexy, up for some fun? ' Id contacted him via text but as he had my number he could see my WhatsApp. I messaged back 'I've booked you to decorate not look at my photo + make personal comments, its unprofessional and I'm cancelling booking'.

At which point he messaged back 'You're a slut like most women are, all just dirty slags dressing up to hook a man and get a fuck'. I thought that was a bit rich since I clearly didn't want him! Told him to fuck off. I was wearing jeans & a top in photo, not that it matters what I was wearing. I shudder to think that man would've been in my home, with an attitude like that.

But yeah also just sick to death of sleazy creepy men who think they can talk to women how they please. I have a mind women are deemed a bit 'precious' for saying so. But the older I get the more I stick to just DP, my brothers & 2 good male friends. I simply don't want to know men at all, aside from these. A glance at the outright nasty misogyny on social media compounds that.

Sure not all men are like that but I'm uninterested in finding out whether they are or not. Rare is the woman who hasn't had to fend off creeps from
girlhood onwards.

Agree with pp's, forward the screenshots

Ugh! Bloody worrying isn't it? I work with 98% men and the way they talk about women shocks me still. They don't care who hears it. But one good thing about getting older is that men pay less attention to you.

Yanbu. My Dsis recently got a dick pic on messenger from a old classmate from the 80s.
He started with pleasant chat then sent a dick picture. WTF is wrong but some men.

I just think that men who do this kind of thing are a bit short on the brains department.

I don't know any men who are involved in my life who would do something like that.

@DeeCeeCherry agree with everything you say.

Were you tempted to shame him on his online advert? Posting the screenshot as evidence of his predatory behaviour?

Going to state the obvious here.

Most men would never do this. The ones who do are sad and desperate dickheads.

Most women would never send messages like this to men, but plenty of sad and desperate ones do.

This isn’t a “man” issue. It’s a dick head issue, and happens to men as well. (Voice of experience, from ex school mates when a reunion was being organised on FB, to people on buy and sell sites)

WelshMoth beat me to it, DeeCeeCherry.

How many other women has he already tried his unpleasant and predatory approach on? And how many more women would benefit from knowing this about him before booking him in the future? Imagine if he'd actually been working in your house before deciding to show you what he really is. Doesn't bear thinking about.

Newsheet. You are wrong. It is a man issue. Not all men do it but the people who do it are overwhelmingly men. Because they know they can get away with it.

How can you type this “isn’t a man issue” with a straight face? You really believe that? Bizarre.

Of course it's a man issue. Jeez.

When I've had this sort of thing on Facebook messenger, I screenshot the message and post it on my page with the privacy on the post set to public. I tag the sender (and his place of work if he's put it on his profile) so all his friends/colleagues etc will see it. I post it with a simple 'thanks but no thanks' comment. Funnily enough, I never hear from them again after that.

Newsheet are you serious?
Of course there are decent men, but male predatory behaviour is endemic, globally. Male on female violence is a MASSIVE problem and if you think it's down to a few deviant dickheads, then you're woefully ignorant.

@Newsheet, I don’t think anyone suggested that all men are like this so no need for the NAMALT cheerleading.

Male entitlement and male violence is pandemic. I think most of us however are still waiting to be sexually harassed by women.

But, of course, it wouldn’t be the internet without someone leaping on to tell women complaining of sexual harassment that, in fact, NAMALT. 🙄

@DeeCeeCherry, that’s appalling. . Was he listed on any sites you could have left a review?

@QuimJongUn hahahaha

@QuimJongUn Amazing! You bloody genius

I just feel that if he's so proud of his penis he sees fit to send someone a photo of it he'll want EVERYONE to know 🤷