SO quits our calls at the smallest thing

[Nooz]

Been in a long distance relationship for 2 years, most communication by phone.

A few times he had hung up on me when something happens his end. Totally understandable if an emergency, I've done the same when ds (11) started being sick, but I think it does and should warrant a call back ASAP to explain. Always.

So, SO has done this recently it turned out for no big reason (a text from his dd). This amongst other things really set me wondering about us and we had a heart to heart...

Fast forward to yesterday, SO rings and makes a small speech about being sorry for being selfish and taking me for granted, and the not 5 mins later says 'oh give me a min' and :::: hangs up!

10 mins later a WhatsApp to say 'on my way to solicitors they wanted more info (and a wonky face emoji) speak later kiss kiss'

No apology, no call back later, just a picture of his dog looking cute at 10pm.

Am I being a mug? Or UR?
Thank you!

I've just talked this through with a treasured friend, and the pain of reality is it has to end. There are more pertinent facts and details, which when shared make for a stunned silence, ah the ache of letting go of a fantasy. Actions do speak louder than words, it's lovely being told you are loved, it's a tonic and a reviver, but it's not enough, eventually not enough, to hide the truth. Hardest part is going to be telling him.

Thank you to everyone here for coming along tonight and helping XX

He is bored to death with you and doesn't have the guts to end it

@joystir59 that didn’t come across as a very nice comment!!

Sorry OP, he isn't giving you enough and you deserve more.

If you were a different kind of person, I would say you should call and say 'Look I don't think this is working out - oops, give me a sec' and then hang up. But I can see you'll want to be kinder than that. However, don't let yourself be talked into limping on with something that doesn't fulfil you.

it's lovely being told you are loved, it's a tonic and a reviver

Absolutely it is, OP. But what's even lovelier is simply being loved. The words don't mean a bean without the physical act of love taking place.

You sound genuinely lovely. I hope you do find someone who treasures and cherishes you in all the ways you hope for.

It's good that you've been able to use this thread to reflect OP, I hope you get the relationship you deserve in the near future.