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Original poster

Is this day out unreasonable?

53 replies

thecatinthetwat · 28/09/2019 11:32

I want to take the dc out tomorrow to Windsor castle,
but DH says it's too far (about an hours drive) and too expensive
(60 quid).

Do you think an hour is too far for a day out? Is DH just being a bit grumpy here?

I just wanted to go somewhere fun and didn't think this was too far
or too expensive.

We haven't been for a proper day out since June if that makes a difference. Opinions please?

YABU = day out either too far or too expensive
YANBU = day out sounds nice

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testing987654321 · 28/09/2019 11:34

Yanbu.

LIZS · 28/09/2019 11:34

Sounds fine to me. Iirc you can make a return visit within a year on same ticket.

Stompythedinosaur · 28/09/2019 11:34

An hour is not very far I don't think!

£60 is not bad for a major site. I wouldn't do a day out like that every week but if you can afford it then it's fine.

Does your dp mean that he won't enjoy it?

Eatsshoootsandleaves · 28/09/2019 11:34

We have travelled much further for a day out (living in the back of beyond we don't really have much choice!) but absolutely YANBU if you can afford it, then go. And leave DH at home, so he can't suck the fun out of it.

ToPlanZ · 28/09/2019 11:35

Cant see a voting button but no an hour isn't far at all. Obviously the money is all relative and depends on your personal situation

SnuggyBuggy · 28/09/2019 11:37

It sounds fine, you know if your budget can stretch to £60 and if the DC can cope with an hours drive.

Sn0tnose · 28/09/2019 11:39

There’s no way of telling without knowing what your finances are like (I’m not asking).

If you’re late with the mortgage payment, you need a new cooker and you will struggle to put petrol in the car to get to work, then he’s completely justified.

If all the bills are paid, all expenses covered and there’s plenty of cash left over, then it sounds like a lovely day out.

IceCreamAndCandyfloss · 28/09/2019 11:40

If it’s somewhere they have been really wanting to go then the drive isn’t too long. If they would enjoy something else just as much then I’d go closer and indoors given the weather at the moment.

letsdolunch321 · 28/09/2019 11:40

If you have the money for it and are happy with the journey go.

Life is all about making happy memories, if mardy dh does not want to do that go with the dcs on your own. Have a great day

00100001 · 28/09/2019 11:40

An hours drive is nothing.

£60 quite a lot of money to go somewhere for the sake of it.

Unless you've been wanting to go for ages.

00100001 · 28/09/2019 11:41

And just leave DH behind

0DimSumMum0 · 28/09/2019 11:43

Well we travelled 4.5hrs each way for a day once. Having said that we did set off at 4 in the morning so 1 hr is nothing.

Sirzy · 28/09/2019 11:43

Without knowing your finances it’s hard to say if it’s too much. Don’t forget it’s not just the entry cost to take into count but the travel and food and bits.

Would you be driving?

Cornettoninja · 28/09/2019 11:43

For me the drive time is perfectly fine - we’d never go anywhere if it had to be within an hour of us!

£60 is steep for many people but I don’t think it’s too bad for a decent enjoyable day out. Life isn’t just about the grind and if you can afford it go for it.

FourEyesGood · 28/09/2019 11:43

Surely it depends on your budget? If £60 is your weekly food budget, then a YABU. If you have plenty of disposable income, YANBU.
An hour isn’t too far.

tarheelbaby · 28/09/2019 11:45

I went over the summer with houseguests. Park in the station car park - it is by far the best value since off peak, after 9:30ish, is about £5 for the whole day - and it’s the closest to the castle. The chapel is closed on Sundays so best to go other days of the week. Will Princess Beatrice marry there too?

SeaViewBliss · 28/09/2019 11:46

Unless you live somewhere full of places you can have days out, an hour isn’t that long. Sounds like fun.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 28/09/2019 11:49

Do the children want to go; will it be of interest to them? Does your husband want to go? If not, will you be happy to go alone with your children? Is it worth the outlay?

The drive would be fine for me; I would have no interest in Windsor Castle though. I'm planning Bletchley Park as our next trip, we're all champing at the bit to go.

Original poster
thecatinthetwat · 28/09/2019 11:55

YANBU if you can afford it, then go. And leave DH at home, so he can't suck the fun out of it.

A great idea! Grin

Surely it depends on your budget? If £60 is your weekly food budget, then a YABU. If you have plenty of disposable income, YANBU.

Weekly food budget is about 140 (to give you a rough idea). We don't have plenty of disposable income. But a day out like this - once in say 3-4 months I think is ok.

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thecatinthetwat · 28/09/2019 11:58

Also, I'm happy to do the driving and we'll make up a picnic.

I wonder if this comes down to what you did as a child. DH didn't really used to go on days out with his parents, they just stayed local.

I loved days out as a child to castles and things and want my dc to have that too iyswim.

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LifeIsGoodish · 28/09/2019 12:14

As WC tickets are valid for a year, you could end up having multiple outings, paying only travel costs. So that £60 is good value for money. Also means you're not under pressure to see it all in one go - if something is closed for State reasons, or there's some tupi particularly enjoyed, you can see it again another time.

Your dh is being daft.

Original poster
thecatinthetwat · 28/09/2019 12:16

As WC tickets are valid for a year

Oh that's brilliant - I didn't realise!

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DobbyLovesSocks · 28/09/2019 12:21

My DH used to be like this. More fool me, I went along with it and resented him for it. About 5 years ago i grew a backbone and took to saying, fine we are going without you. He would then see how much fun we had had and be jealous. Now I just organise our days out and he either comes along and enjoys it or I go without him. DC don't miss out cos he's a miserable bugger.

FWIW we live about 40 minutes from legoland and we had annual passes when DS was younger so when DH was working we headed there - think we spent 3/4 weekends there at one point as it was a cheap day out

MouthyHarpy · 28/09/2019 12:41

Spend your £60 on joining the National Trust rather than propping up the Saxe-Gotha-Battenburg benefit scroungers. Then you can visit all sorts of places for free.

73Sunglasslover · 28/09/2019 12:45

It's not to far for many people for a day trip. It's too much if you can't afford it and it's not too much if you can .You pay through the nose for all days out to places like this now.

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