Shitty homes

[madcatladyforever]

AIBU to think that if you have bought a huge investment i.e a house you should take take care of it?
I've moved 300 miles from home with work and I'm renting a bedsit while I look for a house to buy.
Every single one I've looked at is a shit hole. Dirty, not decorated in years, a mess and overgrown garden. I feel so despondent.
I don't want to buy a house I'm going to have to do tons of work on and start from scratch in the garden
My own house was modest but it was nicely painted by me, the garden with a bit of hard work was lovely and it sold in 2 weeks after going on the market. The buyers said it was the nicest house in the price range.
I really don't want to buy some shit hole and spend the next 5 years doing it up and having to deep clean it at my age.
Houses here are much cheaper but just so run down and dirty.
If you had an expensive investment would you not want to maintain and look after it inside and out? I just cannot understand the mentality.
I had a look at what should have been a lovely bungalow today in an area of oupstanding natural beauty owned by a sinice bloke and it would have taken several big skips to remove all the crap from the house and Garden before even starting to refurbish and he wanted top dollar for it.

Filthy is a judgement call. Not everyone calls the same level of shabbiness and muck filth. Not everyone is house-proud. They would rather do other things with whatever time and money they have. Some of us might even secretly laugh at people who spend time every day cleaning. I am no less healthy than people who scrub their house daily and refurbish with each new trend.

Like lots of things people are different.

I would buy a filthy house. 😁 They are often cheaper where I am than clean ones. Literally just the dirt makes a difference in price. Though I've seen just a few dirty ones.

Keep looking. I bought a doer-upper with a hideous bathroom and awful wallpaper, but the house itself is in excellent repair- all walls repointed, central heating working fine, condition of property really good. Decor can be changed. It's the fabric of the property that is important e.g does it have damp.

If they’re cheaper then not all other things are equal then lazy arse

Some of us might even secretly laugh at people who spend time every day cleaning.

You don't have to clean your house every day for it not to be filthy...

No, filthy is an extreme, As is a scrubbed house.

They are not judgement calls to the extent you are projecting. We are not talking a bit messy vs clean and tidy, which I agree are judgement calls

OP, don't buy what you don't like. Problem solved.

I covet that gorgeous piece of wall art (photo 14 in your first link, mariposa ) - not quite sure if it's a wood carving or a "mirror" of sorts, but it's vay vay naice

I'm about to put that fake marble in my bathroom and I'm now worried it won't appeal to mumsnet users should I decide to sell

To me, a house in poor repair would be not replacing roof tiles, or rotten wood, not repointing so walls fall down, damp not being treated properly, things which damage the substance of the house. I would also avoid a hoarder's house (like the bungalow might be) because once you take all the stuff away, you are likely to find damp, mould, damage, even rats etc. There isn't a way to maintain a house if you can't move the possessions.

Beyond that, if you are saving a lot of money by moving, pay the decorators to go in for a month prior to you moving, and stay in the bedsit!

Thank you to those who responded to my message, I really appreciate you took time to reply. I am struggling with many things (housing - even if it's a bit dirty, finances and health/isolation)

Someone suggested starting my own thread, but I have no idea where to start one for thr best help.

I was just really upset because it felt like being judged, despite me doing my best it isn't good enough by other people's standards. I know people say things without thinking, we all do it, I just took it personally when I shouldn't have.

PS OP.

Mine is going on the market very soon, its cheap, and can be cleaned if you fancy a bargain 😏🏠🏨🏡🏰

Have you been looking through my letterbox? I can’t use poverty, illness or ignorance as an excuse.... I’m just a lazy slattern. Judge away.

Buying a new build its not without its problems as already mentioned. Theres been loads on the T.V about new builds being done on the very cheap and not meeting standards.
A few years ago a friend of mines sister had a brand new build and it was like it was falling to bits.One day she came home from work and the side of the house had a large crack down all the way down it and you could see in the house through the gap!.

OP, it sounds like you're angry that your money is not going as far as you'd hoped in your new area, but that's the market.

There's no point in getting angry with people asking for a certain price - if you don't agree with their price and they reject your counter-offer, then keep looking or increase your budget.

There's no point in judging other people's standards by your own as the market in your area is what it is. Plus, the fact that 'The buyers said it was the nicest house in the price range' shows that your standards are higher than average, so you're unlikely to find anything as nice as the house you left. Especially since, as PPs have pointed out, people sell for all sorts of reasons and often because they're too ill/poor busy/stressed to maintain a property and want to downsize/move closer to family, etc.

Jesus Christ what kind of people live on here. It's nothing to do with budget or being judgy at all. It's to do with presenting your home in a way that makes people want to buy it!!! I work full time but still managed to find the time to take 20 car loads of garden crap to the dump. Hire a carpet cleaner and clean all the carpets. Clean and polish everything and make sure the place didn't smell of my cats. Result: it's not a perfect hose, it's on the lower end of budgets, it still needs work doing but it sold in 2 weeks of being on the market.
If I walk into a potential property and know that I'm going to have to hiredirect 5 big skips and industrial cleaners you can keep your disgusting house. I don't want it thank you.
It seems standards are at rock bottom on here. Where is your self respect?

I am going to take a guess here that you don't have many friends, do you with that judgy ass attitude of yours

Where is your self respect? probably on the floor covered in dust

Result: it's not a perfect hose

No, but you said that your buyers said it was the nicest one in the price range, so obviously you made more effort than most. Not everyone puts in that kind of effort, otherwise yours wouldn't have been the nicest, it would just have been average. And not everyone has the same standards as you.

I can see how it's disappointing to imagine the inside of houses and then be confronted by a mess when you view them, but I would ask for more photos up front and try to filter the unsuitable ones out that way.

Either up your budget or buy a "shitty" home and bring it up to your exacting standards. Your choice.

Legally the property has to be emptied of the previous owners stuff....so i dont know what you mean or who told you you will be throwing out their furniture and junk... and needing skips etc. Sure if you are gutting wallpapers, bathroom suits, built in cupboards..but not peoples furniture and junk.

Also, if I'm buying a house, I would expect that the inhabitants wouldn't be included. So once they've moved out, I'm free to clean it as often as I want - it doesn't have to stay as messy as it currently is!

I am massively curious where is OP trying to buy because I just can't believe that every single house is a shithole.🤷

*she viewed

Op which country are you from because i recognise this view point from another region of the world that im familiar with specially with the self respect comment. Just curious and you dont have to say if you dont want to...