To not use a name anymore?

[bespokepaininthearse]

So I am due very very soon and had a few names to choose from when I give birth, and I have found out that someone I don't know but is friends of friends, who lives in the same village has used my favourite name for her child. The name is quite unusual, they will only be a month apart in age, likely go to the same small village school and be in the same class - with the same name.

Aibu to be really put off using this name now? I don't pick names based on how unusual they are but the idea that there will be the same unusual name in the class a bit older, and they seem like a pretty well to do family so I'm worried my child will always be the second best if that makes sense? Please tel me if I am being ridiculous.

If you no longer like the name that's something else but if you still love it and it suits your new baby then use it.

When I was in my final year at my senior school I was one of five girls out of a class of eighteen with the same name - not a village but a very small tow

After I left school I never saw any of those girls again and now it's quite rare that I actually meet anyone with my name.

As pp said school takes up a very few years of a persons life. Your child will grow up and might never see the other with the same name.

I had a very unique name growing up and didn’t meet another person with the same until about mid 20s. Now just about ever third girl approx 10 years younger than me has the same name and I hate it. And they’re never the well to do ones. You could have far worse problems.

Use it, baby isn't going to be in that school for ever.

Also named my DD Olivia, both of us have VERY common names. Haven't met another Olivia so far and I'm in London I kind of wanted us to get lost in the masses

I think it depends how unusual the name is and how small the village is!

Definitely this!
I think some people may not have lived in villages

I think wait and see when your baby is born. I think we chose the 'second' name - that's what my DH tells me, that we were sold on Name 1, but when I'd given birth I said the baby is definitely Name 2. I don't remember - my DC just IS their name now, I can't imagine them being anything else. Ultimately, you will love them whatever you choose.

You can’t guarantee someone else in the school year wont have picked the same name even if you didn’t know of this other family. You say it is unusual but someone in your village has thought of it so it probably isn’t as unusual as you think, so just go with it and live your life

They could be living on the other side of the earth by the time they start school. Use the name.