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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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AIBU to watch a (loud) action film in my own house?

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Sunnyseadays · 25/09/2019 20:52

Neighbour just came over and complained that my film is too loud! It's an action film I was watching with my boys, one is ill and it was a treat. I do find it annoying that in action films the dialogue is usually quiet and mumbly so you have to turn it up to hear what they're saying, then the music and action sequences are loud and crashy.

But I was very surprised to get a knock from my neighbour. He didn't even ask nicely if I could turn it down, he didn't even say hello (or goodbye) just stood there complaining about how loud it was.

AIBU to watch that type of film in a semi detached house? Or is he being U for coming to complain and not even managing to be polite about it?

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FrauHaribo · 25/09/2019 21:32

Of course if the neighbour can hear it, it's too loud!

Do you lot just not watch action films at home then? Of course I do, and did in a flat, but I used the remote to keep the noise down.

Is your TV on the partition wall between the 2 houses? That would make it even worst. More than YABU if the tv is at the opposite end of your house

I think that all unessential noises should be kept to a minimum if you have neighbours, it makes life so much more pleasant for everybody. Who wants to start a noise war?

I would get pissed off if I could hear my own family's movies when I am in another room in my own house frankly, so I hope for your neighbour you turned down the noise.

MissFenella · 25/09/2019 21:34

Only you will know if it was too loud.

Neighbour might be unreasonable. Mine complained about the noise from my flat and got the local authority involved. They told me they would be around recording my noise levels to enable a judgement to be made and I might get an ASBO.
I explained I was quite happy to do that as I working away for 12 months and would be interested to know what noise there was coming from my empty flat.

people are odd.

FrauHaribo · 25/09/2019 21:35

hey are twats for being rude and for even complaining unless its past 11pm at night

what a shame that people think like that - so one is keeping you awake until 11pm, so you start cooking or cleaning loudly at 6am and you end up in a ridiculous noise war?

If you live near other people, you should have basic manners and keep noise to a minimum anyway. 11pm might be the legal limit, but it's awfully late to be noisy.

It's not ridiculous to show a bit of manners and considerations, when the neighbours do the same, it makes such a peaceful life.

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Sunnyseadays · 25/09/2019 21:36

Oooo that's exciting that you can change the settings! I had no idea, so I'll have a look - this thread was worth starting just for that genius suggestion.

I deliberately didn't mention that my neighbour and family are arseholes. They like to tell us off for all sorts of things, but noise especially. We've been told off before for having people round on a Saturday night making noise (told off at 9pm). I didn't want to say in my OP as just wanted genuine opinions on what's normal or acceptable re film watching without biasing people with the history with my arsehole neighbours.

Don't know why some of you think I live in a detached house - I said semi detached in my OP.

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Sunnyseadays · 25/09/2019 21:36

Oh and I forgot to mention in my last post - neighbour's toddler cries and shouts loudly night and day!

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notangelinajolie · 25/09/2019 21:36

It must be loud if it's disturbing your neighbours. Change the settings?

FunOnTheBeach20 · 25/09/2019 21:38

My neighbours have the volume so loud my bedroom floor vibrates with the base. They also acknowledge its loud and apologise, it’s because the speakers are against my wall... great... makes it my problem when we’ve got two sleeping kids.

If they can hear it, it’s too loud. I can’t tell you how stressful it is when next doors music repeatedly wakes me and the baby.

stucknoue · 25/09/2019 21:39

I don't like it if I can here it from another room in my own house so I would be annoyed if I could hear my neighbour (one of the reasons for choosing a detached house)

FrauHaribo · 25/09/2019 21:43

We've been told off before for having people round on a Saturday night making noise (told off at 9pm).

depends what level of noise you are talking about. Either you have horrendous insulation between the 2 semi, or you were too loud. If they can hear you when you just have a normal conversation, it must be unbearable - and your lack of privacy very unpleasant.

neighbour's toddler cries and shouts loudly night and day!
Nothing stops you from mentioning that, kids shouting are not acceptable either.

Fraggling · 25/09/2019 21:45

Different places have different thickness walls.

My old flat you could hear everything. I didn't expect them to sneak around and watch telly rough headphones!
When you live in close proximity to other people there will be some noise. I mean that's the way it goes.

Lweji · 25/09/2019 21:46

(Oh and I forgot to mention in my last post - neighbour's toddler cries and shouts loudly night and day!*

Seriously?

The bastards. If only they could turn it off at will.

Saying it's semi-detached is useless if you don't tell us which side they're on.
And where the TV is.

Quite frankly, any of you could be twats. We couldn't possibly know.
I bet my upstairs neighbour would consider me a twat for complaining repeatedly about their regular and inconsiderate noise. I just can't be arsed to go there, but they are annoying noisy twats and probably don't even realise it.

SudowoodoVoodoo · 25/09/2019 21:48

The sound balance on action films drive me around the bend, mumble, mumble, mumble, KERBANG!!!! Not my thing, but DH enjoys them frequently

If it's an isolated occasion, it's a bit knobby to go around and complain. It's an awkward time of evening, quiet for young children but not adults. Polite ways to make your point are avaliable too.

How much does sound carry through the houses? That gives the best idea about how much the limit is on unobtrusive noise limits.

The trouble with that kind of film is that by the time you've grabbed the remote, the explosion is over and it's back to another 5 minutes of mumbling before the next attempt at blowing out the eardrums.

Singlebutmarried · 25/09/2019 21:48

Which film (this is definitely important)

Demolition man (helicopter at the beginning on surround sound - ace but not massively disturbing)

Rambo (the one in Borneo where he goes apeshit with a claymore) then possibly.

But basically your neighbour has no taste.

Action films rock.

FrauHaribo · 25/09/2019 21:58

or move next to Singlebutmarried instead and invite them around next time to watch the movie with you

Fraggling · 25/09/2019 21:59

Anyone know why they do the mumble mumble CRASH thing in films these days?
Gets on my tits. Just why?

CokeAndCrispsAndDip · 25/09/2019 22:41

Being arseholes aside, semi detached (especially a new build) if awful for noise. My neighbours are mostly nice but he put speakers in the adjoining wall and I could hear it over my TV. Asked nicely if he could move it and he did. Base travels the worst but I can put up with it in the day. Not after kids bedtime though so can understand the neighbour being grumpy. Can you move the TV if on adjoining wall?

PancakeAndKeith · 25/09/2019 22:53

I hate this ‘you can be as noisy as you want before 11pm’ attitude.

Yes it’s less annoying in the middle of the day but I shouldn’t be able to hear your music or tv in my house regardless.

thepeopleversuswork · 25/09/2019 23:21

Being forced to listen to other people's action films is my absolute pet hate and I would also have asked you to turn it down. I hate that thing of long silences followed by loud crashes.

As a general point though, if its that loud enough that he complained then its too bloody loud, regardless of what sort of film it was.

envelopeofpubes · 26/09/2019 06:40

If your tv is wall mounted it does make the sound travel terribly. We lived above someone with a wall mounted tv once and it was hell.

EleanorReally · 26/09/2019 06:42

i would put the subtitles on,
films are so annoying when the speech is quiet but the music is booming.

Legomadx2 · 26/09/2019 06:42

YABU

I am so grateful my neighbours have. Water manners than you.

Legomadx2 · 26/09/2019 06:42

*better manners

Legomadx2 · 26/09/2019 06:47

Well said @PancakeAndKeith

Why should you have to listen p your neighbours' mindless films til 11pm?

And who goes to bed at 11pm if they have children and a decent job they have to be up for?

MrsTriOskvi · 26/09/2019 06:56

It wasn't late so ywnbu at all. We have surround sound, watch loud films and our tv is on the connected wall of the semi detached. I have my home pod up to maximum volume throughout the day too. You can make as much noise as you want up to a certain time. And like someone said, living in certain houses it's bound to happen so sometimes you just have to put up with it

Strawberrycreamsundae · 26/09/2019 06:58

Thank god I haven't get a neighbour like you!
It's not them who's an arsehole, you should be far more considerate of others instead of smugly thinking you're right and everyone else is wrong 😳🙄

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