Hi everyone, I'm hoping to consult the masses so I can make my next move.
A few months back I was invited via a group chat to someone's hen party - they wanted us to pay a few hundred pounds so that the bride could have her hen party at a big hen house somewhere miles and miles away for the weekend.
The problem is that I haven't been invited to this person's wedding and we kind of lost contact in the last few years. To put it into perspective, we probably speak twice a year and, despite fairly close proximity in where we live, she doesn't make the effort so when I stopped making the effort (my mum's been diagnosed with a rare cancer this year so I've been more than a little preoccupied) all contact ceased.
The way I saw it was it was one of three things:
An accidental invite on the head bridesmaid's account, assuming we were still close enough to invite me.
A real invite despite no contact and my wedding invitation would also turn up closer to the wedding.
An invite because they need to make up the numbers financially for the hen house. (Especially as this friend always makes me pay for everything and has a history of squirming their way out of paying our friends back).
The facts remains that I have still had zero contact with the bride and not a wedding invitation so where does your head go on this invite?
Today the head bridesmaid messaged me outside of the group chat where we all had an invite, asking if I am attending. My question to you guys is, what do I say?
Should I be honest and say 'oops I thought this was an accidental invite as I haven't been invited to the wedding or spoken to the bride this year' or do I just say 'sorry but I can't make it' and be done with it?