To think my husband is a jerk.

[WreckedRhonda]

I have lost an important piece of paper, I asked the DCs if they could find it - I offered them a reward if they could to make it seem like fun. I then added that if Daddy found it he'd get the sweets instead.
He then says to me "Can I swap it for another treat instead?" but before I could open my mouth to answer he said "Scratch that I'll keep the sweets"

Obviously I was offended because I thought he meant that sweets were better than sex with me but I laughed it off and said "What do you mean?" to which DH replied "At least I know I'd get the sweets today"

Over the last couple of months DH has been quite forceful about letting me know how much he wants sex, sometimes he barely stops short of just taking it. He's always making out like we don't have any, we literally had sex on Sunday and two days before that and so on.

I just don't get it. AIBU to think he shouldn't keep making comments like that to me? Or should I lighten up?

He's a rapist and you need to leave him so you're safe

Nothing less sexy than a sex pest

This. Do they think that women are turned on by listening to fully grown men whinging about how much they want sex?

Sorry op. Please think carefully about how to proceed. This sounds like a horrible relationship and it sounds as though he raped you. Can you seek advice from a women's organisation? You don't have to do this anymore, you shouldn't be treated this way.

Jesus, how awful. Your husband sounds like a piece of shit. Nobody deserves to have their body violated in that way.

Are you married to my husband @WreckedRhonda? Nothing less sexy than begging for it. "Eff off mate you've got a hand" usually works.

OP I just read your post about what happened on the landing. That is not ok. He raped you. Fucking pig.

Massive type in my post! I meant that's called rape.

@gowgow Have you been raped? It is very common not to actually say no. But it is clear from his apology that he knew she did not want to have sex.

Just... taking... it ....

You mean sex!?
Please don't mean sex

Hi OP I’m sure you are in shock as you are coming to the realisation he is assaulting you.
You can call women’s aid for advice.🌺

@gowgow

How about you just bugger off.
If you don't understand why some women don't say no then there is absolutely no point in explaining it. I hope to God you're never on a jury for a rape trial.

I've just read your other comments... he sounds awful. You are well within your rights to say no...or not be in the mood for as long as you like. (Men also obvs)

For him to apologise after sex some times is just so wrong. Not that he's said sorry but because there is a reason for him too!!
Please rethink your relationship with him.

I'm so sorry for what he is doing to you op. There are lots of organisations that can help you if you feel like you want help. Is it the case you don't say no because then he might do it anyway and then its "really rape"?

That's what he's doing now, regardless of you not verbally saying no. You aren't actively consenting therefore its rape.

@Lulualla I agree!!!!

I was attacked when I was younger... pulled down an alley with a much larger man trying to pull down my underwear and have sex with me, spitting over me and just.. it was awful.

I never once said no. I never once said stop. I didn't know what to do, I froze.

This came up in court and I was questioned why I didn't say "no!" I couldn't believe it.
Yet this animal had also raped a disabled girl and got her pregnant and gang raped another woman by knife point.

He was let off.. to walk the streets again.

But yes.... I should have said no and not been in absolute fear, confusion and hysterics.
Unfortunatly people do just assume "no" and "stop" comes out. It doesn't always.

We are animals, our biological responses to fear is freeze, fight or run. Freezing is a very common response in lots of different kinds of species including humans. It is not something you think about, you just do it, to survive.

I'm so sorry this is happening to you OP.

I really hope you find the strength to leave. X

He raped you! I'm very sorry.

What a revolting man.

Oh OP... I let out an audible gasp when reading about what happened on the landing. This is awful, I'm so sorry your husband is an abuser. I hope you find the strength to leave. He is a vile excuse of a man

I think as well its shocking because he clearly didnt care about you or your pleasure and how he saw you where he pushed you speaks volumes about how he sees you

OP how are you? It must have been hard to take in some of these comments. Are you sure of your next steps yet? Hope you are okay

I send you a hug