I was seeing a guy for around 2 months over the summer, I'm 27, he's 29 if it matters.
We met on tinder (first guy I'd ever met online), first date we arranged to go for drinks then he cancelled so we re arranged to meet for coffee but that morning my daughter was sick so I had to keep her off school so obviously couldn't meet him for coffee.
We then decided he would just come to my house for a coffee when my daughter was better and back to school (I know, risky on my part.)
Anyway he came over and he was lovely, we really hit it off and he ended up staying for 5 hours. Anytime we met up after that it would always just be him coming to my house, me cooking and occasionally him staying over. He never took me out but he would offer to but whenever we had plans to actually go out he would always cancel for one reason or another. He also never spent a penny which isn't a big deal but for example, it was always me buying the dinner and he wouldn't even bring dessert etc.
It did cross my mind that he might have a partner and was keeping me hidden away but I really didn't think that was the case as nothing on social media and I had been to his flat and he had invited me to a wedding.
It also wasn't just sex as we never slept together until the 6th time id met him and it was shite as he was literally trembling with nerves and after the first time, we didn't sleep together every time we saw each other 🤔
One morning after I had stayed at his I asked him if he had a hairbrush which he didn't. He went out to the shops to pick up some coffee and I had given him my bank card to pick me up something. Anyway he came home from the shops and said he had got me a hairbrush, when I checked my online banking later that day, he'd bought the hairbrush with my bank card even though I'd never asked him too.
It's over now and so it doesn't really matter but I just find it peculiar that I was seeing him for 8 weeks yet had not once been out in public with him. And in this time he had asked me to be official and told me he loved me.
That's not normal is it?
This isn't the first time this has happened, I feel like there's a pattern here as a lot of guys I date don't seem to want to take me out. I'm just wondering if I'm doing something wrong? Maybe I don't have very strong boundaries, I don't know.