What age did your DC’s go into their own room? Any tips?

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DS turns 9 months this week and is still in our bedroom. He’s slept through since being about 6 week old and we literally couldn’t ask for a better little sleeper. He’s currently in a next to me crib by my side of the bed... I see a lot of people on my fb putting their DC’s into their own rooms at 3/4/5 months old and it’s making me wonder if i’m having issues ‘letting go’ of DS... the advice is to keep babies in with parents until 6M mind... but at almost 9 months the thought makes me want to cry frankly! I just think I’ll miss him (sad maybe) I’ve got a video monitor but fear I’ll spend the whole nights watching him... and I don’t want him to feel sad or lonely or wonder if I’m coming back... will he?! Myself and DP agree we would have him in with us until he goes to uni (exaggerated) if we could... anyway, I think we are going to give it a go this Friday... partly because I kind of fee I have to as everyone else does or has earlier?! But I also wonder if we now disturb his sleep maybe... last few weeks he’s woken up a few times during the night, nothings bothering him or anything atm and he goes straight back off but I’m wondering if maybe snoring, tossing and turning are disturbing him? DP claims I laugh in my sleep too (creepy I know) so maybe it could be that? Rambling a bit now but what age did you guys put DC in their own room? And any tips I.e night light etc? Thanks, from a nervous ftm!

Agree - just do what you are comfortable with.
ds was in his own room from birth - did not use a monitor, but that was 19 years ago.

22 months because I started disturbing her but she was still cuddled to sleep and —if— when she woke up I got into bed with her.

7m for no.1 and 51/2 for no.2. I was sad for a week but I love the freedom now. I would have kept her in a bit longer but a sickness bug forced our hand and it was much better for the baby to be in her own room away from us vomiting and getting up in the night.

Don't overthink it and don't panic. There's no rule book you have to follow. DD went into her own room at 6 months as was very happy sleeping alone and also because I couldn't fit her cot into our room . Then she was back in with us at 12 months when separation anxiety kicked in, and she suddenly hated the cot. At 2 I moved her back out and into a toddler bed as she was too wriggly. Just make it up as you go along!

My 11 month old is in with me still, but I've just moved her cot next to my bed with the side off. She feeds to sleep and will stay in the cot until I come to bed (timing it for her wake up), but usually ends up next to me after that. She feeds several times in the night (mostly stopped during the day) and it is so much easier than lifting her in and out. I'm a lone parent so have plenty of space in the bed!

I tried to put her in the cot in her room (with me sleeping in there too) and she screamed for two hours (not constantly, but every time I tried to put her down). If I can stop the feeding to sleep I'll try again...

Ds has just gone into his at 6months.. I’d say we all sleep better now, well I’m still a human yoyo but I think that’s just me. We decided to do it now as we won’t have room in our room by the time dc2 arrives in feb/March and I didn’t want to wait till the fireworks started incase he got scared of his room.. I don’t know how that’d work but sudden loud noises, alone, new environment etc seems scary enough.

Ironically he’s slept better after about a week of me looking at single beds, went from up once to 8 times.. who knew you put the dummy back in in your sleep. He’s now right through from whenever he goes in (between 9-11 apparently he’s an owl) to 7ish we have a video monitor and at 7 he’s just chatting and looking around, it’s helpful during the night too as I watch to see if he’s actually awake or not before going in.. and probably waking him up.

Friends dd is still mostly in with her as they waited till nearly 2 and her big girl bed.. it’s a personal choice/space thing. He’d still be in with us if it wasn’t a time vs space thing.

I just put my dd in a cot at the other end of our room at 6 months and I find that hard! She was in a next to me crib until then and I miss her being next to me. Its also a massive faff getting her out of the cot to feed her in the night - breastfed and doesn't sleep through.

I have no idea when I'll feel OK about putting her in her own room!

Mine was in her own room from 6 weeks, when she outgrew the moses basket I just started putting her to sleep in her cot instead.

I think you’re being swayed by the fact you have a “good sleeper” - lots of babies need pitch black and very quiet rooms so they aren’t disturbed, mine included.
We moved LO at about 8 months, I certainly missed him and checked him a lot. Plus he comes in for a cuddle sometimes if he wakes up but he now sleeps beautifully in his own room most of the time, including daytime naps.
You shouldn’t feel pressure because of what others do but the reality is you may not want a toddler in your bedroom - what about privacy with your partner or when you want to relax / read / get dressed in your own space without worrying about waking them up? It’s all cute when they are tiny and snuggly but a massive 2 year old with its foot in your face is a different issue.
No one can tell you when it’s right for you but if you’re looking for personal opinion then my LO and both me and partner sleep MUCH better in separate rooms and he has zero separation anxiety, hes very confident and happy.

Keep him in your room if you want to! Don’t listen to anyone else or what you think you should be doing. Our 4 year old co slept until he was three. We finally set his room up and asked him where he wanted to sleep that night. He chose his room and he’s never come back to our bed since even for cuddles and that makes me rather sad!

Making a rod for your own back is nonsense in my opinion. He sleeps worse now that when he was in with us. I sometimes wish we’d never moved him!

As others have said though, you don’t have to move if you don’t want to. If you’d be happy with a toddler in with you then don’t stress about moving the baby- you’ve got loads of time. If you’d hate it, get the baby used to it because i think trying to move an older baby would be much harder than a 6m old.

I was in the second camp. While some people adore co-sleeping with toddlers, it would my idea of hell. On the odd few occasions my toddler has come into our bed in the night, I can’t sleep and I’ve ended up in her toddler bed.