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What age did your DC’s go into their own room? Any tips?

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TLBftm · 24/09/2019 23:53

DS turns 9 months this week and is still in our bedroom. He’s slept through since being about 6 week old and we literally couldn’t ask for a better little sleeper. He’s currently in a next to me crib by my side of the bed... I see a lot of people on my fb putting their DC’s into their own rooms at 3/4/5 months old and it’s making me wonder if i’m having issues ‘letting go’ of DS... the advice is to keep babies in with parents until 6M mind... but at almost 9 months the thought makes me want to cry frankly! I just think I’ll miss him (sad maybe) I’ve got a video monitor but fear I’ll spend the whole nights watching him... and I don’t want him to feel sad or lonely or wonder if I’m coming back... will he?! Myself and DP agree we would have him in with us until he goes to uni (exaggerated) if we could... anyway, I think we are going to give it a go this Friday... partly because I kind of fee I have to as everyone else does or has earlier?! But I also wonder if we now disturb his sleep maybe... last few weeks he’s woken up a few times during the night, nothings bothering him or anything atm and he goes straight back off but I’m wondering if maybe snoring, tossing and turning are disturbing him? DP claims I laugh in my sleep too (creepy I know) so maybe it could be that? Rambling a bit now but what age did you guys put DC in their own room? And any tips I.e night light etc? Thanks, from a nervous ftm!

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pumkinspicetime · 25/09/2019 02:30

Mine went at 4 months, no guidance about 6 months at that point.
But they were really disturbing me with 4 am singing noises.
If you are happy having dc in your room then why rush to move them out? Some cultures share rooms for much longer.

Dogdogcat · 25/09/2019 04:10

I'm in Canada, Health Canada also recommends 6 months minimum, but 12 months is preferable as it cuts down on risk of SIDS. My DS is still with us at 17 months, but I think he'll be going into his own room when we move in November.

hammeringinmyhead · 25/09/2019 04:37

It's up to you, but be careful with the crib. The Next2Me is only really meant to be used to 6 months as they start pulling up to stand and it's shallow. We had the Tutti Bambini Cozee and DS reached the weight limit of 9kg or 19lb not long after he was 7 months. As far as I know the Next2Me is the same.

hammeringinmyhead · 25/09/2019 04:38

Sorry, to answer the question it was about a week after he turned 6 months for us. He slept about the same, which is to say waking twice for a while. He now wakes once at 11 months. We just had total darkness and Ewan the Dream Sheep Deluxe on sensor.

edgeofheaven · 25/09/2019 04:40

People usually move their babies because continued room sharing is affecting someone’s sleep. If you’re all happy with it then don’t rush.

DamnitCharlie · 25/09/2019 04:58

I moved her at 4 months but cheated as we had a single bed in her room. She had outgrown the Moses basket and we were all waking each other up with little movements, coughing etc and the night feeds. I started putting her down for naps in her cot at first then did it at night and she didn't notice at all. She stopped waking herself up banging the sides of the Moses basket but other than sleep was about the same and I'd usually end up sleeping in her room in the early hours when she woke more.

MaryShelley1818 · 25/09/2019 05:16

22mths and DS is still in my bed.

PhilCornwall1 · 25/09/2019 05:27

Eldest, I can't remember, he's 17 and it was all a blur.

The youngest who is 12, was shipped off to his own room after 2 nights. He was a fidget in the cot and it was a bloody nightmare.

The baby monitor was all that was needed. He survived and went through the night pretty quickly.

TheSandgroper · 25/09/2019 05:32

Straight from hospital, though I was in for 5 days. No space in our room. It was fine. And it was only a few steps.

TapDanceJazzHands · 25/09/2019 05:37

Do what ever you want to! If it works with your baby in with you & they sleep through (very jealous) why would you change it??

My first slept with me until he was 2 & my second will probably go in his room when he turns 6 months.

Beautiful3 · 25/09/2019 05:44

3 months because she didn't physically fit in the noses basket anymore. We couldn't fit the cot into our room either. But it worked out well. She started sleeping through the night in her cot, think because she was more comfortable and quieter (my husband snores!)

Rubyupbeat · 25/09/2019 05:48

Do what you want to do, don't worry about facebook or what others do, keep him in there for as long as you and he want. It's literally not harming any of you.
The snoring or laughing in your sleep (which I do too) wont disturb him, as hes heard it his whole life.
Enjoy, dont stress and go with your heart.

December2019 · 25/09/2019 06:26

It was around 6 months for me too I was sat there one night looking at him in his crib, arms and legs poking out the sides looking really cramped in there so I put him in his room there and then, he's slept through ever since and when he was in our room he would wake 3-4 times at night, although I did have to put a breathing/movement monitor in his room just so I could get some sleep I was still waking when he usually did and going and checking on him (and usually waking him in the process)
So now he sleeps from about 8:30-5:30 and then I put him in bed with me and we snuggle and go back to sleep until about 7
He's just turned 9 months on Monday 💙

December2019 · 25/09/2019 06:30

I would say though now he's in his own cot he's started standing up and cruising around the cot so now I'm not only worrying about everything else a mum worries about but also worrying that he's going to fall and bang his head (which he's done a few times)

joffreyscoffee · 25/09/2019 06:31

Has he not outgrown the next2me at 9 months old? DD is only short but didn't have enough room in our bedside crib by around 7 months.

DD went in her own room at 5 months, we were waking eachother up constantly, she never noticed the difference - she's not a good sleeper anyway.

hubbletelescope · 25/09/2019 08:01

17 months and DC is still in with us. She likes the comfort of being near us and isn't a great sleeper anyway. No plans to change. Do what you feel is right not what you feel you should do.

PrincessHoneysuckle · 25/09/2019 08:08

3 months when he outgrew his moses basket

Artesia · 25/09/2019 08:11

I say this very gently, but do you not think you might be over thinking this a bit. It’s really not such a big deal and definitely not worth getting panicky or upset about. I have 3. Honestly can’t tell you how old any of them were when they went into their own room, but what I can tell you is that whatever you decide won’t make him a bad sleeper, or have any massive effect. Do whatever feels right for you, but honestly don’t waste this much time agonising over it.

Moominfan · 25/09/2019 08:15

Op I had mine in his own room from 4months. My friend put hers in their own room at a year. Both good sleepers. Just do what works for you

Babdoc · 25/09/2019 08:23

15 months, as I was 8 months pregnant and needed her cot the next month for my new baby. I gave DD1 a “big girl’s bed” - a mattress on the floor, so she couldn’t fall out, with all her teddies on it. I showed her it during the day, and made a big thing of it being special. She was thrilled and refused to leave the room for dinner - she was playing on her new bed!
I did it a month early so she didn’t feel she’d been thrown out of my room for the new arrival - the two events were separate.

Goatrider · 25/09/2019 08:29

Mine both slept in cots in their own rooms from birth.

NigesFakeWalkingStick · 25/09/2019 08:29

DS was 8 months I think. He outgrew his Moses by 3/4 months so I put his cot up in our room. But we kept waking each other up, so I invested in the Angelcare monitor and put him in his own room. He was a reliable sleeper from then up until 2.5 - now we have wake ups and a bed hogger

GPatz · 25/09/2019 08:33

DC1 moved at 11 months without any problems.

DC2 is currently five months and bedsharing. I'll probably try her at 12 months.

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TLBftm · 25/09/2019 09:49

Yes I do think I’m over thinking it as someone mentioned... Bring it up to DP numerous times an evening and he will engage then tell me I’m over thinking it and it will all be fine etc etc but unfortunately I’m guilty of over thinking most things in life, especially when it comes to DS.

I actually didn’t know about the weight restriction on the cribs 😬 I will check ours today... it’s s babylo one... but no he hasn’t outgrown it yet, he’s in 75th percentile for length too so maybe these ones are longer? Not sure...

As someone mentioned too about him getting out of it etc... this is a worry too. He sleeps in a sleepbag so is a little more restricted but on a morning as soon as he wakes he will clutch me and begin shuffling into my bed! Which is fine, we then lay and have cuddles in bed, but I do worry what if he does it durning the night and I don’t wake. Although he sleeps through one night he could quite easily wake and get on the move.

Thanks for everyone’s comments, seems very mixed and youve all done what was right for you :)

I think I will still give it a go Friday and just see what happens....

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raviolidreaming · 25/09/2019 09:57

Interesting that the US recommends 12m.... might look into that!

You don't need to tie yourself up in knots or find evidence to justify not moving him. Just do what you are comfortable with.

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