To find life so tedious and hard?

[Dogdogfishdog]

Does anyone else find life really tedious and hard? I'm mid 20s and overwhelmed by how much life is left to go. I'm so bored of the same crap different day. Maybe I'm just grumpy and having a bad week.

Anyone??

It sure can be, yes. Generally it's sometimes better, sometimes worse. It will usually change eventually if you're in a rut, and there may me more you can do to change things than you realise. Consider applying for other jobs, moving, seeking other friends, whatever.

You're not alone op. In fact there's a meme that goes 'why is being alive so expensive? I'm not even enjoying myself. '

Yep. I ask myself every day why can’t I just her normal and find life as easy to get on with as everyone else’s appears to. (I know lots of people do actually struggle) my life isn’t a hard life, so why do I find the basics so hard?

You are not the only one

How is life treating you?
Are you stuck in a bad relationship or do you work hard and have little money? Have you got family with MH or physical problems? Can you pinpoint what is making your life stressful or difficult?

This is so sad OP; I’m in my 50s and would love to be in my 20s again.

What are you finding particularly tedious, is it your job or your relationship or something else?

I was the same in my 20s but before I waffle on, I'm wondering if anything in particular makes you feel like this? If it's working 2 jobs and saving money - OMD - those were the longest days of my life and I cried so often worrying it wouldn't end.

I can safely say that I've never felt like that (quite the opposite, I'm approaching 50 and worrying about how little time I have left). I frequently find life hard, and often stressful but never tedious. I think that's quite worrying. I know iits a cliche but do you think you might be a bit depressed?

I feel the same most days OP

I think it's easier for older people (I'm in my 50's) because we were brought up enjoying cost free stuff. Or inexpensive stuff.

I've had a period of disability and I've sought out things i can do. Even if it's going to a different shopping centre.

You need to identify why you are feeling like you do.

It helps if you live in a City with stuff on offer, of course.

I feel the same op. I just exist and the idea of decades more of life makes me want to cry. I don't know a solution really.

I wonder if this is a common feeling in your 20s because I'm mid 20s and feel exactly the same. Not really sure what I want to do, feel like I'm not really doing anything interesting but not sure how to change it etc...

I mean, a lot of life just is tedious and hard and you have to just get on and do it anyway. But it shouldn't all be like that. There should be moments of great joy and times of relaxation and fun and so on as well.

I think it's difficult to advise you as we don't know what your life's like. Are you a 20 something who's finished a degree and working in a field you've always wanted to, living in a pleasant city apartment with your uni boyfriend. Or are you a single mum with 3 kids on universal credit. My answer would be different for each scenario or indeed for your own if you could explain further.

You need to change things up a bit - I found this used happen to me when I had nothing to look forward to - now i just make sure I always have something fun/interesting planned in the near future !! Whether it's a holiday, night out, concert tickets, festival tickets, theatre - then I don't mind the weeks i'm broke, sitting at home only working & sleeping - the knowing something is coming up makes me happy!

Also if you don't like your job or something then find something else!

I hit rock bottom at 21 when my long term boyfriend left me, i lived at home, felt lost, finished UNI couldn't get a job, lived with my parents - I saved up for a year and moved away to Canada on a working visa for 12 months!

Came back, was at square 1 again - in my parents, looking for a job etc - met my boyfriend (now husband) we were feeling a bit lost - saved up and went backpacking for 6 months and then moved to a different Country on return and started a new life together!

What would make you happy??

I think life is hard for people in their 20s. However, you might be depressed - worth talking to your GP.

@Dogdogfishdog
Are you at work today in a boring job ?
Do you have this feeling as soon as you wake up in the morning ?
Other posts suggest you could be a little depressed.
Could that be the case or is it the end of summer and the onset of winter that is affecting you ?
Do you have money or health worries ?
You don't say if you have a partner or close friend to confide in .
There's a German term for what affects most of the population outside of the so-called Third World - Weltschmertz I think that's how you spell it . A kind of world weariness but it doesn't translate well .
I regularly walk past a sheltered housing unit for older people and enjoy looking at someone's a saying a day flip over that they have placed so it can be seen by passers by .
Yesterday's was "Despite the high cost of living it remains a popular option "
Today's was "The future ain't what it used to be " .
Look up Peggy Lee singing onToutube - " Is that all there is" . It helps to know you are not alone .

I felt like this in my mid 20s too and I left the UK and went travelling (enjoyed it so much that I extended my travels for another year). Now I'm in my late 20s and I feel neither young nor old, I'm back in limbo again.

I'm sorry you feel like this. Yes, life can be hard sometimes. Does anything give you joy? Do the things that used to make you happy not do so any more? Are you sad for a specific reason or worn down by lots of little things? Do you have a sympathetic friend you can talk to?

Is it seasonal? SAD? Dare I mention the run up to Christmas?

I hope you manage to get through this OP as it's sad to feel this way. We all have times when things get us down but hopefully it is fleeting.

If nowt else you can talk to us on here.

Thanks for all replies. Makes me feel less alone. I live in a fun city, have a great family, have travelled, financially ok but don't love what I do. I have nothing to complain about in the grand scheme of things. Except I find being hard alive such hard work. It feels mundane, pointless, groundhog day - like. I wish away my weeks and feel very directionless. I just think is this it?? The darker nights drawing in don't help. Maybe I'm just one of the world's gloomier members.

My son was sad after graduating; struggled to get that fab graduate jobs everyone is promised and broke up with his girlfriend of three years. He lived at home, did shit minimum wage warehouse type jobs, saved his money and went off travelling for a few months.

Came back more enthused, got an entry level job in a big organisation. Job was tedious and boring and he hated it but dug deep. He lived at home and saved his money. Got a promotion within the organisation 250 miles away down in London. Did not know a soul there, lived in a rough hostel for a couple of weeks until he found a flatshare.

Yes he’s skint, it can be tough, but he’s loving his life again with nice friends and colleagues, a renewed ambition for his career and no shortage of interesting experiences to be had.

Sometimes it takes a while to turn things around and you have to keep chipping away at it.

I dont tend to confide in people because my friends are very optimistic and look at me as though I have 2 heads. I also dont like being a burden. Have been depressed in past. I have things to look forward to on my calendar but they dont feel enough.

Sounds like you are drifting a bit OP. It might help to set yourself some goals. Maybe getting some more qualifications or a better job or running 10k or learning to play the piano.

What would make you really happy and how can you get there? What brings you happiness right now and how can you build more of that into your life?

I feel like that sometimes. On paper I have a great life. House, partner and SS who I love to bits, hobbies, family around me.. but then there's just so much stress as well. I'm self employed, work long and unpredictable hours, somehow have to keep on top of everything in the home.. it just seems too hard and monotonous sometimes.

I say this to my partner and he always just tells me that I'm worrying too much. Part of the problem is that he doesn't worry enough! Perhaps if he did, not as much would be left down to me!