To find life so tedious and hard?

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Does anyone else find life really tedious and hard? I'm mid 20s and overwhelmed by how much life is left to go. I'm so bored of the same crap different day. Maybe I'm just grumpy and having a bad week.

I'm mid 20's and I feel the exact same as you.

I find myself constantly wishing time away, which I know is so bad

On a day to day basis, I can't wait to go to bed, just so I can have another day down.

Life is hard. I'm broke and struggling. And I don't even have kids yet. Or a mortgage. I want these things, but cannot envision a time when I will be able to afford it.

I am trying though. Trying to better my career and things like that. But it's just so so so bloody hard!!!

I felt like this at 27 and it was also when my anxiety started. It started to get better when I found a new job as I was bored of the same thing every day. Now I’m 31, have a baby and a new house and I love my life.

I also hate the darker evenings and find myself looking forward to spring again.

Sometimes it's all a bit overwhelming, but not often. You say you've been depressed in the past, do you think you are now?

Wow this thread is an eye opener. Young people really struggle with their mental health nowadays don’t they?

If this is a more lasting feeling than just a bad week then I think you may be suffering from depression, based on your last post.

Agree that you should do an assessment for depression here

What DO you enjoy? When did you last learn a new skill, try a new activity, challenge yourself with a new goal? If you aren’t depressed maybe consider trying some life coaching to find out what does make you happier.

I absolutely agree that some people are programmed to be gloomier than others but it should never cast a shadow over your whole life.

Ffff yes. Me & boys were abandoned by their dad. Finanically and emotionally screwed. All I want to do is study, qualify and support us all, but every corner I'm slammed into a brick wall.

Both my 7 and 3 year old are at home today winding each other up the walls. It is PEEING it down, we all got soaked twice already. 7yo not allowed back to school until tomorrow lunch time as he was sick with one of his migranes yesterday. School policy. 3yo doesn't have any free Nursery hours today. Tomorrow I can take 3yo in the morning, there and back, eldest in the afternoon, there and back, then there and back to pick them up! 2 miles each way on foot. Great! What do single mums do who WORK in these situations and have no help?

I start a course soon and I'm terrified. 1 and a half hours away and could get a call from the school at any time to go and get either child. If they're sick and feverish they have to walk 2 miles home as I don't drive.

Yes life feels impossible. All the time.

In my 30s and I think life is just so materialistic, yet even to have the basics it costs a lot - a decent phone, a social life beyond sitting in friends houses, Wi-Fi to access the essentials of life now I.e. emails and social media, boxsets and subscriptions for music. I could go on. These are what my teenager considers basics! In your 20s your faced with all of that plus then if you drive you need to pay tax and car insurance or public transport if you don't drive - both of which many now rely on for work commutes to get those better jobs! Then add in the fast-fashion of not just clothing but also home products. Washing machines/ cookers etc. Just don't last like they once did.

I think this is the price we pay for technology - it costs money, it doesn't last as long and it gives us too much time to think and compare with everyone else.

I guess the key is to find your own peace away from all of this. Try a break from social media, that often helps me. Bake, craft, walk, do puzzles on paper, meal plan and future plan. Focus on what a good life means to you and how and when you will get there. I also ask myself "what would it take for me to realise that the way things are now are perfect and wish things could back to now?", that usually helps be be more grateful for health, home and family.

OP, you said you don't love what you do. What would you love? Sounds like you need a goal (career or otherwise) to focus on. How do you want things to be? Go from there.

I'm sorry to hear others also struggle. This isn't an unusual feeling for me. I have periods where things are just black. I tried ADs but quickly stopped because I felt so ashamed and dont think I believe in their effectiveness really. I do feel happiness but it is fleeting. I'm mostly down and that's been pretty standard for me since a teenager. I feel very envious of people who can find the joy in everyday life. If there was a button I could press which would make me cease to exist I would press it. Mid 20s feels like enough to have lived.

I have no idea what job I would love which is what has led to me float into various roles although I do have qualifications which I'm just not using.

Yes it's hard going.

Be kind to yourself and don't out yourself last. If you can

I have no idea what job I would love

OP I feel the same as you and similar age. I have absolutely no idea what I'd love to do but know that what I'm doing now isn't it. The thought of doing this until I retire makes me want to curl up and die quite frankly.

I know exactly what you mean in the other things you say as well. I feel quite trapped to be honest. I'm not in the financial position to just up and go travelling tomorrow or quit my job and study for something I enjoy, find a new lower paying one I love etc...

I feel like I have absolutely no options but to just keep going.

I too would happily cease to exist tomorrow if given the choice. Which makes me angry because on paper I have an ok life. My husband is wonderful, I have a nice home, good step kids etc etc but in reality I just feel like I'm floating through.

If someone asked me what was the most exciting thing I'd ever done, I wouldn't know what to say which is quite pathetic really.

Life is relentless. I do the same things every morning. My life is a pattern. That pattern needs to be broke regularly to make me remember who I am. I book theatre trips, nights out, weekends away to try and keep out of the dark place that surfaces if I stay in the pattern too long.

If you are financially solvent, that is a great help when thinking of ways to deal with this. So that's good news.

I see you tried ADs but not sure if you tried therapy, sorry if I've missed that. I think a good therapist could really help you unearth some aspects of life you would find interesting and exciting. Almost like a bit of life coaching, but I'd recommend a properly trained and accredited psychotherapist to explore things with.

What did you enjoy doing between the ages of 9 and 14?

Was there anything you really wanted to do as a kid that you couldn't, that you could try now - music lessons, horse riding, etc?

I think my daughter felt very much like this in her early twenties. In her case a big weed habit seems to have been the main culprit; she was back to her old self once she managed to stop.

As a mum of three kids in their twenties who have gone through downs and managed to come up again, this thread makes me very sad. I hope everyone who is struggling manages to discover their zest for life.

I have had counselling in the past which I found useful for working through my thoughts at the time. I feel like this is an ongoing thing for me that will always be there. You could do all the hobbies in the world but if you don't feel there's a point to your life they won't help.