To think maybe he's too young?

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DS started nursery today. He turned 2 in July. I'm starting to think I've made a mistake starting him at this age. I know lots of children start younger but I feel like we're in between. I stayed with him but he cried as soon as he couldn't see me. He's very shy and wary of new people and generally won't talk to anyone he doesn't know. He won't let anyone pick him up except me and DH. I thought this might do him some good but I don't know if I'm pushing him too much. Should we struggle through or wait til he's a bit older (3 maybe?) and he can understand more? I just don't know what to do for the best. He doesn't have to go, I'm studying at the moment so I'm at home but was going to use the time to study, I can take a few hours in the evening instead though.

Laughing at the poster with twins advising OP to stick at it cos her kids were fine. Well, yes, they had each other there. Most other kids are all alone, with no familiar face at all. So it’s so much harder for them

Actually your assumptions are utterly incorrect. Thanks for laughing at me.

My twins are in different rooms at nursery. One is still in the baby room due to severe developmental delays and dangerous sensory seeking behaviour. They are trying him in the toddler room next week, at the sane time as his twin is moving up to the next room.

And they don’t “have each other” regardless - they are both autistic and don’t interact with each other at all, in any way.

Sorry, Sinkface, your post just got my back up a bit with the “what crap” wording. It was the implication that, because YOUR kids settled into nursery fine no problem that everyone else’s should too. It doesn’t work like that. You above anyone else should realise that there is a wide variety of “normal” behaviour amongst kids that age. Their reactions and needs are all quite different, and that’s ok. It’s what is right for the individual child that is important.

I am glad yours settled into nursery well.

I said “what crap” after quoting this:
If he doesn’t have to go for you work or mental health then don’t send him.

Nursery can be massively beneficial, especially for kids (like mine were) who haven’t really been apart from their parents, but it can take time and adjustment. My response was to the idea that it’s only something you should do if there’s no alternative. Allowing your child to learn that you may go away but will come back is a good thing, as long as it’s done carefully to manage distress.