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Original poster

Arggggghhh

37 replies

Lilylauren98 · 23/09/2019 13:16

AIBU to think this is an unreasonable way to talk to someone?

I have recently been offered a very good job vs where I am now. With great benefits & a much better salary.

Co-worker has asked me:
Am I starting from the bottom to work my way up??

To which I said no this is exactly where I want to be. This isn't the sort of job they give to anyone...

I don't know if she's jealous or what but wouldn't the natural response to be to congratulate someone?

OP posts:
NearlyGranny · 23/09/2019 13:19

Green-eyed monster?

WarshipWarrior · 23/09/2019 13:20

Ignore. Shes jealous. Don't engage with her further.

CardiFree · 23/09/2019 13:24

Yanbu. Even if you were, whatTF has it got to do with her?

NoSauce · 23/09/2019 13:26

What’s the job vs the job you’re doing now?

Bluntness100 · 23/09/2019 13:30

I don't really understand, if it's a great job with better pay, why does she think you're starting at rhe bottom?

Original poster
Lilylauren98 · 23/09/2019 13:43

Thanks all.

We work for a manufacturing company so very much working for the man. She does Admin at the moment, I do IT.

New job is IT but for the police. So as well as a much better salary - free gym, flexi time & more holiday.

OP posts:
HaveeeeYouMetTed · 23/09/2019 13:46

Did she possibly mean are you eventually wanting to end up as an actual police officer rather than doing the office side of the police force?

Whatever she meant, I wouldn't give it much head space. Congratulations & best of luck with the new job Smile

Original poster
Lilylauren98 · 23/09/2019 13:47

I'll just add a bit more about co worker...

Always complaining that she can't lose weight - although every single lunch time she has a full meal out. Has previously made a comment saying 'it's alright for people like you, you don't have to work out.'

I do go the gym several times a week + running. I also don't eat junk - so that helps!!

Also she is a few years older than me & lives at home with parents... I'm about to buy my 2nd house.

OP posts:
dollydaydream114 · 23/09/2019 13:48

She sounds awful and I suspect is a bit envious of you. Congratulations on your new job!

Steviestamborine · 23/09/2019 16:06

Obviously a bit envious of you with your second home, good job and slim figure. Ignore her.

HoofWankingSpangleCunt · 23/09/2019 16:22
Biscuit
Impatienceismyvirtue · 23/09/2019 16:50

After your update I get why she said it. She probably wanted to take you down a peg or two! Do you even hear how judgemental your second message sounded?!

Marzipane · 23/09/2019 16:55

Also she is a few years older than me & lives at home with parents... I'm about to buy my 2nd house.

Biscuit
MadameButterface · 23/09/2019 17:00

It sounds like she asked an honest but clumsily worded question about how much experience you need for your new role

You otoh, going on about what a sad fat loser she is to show us how great you are by comparison, sound like a bit of a cunt tbf

BuildBuildings · 23/09/2019 17:05

Right well I was gonna say she sounds jealous. But I've got no fucking idea why you're bringing her weight into it. If at work you're anything like you come across on here, I'm not surprised she's getting a dig in. Biscuit

MarianaMoatedGrange · 23/09/2019 17:12

You're a real piece of work OP Sad

TokyoSushi · 23/09/2019 17:14

Your second update might go some way to explaining things....

Purplerain16 · 23/09/2019 17:34

If you do IT and she does admin, she probs earns less than you, which means she probably isn't in a position to buy a house, nevermind her 2nd.
As for her weight - that has nothing to do with this, you only mentioned that to make yourself look better.

Also, if you have totally different job roles, it's likely she knows nothing about yours and therefore had a genuine question about whether you're looking to progress within your new company!

You just sound like a knob 😂

hiddenworlds · 23/09/2019 17:53

But lost of people do try to get civilian or PCSO roles with the police in the hope that it will give them a leg up when police roles are being advertised.

Isn't that just what she meant?

Cheeseandwin5 · 23/09/2019 17:53

Have to agree with others, I thought she may have been a bit jealous to start with and she may well be , but your comments about her are just rude.
If you both do different jobs why would she expect your pay to be the same? You know nothing about her life and struggles so having a go at her weight or finances is just hurtful and honestly just nasty.
You sound like you have only come on here to boast.

MarklesBananas · 23/09/2019 18:14

Is your update supposed to get people frothing about how awful you are, because for some reason you'll enjoy it? No sane person could post that and think "hey, this will go well"

LuckyLou7 · 23/09/2019 18:30

What has her weight, her eating habits and her home situation have to do with your new job offer? You sound awful. I bet she's glad you're leaving, the office environment must be toxic, with your superiority complex oozing out of your pores.

RONNIETRIX · 23/09/2019 18:48

I don't see what is wrong with that question? You should of asked her what she meant. To be honest I think sound over sensitive.

Joloupic2019 · 23/09/2019 18:55

You're just rude, and seems you've come online for validation and congratulations from strangers on the Internet.
Her weight has nothing to do with who she is at a person. If your presence in person is the same persona that's coming across in this post I'm not surprised her response.
Get off your high horse

sweetiepie1979 · 23/09/2019 18:57

I’m sure a few of them will be delighted when you leave with that attitude!
No she isn’t jealous of you at all she just knew how to get you wound up it’s so easy with a complex like yours!