AIBU over car DP got us?

[DrivingTat]

Hi, all

I need to know how U you think I am over this.

So this Saturday my DP went to get us a new car (secondhand), I did not go with him as I had plans and was not that interested tbh. He sorted our last one out, which we scrapped last week as was too much to repair (head gasket)... It was a fiesta 54 plate.

So Saturday I went shopping with my friend, which was lovely! Had such a nice day as I had not seen her for awhile. Anyway half way through the day (about 1pm) I get a text from DP. "Got us a car sorted". I texted back without a thought to ask which one. I said "fab babe, we were just talking about you lol". That was it.

I get home about 8pm, feeling v relaxed and happy. So there I am telling DP about my day and he tells me about his. Yes the car I say let's see it!!

I go outside with DP and he points to it! I laughed my head off thinking he was taking the piss. He wasn't.

It's a blue 1989 escort, with one wheel trim and cassette radio. Why?! Just why?!

I don't like it, don't want it. It's my own fault for being so relaxed about buying a car and leaving it up to him, I know that but AIBU to be annoyed?

I have not said anything to him, because I don't know what to say. It's bought, taxed, insured. WWUD? Do I throw a fit and say take it back? Do I yell at him for not first asking to buy such a old car? Do I just live with it and get over it. It's been two days and I still feel so pissed off at him!! And myself.

We share one car, paid for out a joint account. We agreed on a budget, and yes he stuck to it. I really am not a car snob, I really did not think I cared as long as it got me from a-b but clearly I do. I just don't understand why that one. It's a tatty mess. How is it even still running!!!

Omg! Is he a car enthusiast ? Please tell us all how much he paid for it !

Well, he can't take it back, he's brought it. I hope he's a good mechanic. We have several cars in that sort of age bracket and if you can't do the work yourself your in for an expensive time.

😂 keep it and pump it out with furry seats and the like!

Pimp it out*

It may be more valuable than you think. Escorts regularly turn up at Classic Car events.

Think about the good things, no electronics, it’s just about a classic vehicle, cheaper insurance. I had a 1988 escort and lived it

Buying new cars is a pain in the arse. You totally left it to him whilst you went out and had fun. Either you don’t care, don’t go and accept what he has got or you put in the work with him and have a say.

So next time you'll talk about it beforehand and probably go with him, right?

Maybe it's not as bad as you think.

Well I wasn't expecting that, I thought you were going to say he bought a sports car or something ridiculous and family unfriendly but this is somehow just as bad!

How much did he pay for it?

Blimey! Where did he find it??

My OH just came in from the garage (where he's working on a classic Honda) and had a good giggle. He says let DH re-live his youth and you can enjoy driving about in a car that gets second looks for a while.

Seems to be true that you needed to go with him to be fair! Depending on the price he paid as to whether its a good buy or not. Dont know if you can change it for another car maybe ?.If a private sale possibly not ,may be worth a try .look on the bright side better than catching the bus!

I can only guess he was googling for another kind of escort, and has bought this to cover his tracks.

Were you supposed to buying Matchbox cars?

Yes it's a crazy choice as your only family car, but can't believe you just let him go and buy a car without you having any input. As a minimum, I'd expect you to agree some parameters (eg no more than 15 years old, 5 door, boot no smaller than our current car, petrol not diesel, no significant accident damage, nothing engine-wise that needs sorting out immediately, not in a way-out colour) but can't believe you wouldn't also try sitting in it and preferably driving it. I know from experience having my heart set on a particular car that when I actually tried driving it, it wasn't comfortable for me due to the location of the pedals. My DH is car-obsessed and spends hours each week looking at the for sale ads, but I wouldn't let him just buy a car without discussing it with me and, if it was one I would drive, I would agree some (fairly strict) parameters and test drive it before it was bought.

Given you didn't do any of that, I think the best you can do is agree that it will only be kept for eg six months or a year, so he can enjoy it for a bit but you don't have to put up with it for too long. You may find yourself going on a bit of a health kick and walking or cycling everywhere you can for a while!

Oh my...

Blimey. How much did he pay for it?

oh, but sounds quite cool really!

Give it a couple of years and it will be worth something. Not the best idea for a family car though, more suited for a fix up, sell and make a profit. Idiot! Does it even have back seat belts

It may have been cheap to buy, but surely it is going to cost a fortune to tax as its emissions will be really high?

Get some wheeltrims off eBay, clean it, polish it, sell it on.

Slap dp and next time go with him.

YABU Family cars really need to be joint decisions and joint effort. I know it's boring but its just part of adult life that has to be dealt with.

😂 😂 😂 😂 Sounds like something my husband would do. I would be mad but I don't drive so 🤣

Sorry OP, I'm giggling a lot here.

Why would he do that?
Does he have form for this sort of thing?

Did someone pay him to take it off their hands? Do you have enough duct tape to hold it together? Or is is some "much loved car" that will need regular maintenance and replacement parts that you will to search the whole of the internet for because you can't get them anymore in regular garages?