Or is my husband just as much to blame

[redcherry34]

Myself and my husband decided to go to Disneyland with our children for Christmas this year.
I did most of the research and I got a quote from an independent travel agent online that had nothing but great reviews.

I discussed it with my husband and he agreed it was a good price and gave me his credit card to pay the deposit. I had nothing but great communication from the company even when I wanted to add on more in June of this year or clarify something their response was almost immediate.

The final payment was due and I wanted to add on some character meals ect but I started seeing stuff on Facebook about the company that was negative. I made contact with the company twice and received no answers and then heard of how people weren't getting reference numbers and one family arrived to Disneyland to no booking.

I told my husband I wasn't happy to pay the balance as I felt uneasy about this so I started the proceedings for a chargeback and we rebooked again with Disney direct at a slightly more expensive cost. My husband isn't annoyed about this and was very calm when I told him whereas I was upset that we got scammed but he keeps making little digs at me now and when I called him out on it he was like but it is your fault you booked it.

Am I not right in thinking that since I discussed it with him before I booked it and he didn't ask to see the company's page or for any details on the company he's just as responsible? Thanks

From the sounds of it, OP, you did well to get out in time, as a lot of people have actually lost money. Turning up in Disneyland with no booking losing £3k!

Awful. Just tell your DH to stfu or he can spend his time doing the research next time, and if anything at all goes wrong, you can make sly little digs at him.

Hope you get it sorted.
No I don't think he's to blame... he trusted your judgement. It would piss me off if DH was double-checking bookings I'd made.

Not all research is created equal. I’d also never book with an independent because I’d want to know they have the correct legal coverage with abta and atol, proper insurance etc. So for that UABU.

@SistersOfPercy it's rumbled on all week but essentially the insurers GWWM said they used have denied all knowledge. People checking directly with Disney are claiming that Disney are telling them their bookings don't exist. There are suggestions that the business model may have been for GWWM to chance an arm on getting a last minute deal with German / French websites, which worked ok with a handful of customers but they got too big to cope and mistakes started slipping through the net. Time will tell if it's a Northern Rock style panic which kind of caused the company to fail, or a fraudulent "business model."

I think it is your fault, if he double checked everything you did he'd be controlling, he trusted you to make sure it was a legitimate deal. However there is no need for the digs

^I agree. It was you booking and therefore your responsibility for checking everything was legitimate.

Put another way- if you have booked this with friends you wouldn’t say your friends are jointly responsible would you?

He isn’t having a dig out of the blue. He is responding to you going on about how it bothers you. He already said he didn’t care.

If I were him, I’d be annoyed at this. If I don’t care and it’s all sorted, stop going on about it. And certainly don’t be looking to blame me for something I don’t think is a problem in the first place.

I think the responses to this thread depend on whether you are the partner who has to do all the mental load and is really pissed off about it or whether you are the lazy git who contributes nothing but then moans when things aren't as you would like them to be. I'm certainly the former so can totally see where you are coming from OP.

@redcherry34 if you paid using a credit card you may have some protection?

I think he's between a rock and a hard place.

You want him to be responsible cos things almost went wrong - but they didn't - you spotted the issue and took the appropriate steps. Under normal circumstances if he had been double checking your decisions would you not have been annoyed that it felt as though he didn't trust you to get the job done?

As pp have said , all a bit off a non event with everything sorted out - both stop harping on about it and enjoy your holiday.

I think the responses to this thread depend on whether you are the partner who has to do all the mental load and is really pissed off about it or whether you are the lazy git who contributes nothing but then moans when things aren't as you would like them to be. I'm certainly the former so can totally see where you are coming from OP.

I’m more the former (although not usually so pissed off about it) If I had made this error and OH wasn’t pissed off about it, I wouldn’t keep bleating on about it. We probably wouldn’t discuss it beyond “this happened and now it’s fixed”. Why would we need to?

if you paid using a credit card you may have some protection?

Did you read the bit where she said it was sorted?

Where has OP said she "keeps bleating on" about it? She just said that she was upset when it happened and although he was calm at the time, he is now make digs about it. How do you know that is in response to her mentioning it? Perhaps he is the one bringing it up while making digs.

We (now XH and I) had a not dissimilar situation with our mortgage one year. A miscalculation led to an unexpected cost.

I made it very clear that when I was the only person taking responsibility for any admin and decisions, the person not taking anything in couldn't complain about the outcome.

I didn't care that "he wouldn't have made such a stupid mistake". He may not have done but he wasn't prepared to do the work so had to suck up the outcome.

Tell your DH to stop it.