To ask for stories of short marriages to make me feel better?

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Has anyone married and known they've made a mistake? Ive been married 6 months and I know it's not right, but for various reasons I went through with it hoping things would get better and didn't want to let anyone down. I feel totally trapped so hoping people can make me feel better with similar positive ending stories?

Yeah there's nowt wrong with a practise one OP! I was married at 19 and divorced at 20 because I was young and my parents didn't want me to marry him...so I did! Joking aside I've never been as lonely as when I was married the first time. He wasn't a bad man, to be fair, just not MY man. We split, I took the piss out of myself before others got in there first. I've been with my second husband over 20 years and I'm happy as a pig in shit. Bite the bullet OP-maybe he feels the same.

I'm not sure how long my mum and dad were married before I was born but it couldn't have been long because they were 22 and 23 when they had me. They were divorced by the time I was 18 mths old. My mum started to realise that my dads drinking was a problem. I grew up knowing him though because he used to take me to my nan's every week for Sunday dinner. He never remarried, she did and had 4 more children. They never bad mouthed each other and would stop and chat if they bumped into each other. He said it was because they were too young, she blamed his drinking. She came to his funeral with me and shed quite a few tears .

My best mate married a man when she was about 28 and moved with him to Alaska shortly after the marriage (he wasn’t American, but he worked in oil). Within 2 months she discovered he had been having an affair since before their wedding. They were separated within 6 months and divorced within a year. It was horrendous at the time but she met a great guy about 3 years later and they have 2 lovely kids and are very happy. Interestingly her second husband had also married previously for a very short time, but his wife had died of cancer. So they were both in a strange place when they met. I almost forget now about her first marriage, it seems like another life.
A colleague had a similar scenario- husband cheating from early in the marriage, divorced within a year, second husband is amazing and they have 2 lovely boys.

Both women had doubts before the wedding and brushed them under the carpet. It all came right in the end and probably they’d say they had to go through it to end up where they are now.

Good luck.

I called off a wedding when I knew it was wrong. It was horrid to do, I broke his heart but I just knew it was wrong when I found myself think it would be easier if he died. He was a lovely man and that was a dreadful thought.

I don’t blame you at all op. Its best you know now before you have dc.

I’ve recently been to a wedding where all the guests could see that the bride and groom aren’t suited. It was the strangest wedding I’ve ever been to.

I suspect she just wanted a wedding to be the centre of attention, and now she’s had her day most people were giving it a year to 18 months.

The grooms father and the best man were really struggling to say anything flattering about the bride in their speeches, the atmosphere was completely lacking in any joy or happiness and I suspect the celebrating will be done when they split up.