Should I tell my partner I'm pregnant yet?

[Theos5575]

I took my first positive pregnancy test this Tuesday. On a whim as I thought I "felt pregnant". I conceived 3 weeks ago.

This night before this (Mobday) my parents urged me to book the same trip they were doing around the carribean - sounded fun so I did.

So now I'm pretty sure I'm pregnant, I leave in a week for a month cruise with my parents.

Should I tell my partner before I go? I want to share this news with him but he is a huge worrier.. plus I know being so early might not even eventuate to anything as its my first and potential for a miscarriage?

You’re going away for a month at short notice? Is you DH not going with you?

You May need to update travel insurance details

Do you live together? How long have you been together?

I'd say he ought to know. Wouldn't you want his support if a miscarriage does happen?

Was this baby planned?

You’re going away for a month. All being well this pregnancy sticks in which case you may be sick, you won’t be able to eat and drink the same things as usual. There’s a good chance your parents will find out before your partner. Would he be ok with this?

If it were me I’d tell him

Unless you think he's going to react negatively and you're afraid of that, I would tell him straight away. It's his baby too and yes, loss happens but presumably you'd want to him to know if you lost the pregnancy? If you hit him with the fact you had been pregnant and lost it, it could be very hard for him.

If it was me I would, if he finds out you knew and kept it from him he'd be hurt. Was this a planned pregnancy? ( So news he's expecting?). I assume you will be telling your parents ( to explain why you won't be drinking or eating anything you shouldn't be). Wouldn't you tell him anyway if you miscarried? If you don't want to tell him then don't, but do take your folic acid and pregnancy vitamins with you.

Definitely check your travel insurance, as it may need updating. Also I think it's very strange that if you were to miscarry, your partner wouldn't have even known you were pregnant.

I'd be a bit concerned about zika as I'm sure the Caribbean is one of the areas that carries it (although I'm not very clued up on it so will happily be corrected) as a pp said you'll need to update your insurance too.

As for not telling DP, I suppose it depends on if you would want him to know if something did go wrong?

I'd be a bit concerned about zika as I'm sure the Caribbean is one of the areas that carries it

Very good point.

Why wouldn’t you tell him??? That makes no sense to me. He’s your partner - it wouldn’t occur to me not to.

Of course you should tell your partner....

My first thought was zika, as PP also posted.

Why wouldn't you

I also thought Zika. You may want to reconsider the trip depending where you are going. You will also miss scans and may feel sick. You also need to check travel insurance. I would tell him though.

Not somewhere I'd go either if I were pregnant. Your risks contracting the virus though do vary with the country you're visiting, but most of them are still moderate risk for contracting the virus.

Anguilla Moderate Risk Haiti Moderate Risk
Antigua and Barbuda Moderate Risk Jamaica Moderate Risk
Aruba Moderate Risk Martinique Very Low Risk
Bahamas Moderate Risk Montserrat Moderate Risk
Barbados Moderate Risk Saba Moderate Risk
Bonaire Moderate Risk Saint Barthélemy Very Low Risk
British Virgin Islands Moderate Risk Saint Kitts and Nevis Moderate Risk
Cayman Islands Very Low Risk Saint Lucia Moderate Risk
Cuba Moderate Risk Saint Martin Moderate Risk
Curaçao Moderate Risk Saint Vincent and the Grenadines Moderate Risk
Dominica Moderate Risk Sint Eustatius Moderate Risk
Dominican Republic Moderate Risk Sint Maarten Moderate Risk
Grenada Moderate Risk Trinidad and Tobago Moderate Risk
Guadeloupe Very Low Risk Turks and Caicos Islands Moderate Risk

BarbedBloom first scan on NHS is not till 12 weeks- she’s 3 weeks and leaves in a week for a month so will be back at under 10 weeks.

I also thought Zika. I would tell my partner if I was pregnant straight as I knew as I would want them to celebrate the pregnancy as if you would lose the pregnancy and not have told him it will just be a loss and no celebrating the fact you got pregnant.

(lighthearted) what a nice problem to have- do I announce my pregnancy before I go off on a month’s Caribbean cruise?

Congratulations OP.

If you conceived 3 weeks ago, you might be around 5 weeks pregnant (as it’s dated from the first day of the last period).

In terms of practical things, you would normally have a booking in appointment with the midwife around 8 weeks pregnant. Obviously these things vary by area and availability, but you may want to take these into account as well when considering whether to continue with the cruise. Where I am, the first scan is booked by the midwife at booking in and there’s a few weeks wait at least for available slots, so if you book in late then the scan may not happen until later also. Just things to consider.

Others have also mentioned you may be ill, changes to your diet or possibly drinking habits, and travel insurance. Will you have good access to medical attention if needed?

Best wishes (and I appreciate my response had nothing to do with your actual question, sorry!).

they just did a program on not going anywhere whilst pregnant with potntial destination being zika virus.
then when you come home you have to have weeks and weeks incubation period before you even start trying again.
you need to look up the itinerary and id say not go.

OP how have you not thought about Zika?!

I would tell him. I think uf possible I would cancel the cruise too. The first 12 weeks of my pregnancies no way could I have handled boats, buffets etc.

Of course you should tell him?!

I wouldn't be going to the Caribbean in your position. It's not worth the zika risk.

You need medical advice regarding the Zika risk, and very good travel insurance.