For as long as I can remember, I've felt uncomfortable with how my mother talks about people when they are not present. She tells her friends / family about everything other friends / family are doing, planning, struggles they are going through... it can be very personal things. And a lot of analysis and criticising.
I don't like it. It's dressed up as chit chatting, or concern for a friend but really it's just over sharing even bitching. And she does it about me too. All her friends and family know details about my life that really I wouldn't want spoken (things that have gone wrong in my relationship, my miscarriage my DD's troubles with food) about and I've asked her to not use me as conversation but she does (all the time!) and it's now at the point where I feel I can't discuss anything with her, don't want to hear anything about anyone else and I don't enjoy her company at all. I am on edge. She thinks I am unkind, unwelcoming and unfriendly to her. AIBU for no longer wanting a close relationship?