To think it’s rude to give guest back the item they brought?

[KyraLittle]

Friend invited me over for dinner and I asked if she’d like me to bring anything and she said dessert.

Bought us a dessert brownie and we each ate some (along with third friend joining us).

When leaving friend gave me the rest of the brownie as she didn’t want it.

If she didn't want to eat it it would have gone to waste if she kept it.

Not rude in my opinion, just saving food waste.

I can’t see the problem , she probably thought that as you bought it it would be something you like and if she had no intention of using the leftovers it saves waste .

Nah, sounds like she was being nice. Or trying too. You're being sensitive.

I would rather someone sent me away with the rest of it if they didn't want it. I'd be secretly wishing they would!

You’re overthinking it. She probably thought that you wanted your dish back and that she was being nice.

Would you have preferred it being binned instead?

No not rude at imo

Depends, some of us don't want temptation like a dessert brownie in our vicinity . If this was done to my mum she would be doing happy skips to her car with said food! Someone else would be upset, others wouldn't give it another thought. It's not a gift as such, it's food and I have found there is no set rules when it comes to this scenario. My family are happy to send food with guests, though the guests are offered and not forced to take it with them.

YABU

It was kind if anything. I don't eat puddings very often. Nothing to do with diets, temptation etc. I just don't have a sweet tooth. It would have gone to waste in our house.

we do stuff like this, or half what’s left if it’s loads.

Usually it’s a we won’t eat that or we won’t eat all that but it’s offered back incase you would.. there’s nothing worse than wanting extras and not having a bit 😂. I never mean it in a rude way I just don’t want to chuck half a box of profiteroles in the bin but my friends dd n her might fancy a movie n treat for lunch tomorrow... or she wants them with a cuppa later

A friend did this to me with some cakes I had brought to go with a cuppa. She said straightaway that she would prefer if I took them home and we didnt open them . She produced some doughnuts she had bought from the reduced section and pointed out that they already had loads of sugary treats.
I was quite put out really . I did understand that they didnt want any more sweet stuff in the house but it still felt rude.

Not rude at all. Sometimes we go for supper and a few people bring pudding. Inevitably there are lots of leftovers that get taken home at the end of the evening.
Friends might ask to take a slice of cake or scones for their husband, if they’ve popped in for a coffee. If they’ve bought cake then they’ll probably take the rest home.

I would love it if i was given left overs of something lovely. I do look longingly at leftovers when leaving a friends house - which is one reason why I love to host 😂

I would have loved having it back!

Not rude at all

A friend did this to me recently. She gave me back a cake I’d taken to hers, we hadn’t even eaten any of it. Initially I was a bit but then I was just pleased I had a whole cake to eat by myself later...!

My friends and I often do this, I see it as practical rather than rude.

You're overthinking it, don't think it's rude and she was probably trying to be nice. Or stop herself eating the rest of it by herself! I'd be delighted if I was sent home with brownie

At first I was thinking YABU, but actually I’d find it a bit insensitive tbh

I think it’s rude.

Well I’ve just asked my gran to take back the tub of quality street back home with her as I’m not allowed them they’re rank shite

I don't think she was rude, no.

not rude