To be really upset and not sure what to do next

[looondonn]

Help please from all you lovely people who helped me escape abuse

So the ex who abused me and in the end took me to a Room to kill me has been asking fathers 4 justice organisation to contact me re facilitating contact

There is a police investigation at the moment so I tried to explain as nicely as I could to the support worker that there may be a court case etc

He emailed back saying ' well it seems as if he was released without charge, the police are still gathering evidence but that will go nowhere' !!!!

I'm fuming

How dare a man who does not know this say this to me

How dare me minimise all of this

What shall I do
Please help guys
Please 😢😢😢😢😢

Please don't engage with Father's for Justice. Just block them. Otherwise you'll end up in a never ending dialogue with them. Don't give them the satisfaction of a response, these sort of people want to get get a reaction. Report to police and your solicitor.

Especially as it is an ongoing criminal investigation/ court case! No one apart from the police and solicitor should be talking to you about. Do NOT reply to that idiot.

Agree, there is no reason in the world to reply to this nonsense and every reason to think it's bluff and bluster.

Well done for reporting it!

I’d advise ignoring the message and having no contact with them. They don’t have any authority at all. I’ve had some personal experience with them in the past and 1) they aren’t very nice 2) the police and SS do have the measure of them. Don’t engage, forward any messages to the police.

Thinking of you, willing you through this

Thanks again all

So the scum thinks my daughter will just go back to him and he will arrange visits

From the moment she was conceived I have been abused and I almost had a miscarriage

He took a knife to stab me at 38 weeks pregnant
I had to run out of the house half dressed and try to find somewhere to hide

But
Yet

He says he did nothing wrong
And now his support worker is saying the same

Total disgrace
Has knocked me off kilter completely as I am trying to recover from ptsd and hold down a part time job

As alaways many thanks for those who took the time to help me on here ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

You have to keep reminding yourself that this 'support worker' is just some misogynist bloke from f4j who is calling himself that to sound intimidating and official to you. His title has no legal status, he is just a man. What he says has no weight at all. You might as well listen to your local plumber. Just remind yourself every time that these people are nobodies.

Thank you

Was absolutely preteified when I got the email
Making it out that all I have been doing is lying !!!!

The man who emailed you is very stupid or very arrogant (probably both) and is a disgrace. Bear in mind your ex will have told them a very different version of events so they may well believe his shit.
My abusive ex was extremely manipulative and a very convincing liar which is part and parcel of the sociopathic personality.

Scary isn't it!!??
Just disgusting really
But nothing surprises me anymore!!

Thanks again to all who helped

Showed solicitor she was horrified

The scum will need to apply to a local family court for access

It will most likely be supervised after a 6 month anger management programme due to assaulting my daughter when she was tiny
I want him to never step foot near us ever again and just hope the judge could be wise enough to help with this??

So glad at your sol's reaction. Horrified is good. What have they suggested is done about it and how are to handle such things if they occur in the future? Don't answer if you don't want to, if it seems unwise or something - no judgement, I promise.

To completely ignore

That is the best way to deal with a terrible organisation like that
Completely unethical to email someone and accuse them of false allegations when they know nothing of the truth

As for ex
He will he ignored
If he wants he can take me to court and I am so so ready for that piece of shit !!
Not hiding what he did to me any longer or afraid that if I tell someone he actually will go ahead and kill the rest of my family like he said he would