To start a husband appreciation thread?

LunasOrchid · 2019-09-19T08:21:50+00:00

I don't know about you but I feel like there's a lot of negative threads about men/husbands generally on MN and it's made me realise just how lucky I am to have my wonderful DH [smile] Not all men are arseholes and I think a thread praising the good men (husbands, fathers, brothers etc.) in our lives is in order. My husband is a truly nice person. He is incredibly friendly and everyone who meets him would agree. He puts me first and would do anything for me. He does more than his fair share of housework and cooks more than what I do. He's a fantastic father to our DD and actually parents and plays with her. Whenever I need him, he's there and he is truly loyal. He's a kind, genuine, selfless person and I'm truly blessed to call him my husband. ❤

Bessieboo89 · 19/09/2019 09:23

My DH is so intelligent and I really admire that. He tells me things that my brain just can’t comprehend!

TheSky · 19/09/2019 09:24

That's lovely @LunasOrchid - there are LOTS of lovely men out there that's for sure. My DH is also very kind and thoughtful (he's not perfect but then neither am I!) He's certainly one of life's good guys though

custardbear · 19/09/2019 09:25

Mine gets the children ready for school every morning and drops them off so I can go swimming then straight to work

BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 19/09/2019 09:28

To be honest, and great as it is you have a good partner, it seems a bit crazy to start a thread, there are millions of great husbands out there, and there are obviously a lot of ungreat husbands mentioned on MN because people are asking for advise. Our partners SHOULD be nice, we shouldn't have to dedicate a thread to them, it's how life is supposed to be. They should be loyal and kind and caring, because that is what humanity is meant to be all about.

SugarMiceInTheRain · 19/09/2019 09:28

Mine is wonderful, really puts me and our children ahead of himself all the time. He is kind, caring, supportive and more than pulls his weight at home. Don't know what he sees in me!

4yearsnosleep · 19/09/2019 09:30

YANBU

It can seem like all men are bad on here. Mine has some annoying traits, but he's loving, kind, supportive, does all the washing, cooks if he's home before me and is a better parent than I am!

waxmelt · 19/09/2019 09:31

My DH cooks every night, it's not that I can't cook but I just become quite fussy after cooking and then I don't want to eat it

Every Sunday he lets me have a lay in while he gets up with the kids, he does every little thing possible to make my life just that bit easier! Love him!

Theendofmyrope · 19/09/2019 09:33

Not all men are arseholes

Yes. I think most people are fully aware of that. Did it really need a thread?

NoSauce · 19/09/2019 09:35

I think the people with shit husbands are more likely to post about them on MN, the same with crazy MILs. Doesn’t mean they’re all awful. I know you’re not suggesting that though it’s just an observation.

Mine is the best. Calm, kind, funny. Does so much for me and the dc. He’s honestly the best person I know.

swingofthings · 19/09/2019 09:36

Mine not amazing, he is a normal person who sometimes does things I don't understand, other time things that really annoy me, and often does things that are so lovely and make me very happy.

He would say the same about me. We love each other and are united through our ups and downs, all the things we share and agree on, and the differences that are inevitable.

If more couple accepted that life together is not so much about convincing the other that they are right and validating their views and instead accepted that situations are experienced differently by people and what matters is spending our time and energy on understanding, communicating and compromising, they'd be much fewer posts complaining about husbands.

TequilaMockingbird0 · 19/09/2019 09:36

A lovely idea, although I don't agree with any men being seen as great because they're 'hands on' (sexist bollocks) or because they pull their weight at home. This should be the bare minimum in an adult with a partner, children and household.

DH is just a brilliant human, he's beyond kind and thoughtful, the absolute best partner in life I could ever hope for and just an all round incredible husband and father. I couldn't love him any more if I tried. We've only been together 10 years which isn't long to many, but I hope we have many, many more together.

BarbedBloom · 19/09/2019 09:40

Mine is lovely. I don't praise him because he does his fair share, that is just being a decent person, but he does go above and beyond. I have a chronic pain condition and sometimes he works all day when I have to stay home, comes home, does all cleaning and cooking and pampers me. He is always kind and thinks of others a lot and even though he drives me crazy sometimes, I am very lucky.

I dated abusive men before him and I can honestly say he made me believe in love.

smokeytoby · 19/09/2019 09:47

I absolutely adore my partner, he is supportive, helpful, loving and selfless. Recently he has got into the habit of turning up at my work to surprise me on my lunch break with flowers (he works from home), he supports and helps my career progression, he is the funniest person I know and has the most chilled out and calm manner. He is incredibly kind and as I sometimes get stressed easily, he is the clear-headed one I need. He is my gym-buddy, the radiator I sleep next to and the eater of my toast crusts.

Like PP, I have also dated someone abusive before, both physically and emotionally, and I had no idea that I would ever find someone to treat me as perfectly as DP does. I often find myself wondering how I got so lucky and what I did to deserve him, but I am just truly grateful.

Sorry if I sound like I am bragging, he is just the light of my life and no words can do justice for the amount of love I feel for him.

dollydaydream114 · 19/09/2019 10:09

My DP is without a doubt the loveliest, kindest, funniest and most thoughtful man I've ever met. We've been together for 16 years and I can't think of a single time he has ever said or done anything that's hurt me. He does so much for me and he is so appreciative of everything I do for him, too.

ariamontgomery · 19/09/2019 10:09

I’m SO happy you wrote this! I feel like I can’t say anything nice about DH on other threads because people will jump down my throat. I met my husband and from day 1 we both knew this was the real thing - it’s so cringey but it was absolutely love at first sight! We knew from day 1 that we would get married and would openly discuss it without any weirdness as it was so completely obvious to us. We got married just one year later and in Mumsnet timing that’s crazy but like I said, we always knew! Years later we have our beautiful children and are still SO happy together. He is the most amazing, kind, perfect husband and father. He is like mine and my children’s best friend and greatest love - we all adore him and we are just so happy. He puts us before everyone and everything and I actually can’t fault him at all. The worst thing he does is not put his shoes away when he comes in 😂 everything else about him is perfect! We share everything equally - work, cooking, cleaning, childcare - without any conflict or discussion at all, it just happens naturally because we enjoy spending time together and genuinely want to do nice things for each other to make each others life easier. He comes home with little presents for us all the time, he makes plans about how to treat us, he’s just amazing and so sweet. I trust him completely and have absolutely no doubts about him, our relationship or our family. I’ve never been so loved and secure and lucky in my life!

Purplejay · 19/09/2019 10:32

YABU.

People post mainly when they are having problems. No one wants to read ‘Hey my life is great’, especially if they are having a shit time. Facebook is for that (though can be just as annoying).

Frangible · 19/09/2019 10:43

To be honest, and great as it is you have a good partner, it seems a bit crazy to start a thread, there are millions of great husbands out there, and there are obviously a lot of ungreat husbands mentioned on MN because people are asking for advise. Our partners SHOULD be nice, we shouldn't have to dedicate a thread to them, it's how life is supposed to be. They should be loyal and kind and caring, because that is what humanity is meant to be all about.

This, exactly. It's like the people (not exclusively male, either) who bob up annually asking when International MEN'S Day is.

Mumofjustboys · 19/09/2019 10:50

I think its a lovely idea, anybody who doesnt want to read it doeant have to! From reading threads on here a genuinely started to believe that im living in some sort of twilight zone so its nice to see that people are happy.

My DH is genuinely a wonderful human and goes above and beyond for me and not only our own DS but my children from a previous relationship including one with very challenging additional needs. He works tirelessly to bring home enough that i can care for my son FT which has helped him grow and develop as a person. We laugh and have fun every day. When we do have a disagreement its just that, we disagree and move on. I work so hard to make life at home as easy for him as i can. He nevel fails to express or show his appreciation, its like having a personal cheerleader..... He looks pretty sexy when he does the dishwasher too!

SamStephens · 19/09/2019 10:53

I’ve felt such an immense appreciation for my DH of late as I near the end of my pregnancy and he’s truly genuinely excited to become a SAHD so I can go back to work and be the “bread winner” for the family. It doesn’t sound like much but the fact that he’s been downloading apps and reading up on books/articles to manage all three kids at “developmentally appropriate” stages so they don’t feel like they’re missing out from no longer being in daycare is just lovely to see. Especially as he’s a “tradie” and I can guarantee his boss, work mates and friends don’t understand it in the slightest and he’s constantly having to defend me against the “why isn’t your wife doing XYZ..”

Samcro · 19/09/2019 10:54

my dh is my best mate. we have been together for nearly 40 years and I am just glad we are still so good together.

BadLad · 19/09/2019 11:00

He looks pretty sexy when he does the dishwasher too

How on earth does he manage that? Does he put the dishes in in the manner of Tom Cruise in Cocktail?

Or is this him?

m.youtube.com/watch?v=JtJ2xJD4yl8

MegaMonsterMunch · 19/09/2019 11:28

My husband is a lovely human. He cannot do enough for our children and I. I love the look in his eyes when he's talking about his interests. He's so intelligent too. He explains things to me in a way he knows I'll understand. I just love him. He's an avid mumsnetter too. He's just brilliant and very sexy... but don't tell him I've said any of this

UncomfortableTruth · 19/09/2019 11:39

My DH is awesome, handsome, funny, has a work ethic like I've never seen before, a wonderful dad and an all round good man.

But he doesn't see it and that makes me sad. He is constantly doubting himself and saying things like he doesn't 'deserve' me, I could do better etc... He is quite self conscious and it upsets me because he's a wonderful person. I often tell him I wish he could see himself through my eyes for just a day.

He makes mistakes, we argue about who does the dishes some days, I have days where I want to tell him to piss off but I've never had a day where I've truly felt like I made a mistake marrying him. Even after an argument we can laugh at ourselves and move on. I never had that in any other relationship, arguments always went on and on and on. Me and DH just seem to have a bit of a bicker and then we just get on with it.

The thing I like most is that I know he loves me. I don't have to constantly question it or have niggling doubts in my mind like I've done before. He shows it openly, he will happily tell friends how much he does, how happy we are etc... He just loves me and our family so much it radiates off him when he talks about us and I really love that

I might not be overly special to anyone else in the grand scheme of things but to him I know I'm this incredible human being and it's a nice feeling knowing someone looks at you and thinks you're great.

We've been through a lot in the past few years with pregnancy loss and he's been my rock. I probably would have died without him and I haven't been easy to live with during this time but he takes it all in his stride. He sits up at 4am holding me whilst I cry and gets up at 7 for work without complaint.

He's pretty easy on the eye too

FrauHaribo · 19/09/2019 11:49

Not all men are arseholes

Yes. I think most people are fully aware of that. Did it really need a thread?

you might not, but there are plenty of posters who do - or are free to scroll past this thread. Why is it only acceptable to start thread about shit partners, that the only way to be happy is to be single but not about someone making other choices and having a different point of view?

My husband is the person I want to spend all my time with, the first person I tell about anything more or less important. My kids are so lucky to have him as a father. We just click, and agree on most things.
And he's hot, funny and is amazing with things I am crap at.

We share the burden of all the crap life can throw at you. He's the one who will jump in his car in the evening if I run out of chocolate or wine.

I can't understand why some people want to defend their right to be single, there's no rule, live your life as you like, who cares. Just don't try to pretend EVERYBODY is better off following your choices, I would be miserable without my DH.

verticality · 19/09/2019 11:55

I'm on the fence about this.

On the one hand, there are some threads where you hear jaundiced (and sometimes very old-fashioned) views of men. Especially OW/cheating discussions.

On the other, I think this smacks of smugness, and may not actually be supportive of women who are experiencing problems with their partners not pulling their weight around the house, or being less than faithful.

I'm lucky enough to be married to a very supportive guy now. Is it perfect? Absolutely not. We've had shit thrown at us by life, and we've both sometimes made bad choices that have impacted negatively on the other person. We've been faithful to each other, we communicate constantly, and we've worked through each issue as it's arisen. Each of us has taken hits 'for the team'. Overall, we're really happy, but it's a constant process of adaptation and negotiation and renegotiation.