AIBU to be annoyed about a baby name?!

[MintAeroBubbles]

My friend just had a baby and for her whole pregnancy was disappointed she was having a girl so never thought of any baby names! I’m due in Jan with a girl and we chose her name a few weeks ago (via WhatsApp as my husband had a lightbulb moment at work!)

My friend has used this name and I’m really annoyed as she couldn’t be bothered to think of a name for a whole 9 months as it wasn’t a boy and now has chosen the very name I’ve chosen. Yes she didn’t know so it’s totally fluke but I’m hormonal and annoyed!

We aren’t that close as friends and have no common friends so no one would know they have the same name but as we live in the same road they are likely to go to the same school and be in the same class!

YABU

Who needs enemies when they've got 'friends' like you? And don't blame it on being hormonal, many of us struggle with hormones but don't act like a self righteous twat

Do you genuinely believe you are the only person in your street/school that would have your name? There are 6 Emma’s in my daughters school.

I think if baby is starving she should use formula as a top up and pump whilst feeding baby to keep the milk coming in. I had to formula feed for the first few days as I had blood pressure tablets and her sugar levels were too low and I couldnt feed her enough. My hospital did provide formula, and Milton in a tub but not every hospital does and the bottles are quite cheap to buy just to keep in her bag in case. It's rude to ask for an opinion and then totally dismiss it and be rude in the process which it sounds like she was.
The name thing is tricky, I understand your annoyance but either you have to stick with it and explain or choose a different one. I agree with someone up thread who said you may take one look and decide a different name is perfect anyway.
It does sound like you don't like her much so maybe it's best to cut ties now as having newborns means you have less patience for people anyway (as I'm sure you remember from your first).

There are no facilities to sterilise on the post natal wards

Again depends what hospital. At one hospital not only did I have to provide bottles but they insisted on watching me sterilise them before they would release me

@thatguiltyfeeling yours is probably one of the more sensible replies so thank you. I have been thinking about cutting ties as I don’t see her that much and don’t really get much (for want of a better phrase) from the friendship anyway. We have very different opinions on things and are both quite strong minded so never going to see eye to eye.

Thanks for not being rude like some others!

When my firstborn was struggling with the breastfeeding we were not encouraged to introduce formula but given milk from the hospital bank; their take seemed to be that this would facilitate breastfeeding later.

The hospital I had my babies in changed their milk policy after I had my second and you needed to take formula in just in case. They stopped providing it to everyone all the time. I guess they would have some as they wouldn't let a baby go hungry. But they are obviously making cut backs where they can. So its not stupid to say take formula in. Just wanted to say.
Anyway, dont let it bother you too much. You might find a better name or of not just use it.

Just call your baby the name you love.
I know I would have regretted not doing so.
At primary school ds was one of 4 with the same name and even better their surnames were in alphabetical order, ( E F G H)

Just use the name if you still love it when your dd is born (congratulations btw).

Ds1 has a very unusual name, one given to only 7 boys in the UK each year. Nevertheless, there were still 2 of them in his class at primary. Other than that, we've only ever met another 1 and he's now 14.

Maybe you could find a different spelling of the name or use it as a middle name instead?

This woman is not going to be a life long friend by the sounds of things so use the name. Most people who change their child's name having thought they had pick one will say they prefer the new choice, however there will still be some people who regret not sticking to plan A.