AIBU to be annoyed about a baby name?!

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My friend just had a baby and for her whole pregnancy was disappointed she was having a girl so never thought of any baby names! I’m due in Jan with a girl and we chose her name a few weeks ago (via WhatsApp as my husband had a lightbulb moment at work!)

My friend has used this name and I’m really annoyed as she couldn’t be bothered to think of a name for a whole 9 months as it wasn’t a boy and now has chosen the very name I’ve chosen. Yes she didn’t know so it’s totally fluke but I’m hormonal and annoyed!

We aren’t that close as friends and have no common friends so no one would know they have the same name but as we live in the same road they are likely to go to the same school and be in the same class!

Obviously YABU and also obviously you don’t like her so it shouldn’t be an issue.

It’s annoying, but it’s one of those things. She didn’t do it on purpose.

Very unreasonable. So what if it took her 9 months to think of a name?

You daft thing, OP, don’t be so precious thinking your baby has to be the only one with that name! My Nan and her own SISTER called their kids the exact same name. So two first cousins with the same name. Sounds odd when I think I about it but was just normal to us growing up. In the wider family when referring to one of them they just used their surname as well to describe which one they were talking about.

So I think you’re safe to use the name an acquaintance uses for her child!

No-one owns a name, how silly!

Catarpillars: HOW is it annoying?

For the record I do know I’m being unreasonable! I’m not that deluded! No one owns a name, also obvious. Surely everyone wants their child to have a unique name and it clearly never happens as there are only a certain amount of names in this world unless I name my daughter Plantpot! It’s just disappointing!

No advice but your post reminded me if this

@NavyBlueHue

I love this!

Yabu about the whole thing

Just because she asks for opinions doesnt mean she must listen and do exactly what you given her as an opinion.

I get why your annoyed but she didn't know She will think you've copied her though which will be even more annoying.

You sound so judgemental OP. Have a world with yourself.

You're not your

World?? Wtf. Word obviously.

FFS grow up.

Its a name.

@PrincessHoneysuckle think you’ve hit the nail on the head! That’s what’s annoying me the most, that she will think I’ve copied her. I’m sure by January it will all be a blur and I’ll have a different name chosen anyway

@CurlyhairedAssassin

It’s annoying for the OP as she’d picked out a name she liked and now she may feel she has to rethink or her friend may think she’s copied her, which isn’t the case.

So she can be quietly annoyed to herself, but she can’t say anything to her friend IYSWIM.

@CurlyhairedAssassin exactly and I’d never say anything to her at all. It’s not like I’m going to text her and now say it’s an awful name to put her off! I’m not going on all guns blazing! That’s just ridiculous! Just quietly annoyed and moving on!

DH and I couldn't think of a name for our baby and after a week they still didn't have a name. We had a lightbulb moment of "yes!! That's the name!!" Then when we told people the name, we found out my cousin had already intended on using that name. Then a guy DH works with had a baby the following month and used that name too.

It frustrated me for a moment because I wanted an unusual name but the one we chose isn't unusual but it suits DC so much I can't think of calling them anything else so I quickly got over it.

Now DC is at nursery school there are 2 other kids with the same name (and different sex's too) so I guess it's more popular than I wanted.

Names are a funny thing, people get weirdly protective about it which I completely get but also know it's irrational.

Anyway, if you are thinking of Sarah (for example) you may give birth and think "oh no she's not a Sarah" like my DSIL did. Had everyone calling the baby one thing during pregnancy then ended up using a different name

Oh don’t be so silly!

Took me ages to pick a name for my boy, then the only person I knew who was pregnant (on Facebook but mutual friends), gave birth early and had exactly the same first name and middle name we had picked!! The first name isn't in the top 100 so not exactly a common name. There was a link back to the person... but I think just coincidence. I wasn't annoyed just a bit surprised and a bit gutted!!

Anyway we kept the first name and changed the middle name. I kinda prefer our name now.

Taking formula just incase is ridiculous advice.

Do you say “buy a bus pass just incase” when someone learns to drive or do you get them an expert to teach them and guide them?

Use the name, one of you will likely love before they start school.

That’s great you prefer your name @

I think you’re right, I’m just a bit gutted, not actually annoyed. Think I was initially annoyed this morning but it’s kind of worn off and gone to disappointment. I feel like it would look like I’m copying her which I’m not so think it’s best for everyone to chose something different. After all, she’ll be equally annoyed/disappointed/gutted/whatever word everyone agrees on

@Thehop it’s not ridiculous, it’s what I was told at my hospital. As someone else already pointed out each hospital is different. Your analogy is ridiculous

Having a rant about a woman who has just given birth because they chose a name they didn’t know you even liked and they didn’t take your unsolicited advice , hope she sees sense and bins you off . Then you can use your name .

4 babies and I never took formula ‘just in case’.

Our health authority provides sterile single feed bottles and formula in case needed. There are no facilities to sterilise on the post natal wards.