Secret McDonalds with ex

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Don't want to drip feed!!
Me and DP have a DD together and he has two DC from a previous relationship.

Me and Ex do not get on, neither does he and ex and contact has always been through Ex's mum/nan. Ex and her Partner has split up and now all of a sudden she is on the phone to DP constantly about something or other, always on No Caller ID (I don't know why?). Fair enough, they have children together, but just very strange as this has never been the situation, even before I met DP.

Anyway... I have just had a new car for my DD it is a disability car, a lot newer and shinier than DP's car. DP caused a shit storm today by taking the car out leaving me to walk to DD nursery to pick her up and get a taxi home as I didn't have a car seat to use his car and pushchair was in my boot. I thought how weird why does he want the new car so much today?

Constant phone calls and arguing and then all of a sudden... nothing. For about an hour.

Fast forward to tonight, he comes home and I notice he left the lights on, so I took the keys and turned the lights off, then I notice a pretty large order for a McDonald's, on the back of a letter addressed to Ex with her handwriting.

Now I am shaking with anger and feel pretty deceived. I haven't said anything to him and I am pretty tempted to pack mine and DD things and move back to my mothers.

AIBU?

@Alicewond as I said in the OP, me and ex don't get on. Don't need to sugar coat that. And please tell me how you came to conclusion I don't like his kids? They live with us half the week and I provide just as much for them as I do for my own child, so I'm a bit confused about that tbh.

He sounds like a prize twat, get rid immediately.

Also, do you own the house? If so do not move out! If not, then can you afford it alone? Or is it easier to move somewhere else and start over? If he's going to difficult to get out of the house because the lease is in joint names it's probably easier to get your name off the lease and run.

We rent our home together and I know that he won't leave so me leaving is the only option. DD has physio in a few hours at home so once that's done and dusted I am leaving.

This morning he rushed out to the car to "get his gym stuff" which I had already seen in the hall way. He had obviously gone to get the paper before I'd seen it. I bet he's shitting it that it isn't there!

Are you sure he didn`t leave the car lights on on purpose so you could find the receipt ?.
Either way he is a twat.

You deserve better op.

@KUGA I wish he was that clever!

HAHAHAHAHA, well you know the dope.

I’d be more concerned that he was a twat and used the car that you should have been freely able to use for to get your child to nursery. The car might be newer and shiner than his but technically you don’t own the car right? (I’m not sure how the disability car thing works despite having two with disabilities myself?) but he really shouldn’t have took it whilst he knew you needed to get her to nursery!! He sounds like an ass.

I’m a bit confused by the McDonald’s thing. It’s a bit weird why his ex would do that .. how long have the been split up? How long you been together? Do they still have feelings?

I have a friends who’s been with her partner for years now. He has a child with his ex and she constantly rings him because he’s scared of the ex and what she’s capable of she lets her get away with it and runs around after her. So maybe it’s her not your partner but he’s keeping the peace?

No you DO not have to leave,

Get a lock Smith to change the locks

Go to a solicitor

And pack a bag for him, toss it out the window when he gets home.

Send him an EMAIL to advise what you’ve found and why your leaving him.

Do not communicate with him besides from email

Again DO NOT leave the house that your little girl calls home

See a solicitor, get your paperwork in order. And spare car key...

Poodles she can't do that if they're both on the lease. He has as much legal right to the property as she does unfortunately.

A solicitor will tell her the same thing.

Go to your Mum's OP. By the sound of it he won't be able to afford to keep the house alone anyway.

Better off out of it. Has your Mum got a spare room? Is it far from nursery?

The purpose of a mobility car is to use for the benefit of the person with a disability. He shouldn't be using the car if it's not to the benefit of your DD anyway.

They are RENTING. Another reason she can't change the locks. It's not that the OP has put money on a deposit which she is going to lose, or money into a mortgage BUT she must have contributed to the rental's deposit. I would personally not care less if I could live for free at my mum's seeing what he is like. How can you take a disabled child's car???

I’m a bit confused by the McDonald’s thing. It’s a bit weird why his ex would do that .. how long have the been split up? How long you been together? Do they still have feelings?

The OP's partner also wants to buy the ex a car...or rather GIVE his ex the OP's old car and he says he'll pay OP back weekly. He's probably been meeting up with his ex. The McDonald's thing was just proof of that. Either way he's an arsehole.

Is your partner a named driver for your dd's Motability car? Because you MUST be named and vetted to drive that car - whether you think you're fully insured to drive another vehicle or not.

I rang my ll and requested a tenancy in my name only and got one days later.
Told dh to get his stuff out and he did.

Windy really? Did they ask why though? I didn't think LLs could just throw someone off a lease like that...

I said we had split and he had moved out.
Wasn't an issue. Also ended the tenancy after 2 years not 3 as had chance to move areas. Some ll are OK!!

Windy but had he moved out? If OP's partner won't...and if he tells the LL that he won't...then she can't get him removed just like that.

He went the day I told him to. Who's name are the utility bills in op?

Good for you op

How are you OP? It al sounds very dodgy x

Have you made it to your mum's OP? Hope you are alright

Windy I think OP said she thought hers would not leave easily.