I've name changed because I think someone might recognise him or me from this...
Friends and colleagues with a bloke 5 years younger than me. Discovered a while back he liked me, I was flattered and liked him too...and we'd been flirting a while but it never came to anything as either he or I were not single. Ashamed to say I liked him through my marriage and when it ended we had talked a bit about how much we liked each other, which is partly what prompted the end of the marriage but it was more the realisation that it had come to an end, not because of it.
Now we both are single (a good while, because he wasn't for ages)
I have 2 children.
We've kissed and it was amazing but I don't know if that was just because we've been dancing around each other for so long, it's built up.
Anyway....pros are: he's great with the kids, met them a few times, likes children. Would like his own. But that couldn't happen with me, I'm in my 40s.
He's hot.
We have amazing chemistry. Like it's almost unbearable being in the same room. We can't keep our hands off each other. I've never felt anything like it..
He's creative and has lots of interests of his own
He's really really into me. He's made that very clear and said he wants s long term relationship if it was something I wanted.
He's kind, thoughtful, and he's been a gentleman about not pushing me into a decision.
Did I mention hot?
Cons
He's a serial flirt. Flirted with me for years, even when with someone.
He's in a band so travels a lot and sporadic money
Lives like a teenager, drinks a lot, smokes weed. Not necessarily things I dislike, or haven't liked in the past, but I've outgrown it a bit. House is s mess, he's got s housemate, although it's his house...just would feel like a massive step back..
We work together
He's got issues...stuff that happened when he was a teenager.
My ex would think something had happened during our marriage, because he knew he fancied me, we talked about it. Actually think my colleagues would too.
He wants kids and that isn't going to happen.
He's still on dating apps, although half-heartedly I think, he's told me his dating woes, how he wants to settle down.
He's had relationships with both men and women, I'm not sure he's scratched the itch with men, don't know if he's be curious later on. It doesn't bother me but I just don't know..
He's quite arrogant, thinks he's a bit of a rock star. He's not. But actually doesn't mind me telling him that and taking him down a peg..
This is ridiculous I know but one half is saying go for it, he really is hot and we already just get on so well, the sex would be amazing, as far as I can tell..could just be fun but not sure it's worth the risk..also I think I have quite deep feelings for him and he seems to have for me, so it could get quite serious quite quickly, not sure if that's a good idea either. just don't know if it's worth the risk. We work together quite closely so would be a disaster if it went tits up.