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Original poster

To not answer the door during the day if I'm not expecting anyone

63 replies

InkedGreen · 17/09/2019 15:29

Anyone else not answer the door if they're alone at home and not expecting anyone?

There was someone that knocked twice then sat outside in their car for 20 mins.

My house is for sale, but the sign is down and been marked as sold for 2 months now.

Should I have answered it? They didn't post a note through the door or anything so I didn't think it was important 🤷‍♀️

OP posts:
hormonesorDHbeingadick · 17/09/2019 15:30

Why didn’t you answer it? You obviously had enough time to watch them for 20 mins.

strawberryslushy · 17/09/2019 15:30

Well I don’t... but I have Anxiety. If I suspect might be a parcel or a signature delivery for a letter I will open... I get a bit scared tbh

Finfintytint · 17/09/2019 15:30

It’s a mumsnet thing not answering the door. If you are not six years old and home alone why wouldn’t you?

EC22 · 17/09/2019 15:31

Weird.

thaegumathteth · 17/09/2019 15:32

I swear nobody does this except people on Mumsnet

Grafittiqueen · 17/09/2019 15:33

YABVU

cees · 17/09/2019 15:34

Private numbers and cold callers are not welcomed or answered here. Yanbu

Sparklingbrook · 17/09/2019 15:34

YABU.

Nousernameforme · 17/09/2019 15:34

I used to be like this due to anxiety but i pushed through it and it doesnt bother me anymore. Why dont you want to answer op

missmouse101 · 17/09/2019 15:35

I answer my door if I'm home. Then you know, rather than guessing, who it might be and why they are calling.

MaHeidsGouping · 17/09/2019 15:35

I answer, too nosey not too. I clean peoples houses and will answer their door too.

The only time I haven't answered my door is when I was home alone with a toddler and newborn, my home was a total shit hole and I would have been horrified if it was a visitor.

Durgasarrow · 17/09/2019 15:35

You are not being unreasonable. Your life, your time.

Roozy123 · 17/09/2019 15:36

I never answer my door. I don't expect visitors to just rock up at my door, If any family is visiting which barely happens they'll txt or ring earlier in the day.

If i answer it's going to be someone telling me to come to their church, change my gas company or some sort of charity.
Yanbu

Original poster
InkedGreen · 17/09/2019 15:37

If I had of known they would sit outside for 20 mins I would have done. But I'm at home working, don't really want the disruptions and usually regret answering it

OP posts:
orchid1234 · 17/09/2019 15:37

Yanbu! 9/10 it's someone trying to convert you or something else equally annoying.

Sparklingbrook · 17/09/2019 15:38

How does this work when you have DC? Do their friends have to make an appointment 24 hours in advance?

keepingbees · 17/09/2019 15:39

I don't always answer unless I'm expecting someone or a parcel, but that's because we get loads of cold callers and religious groups coming round our road on a daily basis and I can't be bothered with it.

berlinbabylon · 17/09/2019 15:40

Well the DC can open the door to their friends, can't they? Anyway they have mobiles, so no doubt know that they're coming.

YANBU OP, I don't answer the door to cold callers either.

TrendyNorthLondonTeen · 17/09/2019 15:41

You must be new here.

Freddiefox · 17/09/2019 15:42

I think it’s worse not answering, you end up spending ages worrying would it was

Sparklingbrook · 17/09/2019 15:43

I answer the door to my DC's friends when they call round unexpectedly, I didn't realise I was doing it wrong.

DH and the DC order loads of stuff online and they hardly ever tell me so I think door answering is probably for the best here in any case.

Thehouseintheforest · 17/09/2019 15:44

Just weird and agree .. only on MN !
Do you all live in some crazy high crime area.

So far today I have answered the door to a neighbour wondering if I want any shopping (we are miles from nearest shop) . To another neighbour who was returning a borrowed screwdriver, an amazon delivery and my brother popping in on the way home.. none were planning on kidnap or blowing me away on the doorstep.

bedunkalilt · 17/09/2019 15:44

I thought I was just weird until I found out MN is full of people who also don’t answer the door, there are plenty of us about and apparently we’re the types to come on here Grin

So I say YANBU, but I understand that other people think it’s odd. I don’t answer my phone every time it rings either... I don’t feel beholden to other people’s requests to engage with me unexpectedly, most especially when I don’t even know who they are!

If it was important, people would leave a note or a voicemail. Often with cold calls this doesn’t happen, precisely because it isn’t important.

The last time I answered the door to a cold caller (a couple of months ago, I thought it was a delivery I was expecting), I had someone trying to sell me something yet insist they weren’t selling anything, who assumed I had no clue what they were on about so basically lied to me, and refused to get to the point despite me asking them to do so repeatedly - I happened to be really ill that day, which I told them, so wasn’t too keen to stand on the doorstep for ages. But they left rather sharpish once I questioned the veracity of their claims, pointing out that what they were saying wasn’t actually how things worked... all in all, neither of us benefited from this exchange!

Answering the door is overrated Grin

Sparklingbrook · 17/09/2019 15:46

I have one of these. it works a treat.

To not answer the door during the day if I'm not expecting anyone
PooWillyBumBum · 17/09/2019 15:49

I don’t answer if working from home. Usually parcel for neighbour, political party rep or jehovas witnesses. Unless I’m waiting for a package I don’t answer.

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